Term
romantic beliefs scale
problems with previous research |
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Definition
- several previous scales used language or expressed ideas that were dated
- few scales captured the full range of beliefs associated with romance
- some scales confounded romantic beliefs with other types of love
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Term
romantic beliefs scale
method |
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Definition
- collected scales, rewrote items, tested over a series of studies with 1152 respondents
- N=730
- they collected demographics, RBS bem's sex role inventory, & several other loves scales in order to compare measures
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Term
romantic beliefs scale
descriptions of each belief comprising RBS |
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Definition
- love at first sight
- love finds a way
- one and only love
- idealization (idea that your partner is perfect)
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Term
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Definition
- RBS is a valid and reliable indicator of the ideology of romanticism
- men report higher total RBS scores than women
- people high in femininity report higher RBS scores than people in low femininity
- findings are consistent with the functionalist perspective
- Note flaws in BSRI
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Term
rose colored glasses
falling in love |
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Definition
- may initially "squelch" sexual feelings
- is a selective response to a unique other person
- orientation is to the whole person
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Term
rose colored glasses
description of falling into lust |
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Definition
- sexual desire
- non-selective
- orientation is to the object or part, rather than the whole person
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Term
rose colored glasses
results for study 1
"in love" |
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Definition
- more erotic & agapic
- less ludic
- less permissive & instrumental in sex attitudes
- lower self-monitoring
- lower sensation-seeking
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Term
rose colored glasses
results for study 1
women found to be: |
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Definition
- more storgic
- more pragmatic
- less ludic
- less permissive in sex attitudes
- lower sensation seeking
- no manic
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Term
metts: redefining romantic relationships
description of characteristics of relationship prior to decline |
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Definition
- friends before dating seem more likely to be able to re-establish friendship
- friends more likely to choose "scale down", non friends choose "full break"
- friends have a "foundation" and may have a "script"
- relationships with high level of emotional & psychological involvement may be more likely to maintain friendship, compared to low involvement couples
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Term
metts: redefining romantic relationships
3 choices when faced with dissatisfying relationship & ducks work
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Definition
- endure
- terminate
- redefine
- ducks work suggests that strategy accounts for 17% of variance
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Term
metts: redefining romantic relationships
disengagement strategies
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Definition
- de-escalation
- reduce intensity & commitment
- more likely to remain friends
- justification
- express reasons for breakup
- avoidance
*all strategies do not exist in a vacuum |
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Term
metts: redefining romantic relationships
influence of emotion |
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Definition
- equity theory
- under-benefited--> anger
- over-benefited-->guilt
- schwartz & shaver suggest emotions are caused by "percieved unfairness"
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Term
metts: redefining romantic relationships
influence of gender (sex) |
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Definition
- research by hill, suggests that couples are more likely to stay friends if men initiate breakup or if it was mutual
- 70% of couples remain friends when men initiates breakup
- men have more difficulty letting go of love
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Term
metts: redefining romantic relationships
strategies: reported by both initiator and recipient |
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Definition
- withdrawal
- positive tone
- manipulation
- directness
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Term
metts: redefining romantic relationships
results for initiator |
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Definition
- 3 variables significantly predicted friendship
- withdrawal strategy (b=-.40)
- previous friendship (b=.19)
- feeling under benefited (b=-.23)
- no effect for sex, involvement or emotions
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Term
metts : redefining romantic relationships
results for recipient |
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Definition
- 3 variables
- positive tone (b=.36)
- previous friendship(b.=21)
- manipulation (b=.14)
- no effect for sex, involvement or emotions
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Term
routine maintenence behaviors
4 purposes |
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Definition
- extend existing typologies
- compare dating and married couples
- examine similarity between partners responses
- examine sex differences
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Term
routine maintenence behaviors
distinction between strategy and routine behaviors |
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Definition
- "strategy" implies intention
- routine behaviors take place at a lower level of consciousness
- lack of central processing
- taken for granted behaviors
- routine maintenence behavior is NOT used intentionally for maintenance purposes
- sole funtion or goal is NOT to maintain relationship
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Term
routine maintenence behaviors
previous definitions |
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Definition
- tatics designed to make one more likeable to partner
- strategies used for preventative and corrective purposes
- efforts by partners to sustain satisfactory relational definition
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Term
routine maintenence behaviors
method |
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Definition
- self report survey data
- n=243 couples, dating and married
- m=31.9 years old, 13.5 yrs married, 2.4 years dating
- "provide examples of behaviors used to maintain your relationship"
- "describe the routine things you do"
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Term
routine maintenence behaviors
results
12 categories of behaviors-top 5 categories |
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Definition
- top 5 categories
- sharing tasks
- proactive & prosocial
- sharing time
- favors and gifts
- self-disclosure
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Term
routine maintence behaviors
results
h1 |
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Definition
- h1 was not supported
- only significant differences between dating and married couples was that dating reported more mediated communication, married reported more shared tasks
