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SFl 325 - Exam II
Chapters 6-9
43
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Undergraduate 4
11/03/2012

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Term
Big Five Personality Traits (OCEAN)
& which is most related to problems in relationships
Definition
O – Openness – receptiveness to new ideas, approaches
C – Conscientiousness
E – Extraversion
A – Agreeableness
N – Neuroticism * (most related to problems in relationship)
Term
Main idea of and effects of low self-esteem shown in the dependency regulation model
Definition
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Term
Dimensions of Attachment Theory

Definition

• Early Experiences with Caregivers Affect our Intimate Relationships
• Attachment styles stem from child relationship with parents

 

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Term
Negative affectivity and it's relation to self-esteem
Definition
If you have low self esteem, you're more likely to think your partner views you negatively (negative cycle)
Term
Intergenerational effects – what are they? How can they be stopped?
Definition
• Intergenerational effects = The relationships of people’s parents are related to their own relationships
    • Parental divorce is related to children’s subsequent divorce likelihood
    • Parental marital satisfaction is related to children’s subsequent marital satisfaction
    • Parents’ relationship behavior is related to children’s subsequent relationship behavior

Stopped by being a transitional character

Term
Triangulation – what does it refer to?


Definition

 Triangulation refers to a stronger relationship than a dyad.

*  When a dyad is unstable, triangulation makes stronger

  • Will seek third person to relieve tension
  • Usually friend parent or older children
  • Reduces tension by complaining to someone else is temporary and offloads tension to third person

 

Term
Intimacy Process Model
Definition
  • Everyday exchanges between partners can either maintain or thwart the degree of intimacy in the relationship

  • Model: (1) the expressions and disclosures 2) how the partner perceives and responds to them, (3) the judgments that the disclosing individual then makes about him- or herself and the relationship
  • Through this process, an individual comes to believe that
    • the partner understands core aspects of his or her inner self, including important needs, emotions, and beliefs
    • the partner validates, respects, or otherwise ascribes value to these core aspects of one’s self
    • the partner cares for and displays concern for his or her welfare
  • Fig. 7.2 - p. 288
Term
The relationship between novel activities and relationship satisfaction
Definition
  • Novel activities show to bring more satisfaction levels in marriage
    • More interaction/communication and novelty is more conducive

      • Art Aaron’s Self Expansion Theory
        • More complex/more challenging/novel experiences together report more satisfaction
        • Novelty gives you opportunity to learn new things
Term

Different types of support (emotional, invisible, etc.) (p.299)

 

Definition
  • Emotional: _________
  • Invisible: support the recipient does not notice
    • more beneficial
  • Visible: support the recipient knows he or she has received
    • can be costly to the recipient’s self-esteem

    • Support people perceive as available to them tends to be beneficial as they content with various stressors, whereas the support actually received is sometimes beneficial and sometimes detrimental

 

Term
Capitalization types (active/passive-destructive/constructive)
Definition

 

Active & Constructive

[Authentic, Enthusiastic, Supportive]

Passive & Constructive

[Understated Support]

Active & Destructive

[Pointing out the negative]

Passive & Destructive

[Ignoring the event]

 

Term
Definition of forgiveness = what signifies that forgiveness has occurred
Definition
  • Forgiveness = the lay concept that people invoke to describe the transformation that occurs when their motivations to seek revenge and maintain estrangement from an offending relationship partner diminish, and their motivation to pursue conciliatory courses of action increase

 

Term
General Authorities’ advice for times of conflict and disagreement
Definition
  • Russell M. Nelson
    • Good communication enhaced by prayer
  • Thomas S. Monson
    • Can't pray and not have good feelings about each other, misunderstandings solved through prayer
  • Dallin H. Oaks
    • Join hands and kneel together in prayer, pray for healing of Atonement, united prayer brings closer to each other and the Lord
Term
Gratitude Studies and Results
Definition

 

o  Theoretical model
     Altered Perception of partner >Gratitude > Relationship Maintenance


Lambert’s study…
• gratitude expression is affecting relationship maintenance
• those who expressed gratitude were the most likely to think positively about their partner – expressing gratitude changes how you perceive your partner and higher maintenance

 

Term
Self-Perception Theory Definition

Definition

An individual “observes” his or her own behavior and makes attributions about the motivations after the fact

• Ex.

§  If someone goes to church each week, and then is asked if they are a religious person, they may say yes, because they are acting/behaving on religion and makes a difference in how you perceive yourself

Term
Emotional Bank Account Ratio
Definition

 

  • 5:1
    • Research shows that for relationships to thrive they need 5 positive deposits to every 1 negative withdrawal
  • Get out of Emotional Debt
Term

Definiton of Conflict (Kurt Lewis)

 

Definition
  • when one person pursues his or her goals in such a way that it interferes with another person's’ goals

 

Term
Definition of Cognitive Editing
Definition
  • the tendency, observed in happy spouses, to respond to a partner’s negative behaviors with neutral or even positive behavior
Term
Causes of aggression in terms of an intra-individual perspective
Definition
  • intra-individual perspective on aggression- an approach to explaining violent behavior between intimate partners that focuses on the enduring qualities and personal histories of each partner
    • partners in relationships differ in the ways that might lead them to make different contributions to the aggression that occurs between them
  • Intra-individual perspective focuses on families as the root of aggression because individuals learn in their family of origin how to behave in later relationships and stressful situations.

