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Marriage and Family Exam 2
Family Cycle, Dating, Love
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Undergraduate 4
02/29/2012

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Term
Family Life Cycle
Definition

Family experience divided into phases over life span.

Changes in family structure and function over time

Differs by structure (intact, divorced)

Term
First Family Life Cycle Stage
Definition

Between Families (leaving home)

develop intimate relationships

develop financial responsibility

differentation and individuation from family of origin

 

Term
Family Life Cycle Stage 2
Definition

Joining of Families Through Marriage

develop marital system

realignment of extended family relationships

Term

Family Life Cycle Stage Number 3

 

Definition

The family with young children

adjusting marital system to accept new members into system

sharing financial, childrearing, and household tasks

taking on parental roles

realignment of extended family relationships

Term
Family Life Cycle Stage #4
Definition

Families with adolescents

Increasing flexibility of boundaries

refocus on midlife marital and career issues

shift toward caring for older generation

marital satisfaction lowest

time for revitalization?

Term
Family Life Cycle Stage #5
Definition

Launching Children and Moving On

accepting exits and entries into family system

renegotiation of marital system as dyad

development of adult to adult relationships between parents and children

realignment of relationships to in-laws and grandchildren

dealing with parent's disabilities and death

Term
Family Life Cycle Stage #6
Definition

Families in Later Life

maintaining couple functioning as couples age

supporting the older generation w/out over functioning for them

dealing with loss of spouse, siblings, or peers

staying healthy and active

maintaining adequate income

 

Term
What are some adjustments for newlyweds?
Definition

Feelings change (more realistic)

Increase in work, decrease in leisure

marriage harder than expected

establishing equity

in-laws

communication and conflict resolution

finances

sexual adjustment

social life, friends, and recreation

roles, values, ideology, scripts

relationships with single friends worsened after marriage

Term
How does marital satisfaction change over the family cycle?
Definition
develop, change, and grow over life cycle(marriage is not static)
Term
What are the different patterns for change in marital satisfaction?
Definition

Stable/Positive

Stable/Neutral

Stable/Negative

Continuous Decline

Continuous Increase

Curvilinear (most common)

Term
What is the transition to Parenthood?
Definition
Period of time, generally spans from the beginning of pregnancy through the first few months after child is born
Term
How does the transition to parenthood change marriage?
Definition

Roles and division of labor changes

Financial changes can lead to stress

Changes in social life

Expectations

Changes in sexual intimacy

Changes in work and career

Term
What are the statistics the describe grandparenthood today?
Definition

75% of those over 65 have grandchildren

3/4 have contact with grandchildren weekly

Most Grandparents find great satisfaction in their role

1/3 had difficulty mainly because of resentment over babysitting

Term
What predicts positive adjustment during transition to parenthood?
Definition

Have a well functioning marriage

Strong motivation to become parents

Stress management skills

Maintain communication

Term
What are the different types of grandparents?
Definition

Formal

Fun Seeker

Surrogate Parent

Term
What is marriage like in old age?
Definition

Marital satisfaction usually increased

 

 

 

Term
What are the benefits from long term marriage?
Definition

Spouse is best antidote to old age

Most elders are married

Married older adults are healthier, wealthier, and happier than other groups

generally happy

Term
How do older married couples compare to those who were never married or are divorced?
Definition

never married or divorced=

lonelier

more difficult

more physical and psychological problems

recent losses worse

Term

What impact does widowhood have on the surviving spouse?

 

Definition

one of the most traumatic events

men more likely to remarry

Term
Who is most likely to be widowed?
Definition

Women

11 out of twelve who lose a spouse are women

3/4 of women become widows

Term
How long is a woman likely to live as a widow?
Definition
9 years
Term
Who cares for the elderly and frail elderly?
Definition

Elderly-

Majority self care  

Frail Elderly-

most cared for by relatives  only 5% in nursing homes

Term

What are the burdens and benefits of Family Care?

 

Definition

Can be fulfilling in meeting needs of loved one

1/3 of caregivers experienced depression

Can create resentment and conflict with siblings who are less involved

Caregivers need social support and respite time

Term
Boomerang Kids/Cluttered Nest
Definition
Children who leave home but return due to difficulty making it out in the world
Term
The sandwich generation
Definition
parents caught in the middle of caring for adolescent children and aging parents
Term
Jealousy
Definition
negative emotional reaction to a real or imagined threat to a love relationship
Term
What are the racial differences among the "never married"
Definition

39% African Americans

29.7% of Hispanics

21% of Whites

Term
What are the four different patterns of cohabitation?
Definition

1. Linus Blanket

2. Convenience

3. Emancipation

4. Testing

Term
What are the gender differences in regards to sexual aggression and violence?
Definition

Women experience more victimization

Men experience more psychological aggression

Term

Verbal Sexual Coercion?

Date Rape?

Definition

Using verbal coercion to obtain sex

date rape= forcing of involuntary sex

Term

What is the typical progression of violence?

