Term
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
A. Using Coercion and Threats
1. Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her
2. Threatening to leave her, to commit suicide, to report her to welfare
3. Making her drop charges
4. Making her do illegal things |
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Definition
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
A. Using C_____ and T_____
1. M_____ and/or c_____ out t____ to do something to ____ her
2. Th_____ to l_____ her, to c_____ s_____, to r_____ her to w_____
3. Making her d_____ c_____
4. Making her do i_____ t_____ |
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Term
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
B. Using Intimidation
1. Making her afraid by using looks, actions, and gestures
2. Smashing things
3. Destroying her property
4. Abusing pets
5. Displaying weapons |
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Definition
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
B. U_____ I_____
1. Making her a_____ by using l_____, a_____, and g_____
2. S_____ t_____
3. De_____ her p_____
4. A_____ p_____
5. D_____ w_____ |
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Term
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
C. Using Emotional Abuse
1. Putting her down
2. Making her feel bad about herself
3. Calling her names
4. Making her think she's crazy
5. Playing mind games
6. Humiliating her
7. Making her feel guilty |
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Definition
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
C. U_____ E_____ A_____
1. P_____ her d_____
2. M_____ her f_____ b_____ a_____ herself
3. C_____ her n_____
4. M_____ her t_____ she's c_____
5. P_____ m_____ g_____
6. H_____ her
7. M_____ her f_____ g_____ |
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Term
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
D.Using Isolation
1. Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, where she goes
2. Limiting her outside involvement
3. Using jealousy to justify actions |
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Definition
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
D.U_____ I_____
1. Con_____ what she d_____, w_____ she s_____ and t_____ to, what she r_____, where she g_____
2. L_____ her o_____ in_____
3. U_____ j_____ to j_____ ac_____ |
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Term
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
E. Minimising, Denying and Blaming
1. Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously
2. Saying the abuse didn't happen
3. Shifting responsibility for abusive behaviour
4. Saying she caused it |
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Definition
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
E. M_____, D_____ and Bl_____
1. Making l_____ of the ab_____ and not taking her c_____ about it ser_____
2. S_____ the a_____ didn't ha_____
3. Sh_____ res_____ for ab_____ beh_____
4. S_____ she c_____ it |
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Term
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
F. Using the Children
1. Making her feel guilty about the children
2. Using the children to relay messages
3. Using visitations to harass her
4. Threatening to take away the children |
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Definition
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
F. U_____ the C_____
1. M_____ her f_____ gu_____ about the ch_____
2. U_____ the ch_____ to re_____ me_____
3. U_____ vis_____ to h_____ her
4. Th_____ to t_____ a_____ the children |
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Term
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
G. Using Male Privilege
1. Treating her like a servant
2. Making all the big decisions
3. Acting like the 'master of the castle'
4. Being the one to define mens and womens roles |
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Definition
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
G. Us_____ M_____ Pr_____
1. T_____ her like a s_____
2. Ma_____ all the b_____ de_____
3. A_____ like the 'm_____ of the c_____'
4. Be_____ the one to d_____ m_____ and w_____ ro_____ |
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Term
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
H. Using Economic Abuse
1. Preventing her from getting or keeping a job
2. Making her ask for money
3. Giving her an allowance
4. Taking her money
5. Not letting her know about or have access to family income. |
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Definition
Power & Control - Physical & Sexual Violence
H. U_____ E_____c A_____
1. Pr_____ her from g_____ or ke_____ a j_____
2. Ma_____ her ask for m_____
3. G_____ her an al_____
4. T_____ her m_____
5. Not le_____ her k_____ about or have ac_____ to fa_____ in_____. |
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Term
Equality - Non-violence
A. Negotiation and Fairness
1. Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict
2. Accepting change
3. Being willing to compromise |
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Definition
Equality - Non-violence
A. Ne_____ and Fa_____
1. Se_____ mu_____ sat_____ res_____ to co_____
2. Ac_____ ch_____
3. B_____ wi_____ to co_____ |
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Term
Equality - Non-violence
B. Non-threatening Behaviour
1. Talking and acting so that she feels safe and comfortable expressing herself and doing things |
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Definition
Equality - Non-violence
B. Non-th_____ Be_____
1. T_____ and ac_____ so that she f_____ s_____ and co_____ ex_____ her_____ and do_____ things |
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Term
Equality - Non-violence
C. Respect
1. Listening to her non-judgmentally
2. Being emotionally affirming and understanding
3. Valuing opinions |
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Definition
Equality - Non-violence
C. R_____
1. Li_____ to her non-j_____
2. Being em_____ af_____ and un_____
3. Va_____ op_____ |
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Term
Equality - Non-violence
D. Trust and Support
1. Supporting her goals in life
2. Respecting her right to her own feelings, friends, activities and opinions |