- couples more similar than different in their use of maintenence behaviors
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Term
routine maintenence behaviors
results
women different from men in routine use of 4 behaviors |
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Definition
- positivity
- talk
- openness
- anti-social behaviors
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Term
emotion
two common indicators of closeness |
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Definition
- magnitude of affect
- hedonic sign of affect
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Term
emotion
4 quadrants of closeness |
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Definition
- high & positive affect
- most people would describe this as a close relationship
- high & negative affect
- tends to be extremely stable relationship, seperation from partner highlights feelings
- low & positive affect
- stable, has been through the test, usually long term relationship
- low & negative
- occasionally you annoy me, you can be annoyed with something, but when its gone you might miss it
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Term
emotion
4 common elements shared by theories of emotion |
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Definition
- evolutionary perspective (you have to explain how emotion is a rational mechanism for survival)
- physiological component
- james lange-experience something exciting, viscera start activating (different viscera activate different emotions)
- cannon- viscera are relatively insensitive structures that are going through the same physiology but different emotional stages
- cognitive component
- schachter's 2 requirements (you have physiological arousal to something, but make sense of the setting you are in)
- percieve the arousal
- label the emotion
- the continuous feedback loop among components of emotional experience
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Term
emotion
mandler's theory of emotion
ANS, CIS |
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Definition
- ANS is comprised of sympathetic & parasympathetic nervous systems
- "s" for sympathetic, parasymphatic is what calms you down
- ANS arousal has physiological & psychological adaptive importance
- 2 functions- works as an alarm: making you focus attention (psychological), and preparing your body (physiological) backup warning system (ANS)
- CIS organizes past information so we can interpret new information
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Term
emotion
mandler's theory of emotion
meaning analysis
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Definition
determined by 2 factors
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- complexity of the structures
- state of the person at the time stimulus comes into play
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Term
emotion
mandler's theory of emotion
stop rule |
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Definition
- once youve made a decision, you stop your meaning analysis. once you make a decision you stop analyzing
- series of actions that are emitted as a whole
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Term
emotion
mandlers theory of emotion
- hierarchy of sequences
- golden rule
- 3 steps that occur during onset of emotional experience
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Definition
hierarchy of sequences
- golden rule-interruption is a necessary condition for ANS arousal
- 3 steps- 1. ANS fires 2. focus attention 3. conduct meaning analysis
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Term
emotions
emotional investment |
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Definition
- the degree to which you are vulnerable to interruptions from events in the other persons chain
- potential to experience emotion from another person
- both interruptive and facilitative connections
- amount of emotion experienced is associated with only the interfering connections
- the paradox is that the more meshed up you are, the less you will experience emotion on a daily basis (it will require radically deviany behavior)
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Term
emotions
2 explanations for emotionally tranquil relationships |
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Definition
- all connections are facilitative
- there are no connections
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Term
emotions
implications for conflict and attention
conflict |
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Definition
- no interest in partners activities. ex: i cant talk about ex-gf anymore because we always fight
- run risk of emotionally gutting relationship
- be careful about what you resolve
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Term
emotion
implications for conflict and attention
attention
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Definition
- if everything is meshed, less emotion
- attractive co-worker/stranger, no reason for you to focus emotion on that partner
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Term
emotion
fundamental paradox of positive emotion |
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Definition
- control hypothesis: ex: cover eyes during movie
- ex: waiting in line for rollercoaster, can leave whenever
- when individual has no control over the onset or the offset of the interrupting stimulus, will be negative emotions
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Term
emotions
applications for conflict-habituated couples |
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Definition
conflict-habituated interactions :
- stability of relationship
- if conflict is a habit then it is not interruptive
- fighting has become meshed and no not threaten the partners or relationship
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Term
emotions
applications for jealousy |
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Definition
- it is a "normal" emotion
- mixture of fear and anger ex: ex bf or gf- angry and fear of losing
- more meshed couples more vulnerable to jealousy
- alternative- "good mesh" is more threatening, ex: best friend is a lot like you, and its more threatening
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Term
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Definition
the emotional reaction to a percieved threat to an existing relationship
or a protective reaction to a perceived threat to a valued relationship |
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jealousy
distinctions between jealousy, rivalry and envy |
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Definition
- jealousy stems from perceptions of threat to an existing relationship
- envy stems from desiring something that someone else has
- rivalry occurs when two people compete for something
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Term
jealousy
tesser's SEM and BIRGing |
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Definition
- tesser's self evaluation maintenence model
- strong feelings of envy highly likely when close other succeeds in an area that is important to you
- BIRGing of somebody else (area that isn't as close to you)- feel happy for them
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Term
jealousy
causes of jealousy |
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Definition
- investment discrepancy/inequity
- dependency on relationship
- desire for sexual exclusivity
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Term
jealousy
pfeiffer & wong's MJS findings |
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Definition
- described three cognitive components of jealousy
- cognitive, emotional and behavorial
- findings