 

Definition
verbal aggression to physical aggression
Term
How has dating changed over time?
Definition

Shift to group dating

lack of set pattern of progression

less formal

Term
What is self disclosure? Why is it important and how is it best developed?
Definition

revealing of personal information

key to developing intimacy

best in dyads

Term
What are the four steps in relationship creation and maintainance?
Definition

1. Making oppurtunities for friendship

2. enticing others to be partner

3. developing intimacy

4. maintaining, repairing, dissolving

Term
How do first impressions and nonverbal cues relate to starting a relationship?
Definition

dates are defined as promising or not in the first thirty seconds

50% to 80% of meaning is communicated without words

Term
How are men and women different regarding nonverbal cues?
Definition

women interpret more accurately

men more likely to misinterpret

Term
What are the five phases in the breakup of a relationship?
Definition

1. breakdown-dissatisfaction (can't stand this)

2. Intrapsychic -focus on partner's behavior/inadequacy (consider cost of withdrawal)

3. Dyadic-repair attempt (assess cost of withdrawal)

4. Social- face saving stories/elicit support (intervention inevitable)

5. Grave dressing-getting over it/retrospection (public sharing of your story)

Term
Scott M. Peck's definition of love?
Definition
The will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth. The work of love is giving attention.
Term
Erich Fromm's definition of love?
Definition
The active concern for life and growth of that which we love. An activity. Not falling but giving.
Term
Warner's view on love?
Definition

Love is not manipulative. Love is a power. every force calls forth a counter force.

constant concern for self is bondage

self forgetfulness is freedom.

Term
What function does romantic love play in relationships?
Definition
Brings individuals into serious associations and starts the relationship. Romantic love alone is not enough to maintain a relationship over time
Term
What are three different types of attachment and how do they relate to relationships?
Definition

1.secure

2. insecure -anxious and ambivilant (individual insecure and needy)

3. insecure-anxious and avoidant (individual avoids)

Term
What three characteristics make up Sternburg's love triangle?
Definition
Passion, commitment, intimacy
Term
Sternburg's eight types of love
Definition

non-love

liking (intimacy)

infatuation (passion)

empty (commitment)

romantic (intimacy, passion)

companiate (intimacy, commitment)

fatuous(passion, commitment)

consummate (intimacy, passion, commitment)

Term
Agape
Definition
God like love, unconditional
Term
Philos
Definition
Brotherly love
Term
Storge
Definition
companionate love
Term
Ludus
Definition
game playing love
Term
mania
Definition
infatuation
Term
eros
Definition
erotic, romantic, passionate
Term
Pragma
Definition
practical love
Term
exomony
Definition
marriage outside one's group
Term
Endogamy
Definition
marriage within one's group
Term
homogamy
Definition
marry someone who is similar to you
Term
assortive mating
Definition
people marry those who are like themselves more than they marry someone by chance
Term
heterogomy
Definition
marrying someone dissimilar to oneself
Term
propinquity
Definition
marry someone who resides near you
Term
missatribution of arousal
Definition
attributing the wrong emotion to physical arousal
Term
messaliance
Definition
marriage with a person of lower social position
Term
hypergamy
Definition
female marries into a higher stratum
Term
hypogamy
Definition
female marries into a lower stratum
Term
Which is more prevalant hypergamy or hypogamy?
Definition
hypergamy
Term
mating gradient
Definition
women seek men of similar or higher social class
Term
phenomenology
Definition
subjective experience
Term
Problem with jealousy?
Definition
it is a self fulfilling prophecy
Term
Reiss's Wheel of Love Theory of Mate Selection
Definition

Like a spoke on a wheel, each stage leads to the next.

Rapport

self revelation

mutual dependancy

intimacy need fulfillment

Term
Complementary needs theory
Definition
the idea that someone can fulfill our weaknesses and vice versa.
Term
norm segregation theory
Definition
people marry others who adhere to similar cultural norms and these people reside in segregated clusters
Term
Filter theory of mate selection
Definition
compares mate selection to a filter that is wide at the top and narrows at the bottom.number of choices is limited by the filter
Term
exchange theory of mate selection
Definition

logical and pragmatic approach

people enter into relationships that are rewarding to them

they end relationships that are not rewarding to them

success depends on quality of exchange

Term
What gender differences are there in mate selection?
Definition

Men fall in love more quickly

Women fall out more quickly

men define intimacy through doing things together

women define intimacy through talking

women seek men who can express love and be a good provider

men value physical attractiveness

both men and women tend to disclose more to females

Term
Why do some people regret their choice of mate?
Definition

Didn't really know mate

unrealistic romantic expectations

look for wrong qualities

confuse sex with love

poor self image/lack of self esteem

pressures of marriage/biological clock

Term
Larsen's personal contexts brought into marriage
Definition

Family of origin

parent child relationships

parent's marriage

age

education

socioeconomic status

Term
Larson's relationship contexts
Definition

approval of marriage

pressures to marry

 

Term
Larson's individual traits that predict marital dissatisfaction
Definition

difficulty coping with stress

dysfunctional beliefs

believing that marriage will bring personal change

excessive personality issues

Term
What are the dysfunctional beliefs that people bring into a marriage?
Definition

people can't change

dissagreement is bad

sexes are completely different

sexual perfection is possible

mind reading is expected

Term
(Larson) What are the couple traits that predict marital success or dissatisfaction?
Definition

good communication skills=success

bad communication skills=conflict

waiting for sex= more respect for partner and marriage

premarital sex= predictor of later divorce

cohabitation= increase chance for divorce

good conflict resolution=success

bad conflict resolution=more risk

acquantanceship-one year suggested

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