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Definition
Equality - Non-violence
D. T_____ and S_____
1. S_____ her g_____ in l_____
2. Re_____ her r_____ to her own f_____, fr_____, ac_____ and op_____ |
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Term
Equality - Non-violence
E. Honesty and Accountability
1. Accepting responsibility for self
2. Acknowledging past use of violence
3. Admitting being wrong
4. Communicating openly and truthfully |
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Definition
Equality - Non-violence
E. H_____ and Ac_____
1. Ac_____ res_____ for s_____
2. Ac_____ p_____ use of vi_____
3. Ad_____ being w_____
4. Co_____ op_____ and tr_____ |
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Term
Equality - Non-violence
F. Responsible Parenting
1. Sharing parental responsibilities
2. Being a positive non-violent role model for the children |
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Definition
Equality - Non-violence
F. Re_____ Pa_____
1. Sh_____ pa_____ res_____
2. B_____ a pos_____ non-vi_____ ro_____ mo_____ for the chil_____ |
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Term
Equality - Non-violence
G. Shared Responsibility
1. Mutually agreeing on a fair distribution of work
2. Making family decisions together |
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Definition
Equality - Non-violence
G. Sh_____ Res_____
1. Mu_____ ag_____g on a f_____ dis_____n of w_____
2. Ma_____ fa_____ d_____ to_____ |
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Term
Equality - Non-violence
H. Economic Partnership
1. Making money decisions together
2. Making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements |
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Definition
Equality - Non-violence
H. Ec_____ Par_____
1. Ma_____ m_____ de_____ to_____
2. Ma_____ sure both partners b_____ from fi_____ ar_____ |
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Term
Abuse of Children - Violence
Violence includes;
1. Committing Incest,
2. Sexual Touching/Kissing,
3. Sexualizing Children's Behaviour
4. Pinching
5. Hitting
6. Kicking
7. Pushing
8. Twisting Arms
9. Choking |
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Definition
Abuse of Children - Violence
Violence includes;
1. Co_____ In_____,
2. Sex_____ Tou_____/Kis_____,
3. Se_____ Chi_____ Be_____
4. Pi_____
5. Hi_____
6. Ki_____
7. Pu_____
8. Tw_____g A_____
9. Ch_____ |
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Term
Abuse of Children - Violence
A. Intimidation
1. Instilling fear through looks, actions, gestures, property destruction
2. Using adult size
3. Yelling
4. Being violent to other parent, pets, etc |
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Definition
Abuse of Children - Violence
A. Int_____
1. Ins_____ fe___ through l_____, ac_____, ges_____, pr_____ des_____
2. Using a_____ s_____
3. Ye_____
4. Being vi_____t to other pa_____, p_____, etc |
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Term
Abuse of Children - Violence
B. Using Institutions
1. Threatening punishments with/by God, courts, police, school, juvenile detention, foster homes, relatives, psych wards |
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Definition
Abuse of Children - Violence
B. Using Ins_____s
1. Thre_____ pun_____ with/by G_____, courts, po_____, sc_____, juvenile de_____, fo_____ homes, rel_____, p_____ w_____s |
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Term
Abuse of Children - Violence
C. Isolation
1. Controlling access to peers/adults, siblings, other parent, grandparents, etc |
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Definition
Abuse of Children - Violence
C. Is_____
1. Con_____ access to p_____/adults, si_____, other pa_____, gra_____, etc |
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Term
Abuse of Children - Violence
D. Emotional Abuse
1. Put downs, name calling
2. Using children as confidants
3. Using children to get or give information to other parent
4. Being inconsistent
5. Shaming children |
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Definition
Abuse of Children - Violence
D. Emo_____ A_____
1. P_____ downs, name ca_____
2. Using chi_____ as co_____
3. Using ch_____ to get or give in_____ to other pa_____
4. Being inc_____
5. Sh_____ children |
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Term
Abuse of Children - Violence
E. Economic Abuse
1. Withholding basic needs, using money to control behaviour
2. Squandering family money
3. Withholding child support
4. Using children as an economic bargaining chip in divorce |
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Definition
Abuse of Children - Violence
E. Ec_____c A_____
1. With_____g basic needs, using m_____y to co_____ behaviour
2. Squ_____g fa_____money
3. Wit_____ child sup_____
4. Using ch_____n as an e_____c bar_____ing chip in di_____ |
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Term
Abuse of Children - Violence
G. Threats
1. Threatening abandonment, suicide, physical harm, confinement, or harm to other loved ones. |
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Definition
Abuse of Children - Violence
G. Th_____
1. Thr_____g ab_____nt, s_____e, p_____l h_____, con_____t, or h_____ to other lo_____ ones. |
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Term
Abuse of Children - Violence
H. Using Adult Privilege
1. Treating children as servants
2. Pushing, bossing, always winning
3. Denying input in visitation and custody decisions
4. Interrupting |
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Definition
Abuse of Children - Violence
H. Using A_____ Pri_____
1. Tr_____ children as ser_____
2. Pu_____, bos_____, always win_____
3. De_____ input in vi_____ and custody dec_____
4. Interr_____ |
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Term
Abuse of Children - Violence
A. Intimidation
B. Using Institutions
c. Isolation
D. Emotional Abuse
E. Economic Abuse
F. Threats
G. Using Adult Privilege
H. Intimidation |
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Definition
Abuse of Children - Violence
A. Int_____
B. Using Ins_____
c. Iso_____
D. Emo_____l Abuse
E. Ec_____c Abuse
F. Th_____
G. Using A_____ P_____e
H. In_____n |
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Term
What does the Duluth Model do?