- liking associated with lower levels of jealousy compared to loving
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Term
jealousy
stages of experiencing jealousy |
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Definition
primary appraisal--> percieving a threat to a relationship influenced by thresholds for
- qualities of relationship
- type of relationship (friend/family)
- severity of threat--> characteristic, realistic, nature
- type of threat
- time away from partner (work, games, friends)
secondary appraisal-->interpertation stage :attempts to understand and begin to cope
- review and interpret evidence
- catastrophic thinking--> worst possible situation
third component
- blend of emotions
- anger, fear, surprise, depression
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Term
jealousy
table 10.4/ gender findings |
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Definition
- men and women have different concerns when it comes to jealousy. diff ways of coping
- women think about not being able to find another partner/no one will want me
- women are more likely to attempt to induce jealousy
- men are more likely to experience the "rooster effect"--> anger when other men cut them out of an interantion with a woman (p282)
- men deny jealousy
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Term
jealousy
hansens work
findings |
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Definition
findings
- least amount of jealousy evoked by night out with same sex friends
- most jealousy evoked by casual sex affair
- women more jealous than men regarding
- hobby and time with family
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Term
jealousy
hansens work
implications |
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Definition
implications
- opposite sex friendship expectations
- both male and female uncomfortable with opposite sex friendship
- expect them to give up friendship
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Term
jealousy
hansens work
time expectations |
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Definition
time expectations
- women define dating relationships as time spent
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Term
jealousy
hansens work
sexual expectations |
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Definition
both men and women expect to be monogomous after long-term relationship |
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Term
betrayal
two major psychological dangers of intimacy and distinctions between the two |
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Definition
- BETRAYAL AND REJECTION-distinction between the two:
- rejection occurs faily early in the acquaintanceship process
- betrayal can occur at any point in a relationship
- betrayal has a greater potential for psychological damage
- betrayal often means that you have lost something that you have invested into a relationship
- they suggest that betrayal arises from problems with expectations, commitment or trust
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Term
betrayal
relationship expectations |
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Definition
- most basic aspect of any relationship
- global (or general) expectations apply to any relationship
- specific expectations arise from patterns in a particular relationship
- violation of expectations may result in feelings of betrayal
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Term
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commitment
- in commited relationships, each partner assumes some responsibility for the welfare of the other partner
- demonstrated by effort and and energy
- women get jealous about time
- perceptions of lessening commitment often linked to betrayal
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Term
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Definition
- most important and satisfying relatnioships are characterized by trust
- trust is the ability to rely on partner to do what is promised and to be faithful
- trust is also the ability to self-disclose and be yourself without fear
- loss of trust linked to betrayal
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Term
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Definition
- ibs scores tend to be higher (more likely to betray) among:
- young
- less educated
- divorced
- white
- non-religious
- children of divorce
- children of alcoholics
- self reported betrayal was unrelated to marital satisfaction for either men or women (you were betrayer)
- marital satisfaction and commitment unrelated to spouses betrayal scores for either husbands or wives *cant predict*
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betrayal
types of betrayal |
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Definition
most commonly reported type of betrayal for men was extramarital affair
most commonly reported type of betrayal for women was affair (tied with betrayed confidence)
table 12.2
- men more likely to betray partners and be betrayed by co-workers
- women more likely to betray partners and be betrayed by partners
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Term
infidelity
description of attitudes toward marraige and infedelity |
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Definition
- attitudes toward marriage and infedelity change with the times
- primary focus of this study is to examine the relationship between inequity and extramarital sexual desires & behaviors
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Term
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Definition
- suggests that people compare their input/output ratio to a relevant comparison other's input/output ratio
- inequity leads to feelings of distress
- inequity is the reason that drives us to cheat
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Term
infidelity
3 reasons why under-benefited seek extramarital involvement |
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Definition
- restoration of actual equity
- get even by having affair, increase your rewards and decrease partners rewards by inducing jealousy
- leaving the field
- affair is a disengagement strategy
- equity with the world
- deprived person is entitled to seek compensation elsewhere for inequitable relationship in another relationship
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Term
infidelity
reason why over benefited seek extramarital involvement |
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Definition
- because they desire equity
- so that they can justify their current over-benefited status
- affair proves that they deserve to be over-benefited
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Term
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Definition
- exchange orientation
- degree of tolorance for reciprocity
- sexual satisfaction
- AIDS disapproval
- normative disapproval
- moral disapproval of cheating
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Term
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Definition
- women had a stronger exchange orientation that did men
- women felt more under benefited
- men felt more overbenefited
- men reported higher scores in relational satisfaction
- men had a stronger desire to engage in EMS
- actual EMS behavior didnt diffet between men & women
- aids disapproval didnt influence or desire actual EMS
- FOR MEN:
- normative disapproval was the only variable that influenced actual behavior
- exchange orientation did not influence EMS desire or behavior
- FOR WOMEN:
- normative disapproval & relationship satisfaction influenced actual EMS behavior
- exchange orientation influenced both EMS desire and behavior
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