the affection we feel for those with whom our lives are deeply entwined

-more stable and enduring

-exists between close friends/family/roomates and lovers

-involves certainty in one another's love + respect as well as genuine mutual understanding

-woman are more focused on this

-weigh out the rewards and costs and compare them to this

-it is your expectations of how a relationship should be formed by past relationships, family, parents, and media

-when comparisons outpace your CL level, you are satisfied

-includes things like how comfortable you are alone, what else is in your environment

-compare alternatives to this to determine your level of satisfaction and commitment

-the diffusion of responsibility within a group

-the idea/fact that when in a large group people tend to sit back and wait for someone else to do something

-any behavior that is voluntary and benefits others

-excludes beneficial actions that are not performed voluntarily or are not performed with the intention of helping another

-must choose and intend on helping the person

-form of helping in which the ultimate goal of the helper is to increase his or her own welfare

-help to avoid feeling guilty or negative later

-form of helping in which the ultimate goal of the helper is to increase another's welfare without expecting anything in return

-you're getting nothing out of it, it's doing nothing for you

-reciprocity

-social responsibility

-justice

-1 norm of helping

-evolutionary principle that states that people expect that anyone helping another will have that favor returned at future time

-(ex. many species clean/groom one another) most likely to develop in a social group if there is (1) mutual dependence (2) social group living (3) lack rigid dominance hierarchies

-about fairness, we help those who help us

-1 norm of helping

-social norm stating that we should help when others are in need and dependent on us

-ex. adults feel responsible for the health and safety of children

-a social norm stating that we should help only when we believe that others deserve our assistance

-individualist communities

-US believes a person can be entitled to a deserving level if they (1) possess socially desirable personality characteristics or (2) by engaging in socially desirable behaviors

-when the amount of information to be dealt with exceeds peoples short-term memory capacity, they must resort to the sampling of information

-cognitive overload could result from decision-making under stress, time constraints or information abundance

-a situation where a majority of group members privately reject a norm, but assume (incorrectly) that most others accept it

-Ex. When a lecturer asks a class 'Any questions?' there will often be a deafening silence, even if nobody understands.

-law (Florida) that says a person cannot sue you if you injure them while trying to help you

-also goes for veterinarians in FLA, cannot get sued if injure animal while trying to help

-the belief that the world is a fair and equitable place, with people getting what they deserve in life

-when making inferences about the cause of a victim's troubles to decide if they need help or not, we tend to make defensive attributions when explaining the plight of victims

-we blame people for their misfortunes

-ex. "oh you got raped? well your skirt was too short and you shouldn't have been walking around at 3am"