Unconscious hiding of anxiety producing

thoughts and memories

Reverting to a less anxiety provoking stage of development

Example: An adult starts crying in order to be excused from their behavior.

Attributing one's own anxiety producing thoughts to someone else

Example: Trying to make others look bad so that one looks good.

Example:  High school dance, point & laugh at others dancing, but really you have anxiety about dancing.

Behaving extremely
opposite of one’s feelings (ex. Angry, but smiling)

Example: Making jokes to cover up feeling sad and lonely.

Developing a logical, but false
explanation that protects one’s self concept

Example: A student may blame a bad grade on poor teaching instead of the fact that they neglected to study.

When hostile or aggressive feelings

are vented against safer objects or people

other than those who caused the feeling.

Example: Having a bad day at work/run in with boss, going home and kicking the dog.

(32) "Use your feelings as data" Yalom

Explain this statement and give an example.

Yalom says that when a client evokes feelings from us we can assume that s/he is evoking similar feeling from people in his or her own environment. This can be a clue as to what is causing the clients issues

Example: You find that your attention wonders each time you are in a session with Mr. X.  You conclude that Mr. X is rembling and you are unable to focus on the purpose of his statement.  Mr. X feels that no one at work pays any attention to him when he's talking.

(33) When dealing with sexual abuse, conventional wisdom does not always apply. 

Give an example of why this is so.

(34) Label the diagram below and discuss

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Interdependent system

In this system if something happens to one person in the system the whole system is affected

(34) Label the diagram below and discuss

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Independent system

In this system if something happens to one person in this system there is minimal affect on the system as a whole.  Those closest to the one experiencing an issue may be affected but the rest of the system by not be aware of anything happening

Primary emotions are those that we feel first, as a first response to a situation.  They are instinctive responses that we have.  The problem sometimes with primary emotions is that they disappear as fast as they appear. Their replacement by secondary emotions complicates the situation, making it difficult to understand what is really going on.

The secondary emotions give you a picture of the person's mental processing of the primary emotion. Secondary emotions may be simple feelings or may be a mix as more emotions join the fray. Thus news of a wartime victory may start with feelings of joy, but then get
tinged with sadness for the loss of life.

The Lokahi triangle represents the balance between kanaka (mankind), ke akua (god), and aina (nature). For the Hawaiians these three things are intertwined with one another and are apart of one another.  Therefore, one is healthy if all three parts are in harmony.

Example: A sick child with no physical symptoms could mean there is too much hakaka (fighting) or namunamu (arguing) around the child.

Allow the client to vent, use listening skills to
identify the source of the anger and attempt to
deal with that. Convey warmth, understanding and
hopefully that will reduce feelings of anger.

Superiority: speaking down to. 
Manipulative: tricking someone
Controlling: pushing the issue, aggressive
Evaluative: “you only have yourself to blame”

Indifference: Conveying a lack of concern
Superiority: Speaking down to the client
Certainty: No room for debate

(39) Discuss (with example) the following concepts involved in active listening from your Zastrow text==

Reflecting Back

Parroting

Clarifying statement

Parroting is repeating the message using the same words used by the client.

C: I want to apply for the Associate Directors position that just openned up.  It will come with additional work hours and more office drama and politics. 

M: So you want to apply for the Associate Directors position that just openned up.  It will come with additional work hours and more office drama and politics. 

Reflecting back is taking what the client says and restating it in your own words. 

M:So it sound like you're ready to take on the promotion inspite of the obsticles involved.

Clarifying statements seeks clarification by asking a question in a non blaming/non evaluating fashion to accurately understand what is being said.

M:Are you saying that you're willing to take on longer  work hours and more office drama to ge this promotion to Assistant Director?

Communicate Caring.  To let the client know that you genuinely care about him/her.

Clearly express client's goals.  To let the client know that there are expectations.

Illustrate the exact discrepancy.  To let the client know what is not acceptable.

Indicate the realistic results of the discrepancy.  To let the client know what will happen if the discrpancy occures. 

Example:

1.) Do not get angry.  Meeting anger with anger will only escalate the situation.  You want to de-escalate the situation.  You could let the client vent for a little bit and use some active listening skill.
2.) Don’t dwell on the past. Bringing up the past will only layer the issues to be worked on.  KISS the situation (Keep It Simple Silly) by dealing with the present issue that's on the table at the time.
3.) Don’t moralize.  Being judgmental will only raise a client's defenses. 
4.) Do not get defensive.  Again, the aim it to lower the client's defenses and de-escalate the situation.  Meeting the clients anger with your own defensiveness will only add to the number of issues that need to be worked on.

Cognitive restructuring occur as clients begin to gain a new perspective on themself and their problems.

Hope is gained when one sees others with the same problems get better or when hearing "oldtimes" tell similar stories and witnessing their present successes.

Altruism is when members feel good about themselves through helping others. Also known as “The Helper Principle.”

Acceptance: members feel they will not be rejected or blamed for their problems.

Universality: members become aware that they
are not alone w/ the problems they face.

(44) Social work expertise, and best practices argue that groups benefit from having a set of rules in place so that members know th boundaries of their behaviors

T or F

T

Having a set of rules provides expectations on acceptable behavior in the group, which can be extended to expectations outside of group and in society.

(45) Most social work practitioners agree that it is better to have two facilitators for each pgroup.  Discuss what you believe is the best make-up of this team and why.

The Kumulipo tells us that we are all related...the plants, the fish, the birds, the soil, the air, the winds, the stars.  We are all of one.  The geneology of man is of Wakea and Hoku.  Hoku's first born was still born, Haloanakalaukapalili was burried.  From that spot came kalo.  Hoku's second born was Haloa, the two are siblings--Kalo the plant and Haloa the human.  Hawaiians believe that one can not own one's sibling/family as property therefore Hawaiians struggle with the Western concept of owning land.

(50) Discuss the follwing: (1) How play therapy can be so revealing of core family issues; (2) Why it is important to make notes on even the seemingly most insignificant dynamics; and (3) Why leave the structure standing until the family leaves?

1.) Play therapy is symbolic, so by asking family members to construct something
together, each person’s contribution can tell you about a story behind the family. It also gives the therapist time to stand back and watch how family members interact with each other during the process. Many seemingly insignificant actions or use of material can reveal core family problems.

2.)

3.) It lets the family know that their creation is important to you. If you were to knock it
down in front of them you could give the impression that their work did not matter. Also it can
give you the chance to take pictures and make more extensive notes so that you can look back
on the creation in the future.