1. It will help offenders to take responsibility for their violence,
2. accept that their violence is designed to control the behaviour of their partners and
3. learn non-controlling behaviour strategies. |
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Definition
What does the Duluth Model do?
1. It will help offenders to take responsibility for their violence,
2. accept that their violence is designed to control the behaviour of their partners and
3. learn non-controlling behaviour strategie |
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Term
What does the Duluth Model do?
1. It will help offenders to take responsibility for their violence:
By calling out/naming their violent behaviours as unacceptable. State statistics to show the harm it does. |
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Definition
What does the Duluth Model do?
1. It will help offenders to take responsibility for their violence, |
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Term
What does the Duluth Model do?
2. accept that their violence is designed to control the behaviour of their partners
Using Power and Control wheel to identify their behaviour and show that they aren't jsutified. |
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Definition
What does the Duluth Model do?
2. accept that their violence is designed to control the behaviour of their partners |
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Term
What does the Duluth Model do?
3. learn non-controlling behaviour strategies.
Using Equality Wheel to show how a healthy partnership should work together |
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Definition
What does the Duluth Model do?
3. learn non-controlling behaviour strategies. |
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Term
Importance’s and Function of the Duluth Model:
1. Tell men why the wheels were developed, that they were developed by women like their partners in a way that authentically describes their experiences of abuse. This gives men context and stories around the program. We are giving them the whole, the context and information, not just “do an activity on trust” or “be respectful because you’ve been disrespectful.” |
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Definition
Importance’s and Function of the Duluth Model:
1. Tell men why the wheels were developed, ... |
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Term
Importance’s and Function of the Duluth Model:
2. Holding the perpetrator accountable AND actively contributing to the healing of the victim:
a. Men acknowledge that they are capable of the atrocities that they engaged in without minimizing or denying, and;
b. Men will do everything in their power to make amends and pay their restitution for the trauma they created. (Melissa Scaia, 2018). |
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Definition
Importance’s and Function of the Duluth Model:
2. Holding the perpetrator accountable AND actively contributing to the healing of the victim: |
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Term
a. Hierarchy: Men are positioned at the top of the household hierarchy.
b. Objectification: To maintain their position in the hierarchy, men will objectify women to the extent that women exist as particular objects who are there to behave in very specific ways towards us.
c. Submission: If women behave outside of these expectations, tactics of submission are used by men to enforce their desired behaviours and dynamics.
d. Lack of accountability for perpetrators: This process is reinforced by a lack of consequences for perpetrators, and allows the cycle to continue. |
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Definition
Four pillars that keep widespread family violence in place and support ongoing perpetration of family violence:
a. Hie_____:
b. Obje_____n:
c. Su_____n:
d. L_____ of acc_____ty for perpetrators: |
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Term
How can Colluding occur?
a. If we create too much space in the room to discuss trauma, it connects men to a victim stance. On one hand, you can use trauma to engage, but on the other hand, they may justify the violence based on their trauma. You have to be very clear, otherwise you may end up counselling or colluding. |
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Definition
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Term
1. Pursed Lips
2. Reddening of the Face
3. Clenched Jaw
4. Finger Pointing
5. Threatening Posture
6. Slamming Things Around |
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Definition
| Spotting Aggressive Behaviour in group counselling (how to know if they may: |
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Term
a. Arms folded in front of the body.
b. Minimal or tense facial expression.
c. Body turned away from you.
d. Eyes downcast, maintaining little contact.
e. Overly agreeging with everything you say
f. Saracastic tone |
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Definition
| Look for dismissive body language (as though they aren’t takin anything in): |
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