 

Term

Proponents of an XYZ Statement

 

 

Definition

o   X- The effect on you or how you felt (Use “I” Statement)
o   Y- What the other person did… be specific
o   Z- The situation where this happened

§  Ex. “I felt embarrassed (X) when you criticized me at dinner last night (Y) in front of John (Z)

Term
Rules for "Time Outs"
Definition

1. Use “I” or “we” to call the time out, not “you”
2. Commit to a specific time to deal with the issue later

3. Wait at least 10 minutes, but less than 24 hours

4. Use a safe way to talk so that you stay calm

Term
Keys to Focused Listening
Definition
  • Non-verbal
    • Let the speaker finish without interrupting
    • Concentrate on what they are saying - stay in the present moment
    • Look the person directly in the eyes
  • Verbal
    • Ask open-ended clarifying questions
    • Use paraphrasing (reflect back what you hear in a genuine manner)
    • Listen for the purpose of understanding = do not rebut

 

Term
Rusbult's Four Different Patterns of Belief
Definition

 

  1. Long-term bliss - passion can be nurtured and developed over time
    [
    Relationships grow + Romance and passion are most important]
  2. Storybook fantasy - passion is the result of fate or chemistry
    [
    Relationships are fixed + Romance and passion are most important]
  3. Friends/companions - couples grow closer and more interdependent over time
    [
    Relationships grow + Practical concerns are most important]

4. Utilitarian involvement - relationships are like business arrangements whose terms are not negotiable
[
Relationships are fixed + Practical concerns are most important]

 

Term
Locus of Control (external vs. internal)
Definition

 

  • Internal – you are in control
  • External – out of your control

 

Term

Different types of partner confirmation (Gottman)

 

Definition

 

  • Validating
    • Steps: validation/persuasion/compromise
  • Volatile
    • Steps: skip validation/persuasion/compromise
  • Avoidant
    • Steps: “agree to disagree”
    • Problems: Won’t know how to deal with real issues when they come up

 

 

Term
3  Different types of Expectations that cause problems in relationships (3 "uns")
Definition

Unaware
Unrealistic

Unspoken 

Term
Emergent vs. Cooperative Goals
Definition

• Emergent - win, lose
• Cooperative - win, win; working together as a couple to meet the goals of both

Term
Study findings about IPV and Self-Efficacy
Definition
·      Too much self-efficacy causes higher IPV
·      Can be worse for those in IPV
Term

Demand- Withdraw Chart

 

Definition
  Wife topic, husband withdraw
·      Wife topic= wife brings it up (and visa-versa)
·      Wife demands more, and husband withdraws more
·      If husband demands, he does not as likely withdraw
Term
Leisure Activities and Marital Satisfaction
Definition
High joint leisure led to highest marital satisfaction for both husbands and wives (higher than individual leisure, low joint leisure, and moderate joint leisure)
Term
Communication skills and positive emotion (chart)
Definition

 

High negative skills and low negative skills

• If you have lots of high negative skills and low positive emotion= low relationship satisfaction plummets
o   Even if you have high negative skills, if you have high positive emotions, you can still have similar satisfaction

 

Term
Past Theories: Social Exchange
Definition
  • interdependence in relationship that describes interactions between people in economic terms, with particular reference to the rewards and costs that those people perceive in their relationships and interactions with each other

 

Term
Past Theories: Social Learning
Definition
how rewarding and costly interpersonal experiences influence how people evaluate themselves and their relationships - learn something new about your relationship from the exchanges
Term
Past Theories: Attachment
Definition
The relationships we form in our adult lives are shaped largely by the nature of the bonds that we form with our primary caregivers in infancy and early childhood

• secure, avoidant, anxious/ambivalent
Term
Past Theories: Evolutionary
Definition
  • Idea that the mind evolved in response to specific selection pressures that lead some preferences and capacities to be associated with more successful reproduction, and other preferences and capacities to be associated with less successful reproduction - seeks to understand human thoughts and behaviors in terms of their adaptive functions

 

Term
According to text, people who are ____ appear to be vulnerable to poor intimate relationships
Definition
High in Neuroticism
Term
T/F: Personality traits related to satisfaction but are unrelated to the types of problems and complaints that people confront in their relationships
Definition
False
Term
     Studies to test self-expansion model by Arron  suggest…

Definition
o   Engaging in novel and arousing activities can counteract the after honeymoon stage blandness
Term
·      Carl learns Meena got a promotion. Carl sid congrats, then expressed concern that this might increase her workload. What capitalization is this?

Definition
o   Active destructive
Term
·      According to text, “_________” is the lay concept that people invoke to describe the transformation that occurs when their motivations to seek revenge and to maintain estrangement from an offending partner relationship and their motivation to pursue conciliatory courses of action increase

Definition
o   Forgiveness
* Definition from the text- know the different parts of the definition of forgiveness
Term
T/F: Conflict occurs when one person pursues his/her goals in such a way that interferes with the other person’s goals
Definition
True
Term
  Rusbult and colleagues describe four different patterns of beliefs about relationships that are created by combining two dimensions. Long-term bliss and story book fantasy have in common the belief that _______ and story book fantasy and utilitarian involvement have in common the belief that ______.

Definition
o   Passion is most important; relationships are fixed
Term
People with a(n) ______ locus of control relative to their marriages believe that they are responsible for the outcomes they experience in the marriage; in contrast, people with a(n) ___ locus of control believe they gave little responsibility for what happens in the marriage

Definition
o   Internal; external
* Internal- you have control
Term
Behavioral confirmation is a process in which:

Definition
o   Our beliefs shape our behavior toward others
§  Perceptual confirmation – experiences perceived as being
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