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LSU CMST 2010 Final
Jonathan Denham. Chapters 5, 6, 8, 9, 12
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Communication
Undergraduate 3
12/06/2013

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Term
Dark side of communication
Definition
the sides of communication including deception, lies, cheating, and obsession
Term
leakage cues
Definition
Term
positive relational deceptive strategies
Definition

use a white lie to have a positive outcome

 

"do you like my outfit?"

Term

detecting deception:

third party information

Definition

to detect deception

 

information revealed outside the relationship

 

ex: saying you're sleeping at a friend's but really going to a party and moms talking and figuring out you didn't sleep where you said you did

Term

confessions:

solicited confessions

unsolicited confessions

Definition

to detect deception

 

a confession after direct questioning

a confession out of the blue

 

*deception is detected using multiple cues

 

Term
embarrassment
Definition

"why did I say that?"

 

when we perceive that our self esteem has been threatened or if we have presented a negative view of ourselves to others

Term

embarrassment roles:

agent

recipient

observer

Definition

resposible for our own embarrassment

embarrassing moment happens to you

(friend tells your crush you like them)

watch someone else in an embarrassing situation

 

Term

responding to embarrassment:

accounts

apologies

joking

Definition

explanation for the cause of the embarrassment

looking for a source to blame

using humor to make light of the situation

Term

verbal aggression:

argumentativeness

verbal aggressiveness

Definition

person challenges an issue or position.

attacks the self-confidence, character, or intelligence of another person.

Term

verbal agression:

low aggression

moderate aggression

high aggression

severe aggression

Definition
  • yelling, crying, refusing to talk, stomping out of room
  • more intense. swearing, hitting other objects
  • direct physical contact. slapping, shoving
  • intense verbal abuse and threats, physical attacks inclusing biting, kicking, punching, etc.

 

Term

workplace bullying: 

employee emotional abuse (EEA)

 

Definition
repeated, targeted, unwelcome communication from more powerful indivuals to lower ones
Term
obsessive relational intrusion
Definition

repeated and unwanted pursuit of one's privacy by another person who desires an intimate relationship

  • sends messages
  • exaggerated affection
  • unwanted gifts
  • finding info about them 
Term

friendship in organizations:

autonomy/connection

Definition
tension can occur when you work together at work for long hours. being at a close proximity can create strong bonds, but also can feel "too" close, or "smothered".
Term

friendship in organizations:

openness/closedness

Definition
tension occurs when friends share everything outside of work, but then at work there's a confidentiality agreement so you can't share things. could cause trust issues.
Term

friendships in organizations:

equality/inequality

Definition
having different positions causes hierarchical struggles and tension between friends
Term

friendships in organizations:

impartiality/favoritism

Definition
when your friends expect special treatment because you're friends but you have to treat everyone the same because you're coworkers
Term

friendships in organizations:

judgement/acceptance

Definition
you expect a friend not to judge you when you do something wrong, but if there a professional standards to uphold you can't always not judge them
Term

mentor relationships

 

Definition
a more experienced member serving as a model ot guide for a colleage who is less experienced
Term

mentor relationships:

supportive mentors

(parent, cheerleader, groom)

Definition

help employees acheive goals, labeled as the "parent", "cheerleader", or "groom"

parent- older and wiser, tenure

cheerleader- provides encouragement

groom- hold power positions and help new person in a specific skill

Term

mentor relationships:

 

Definition
Term

mentor relationships:

"self promoter" and "guilt trip producer"

Definition

self promoter- surround themselves with the best new colleagues 

guilt trip promoter- motivates by telling them they aren't good enough

Term

romantic relationships at work:

sexual harrassment

Definition
any unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual behaviors, etc.
Term

romantic relationships at work:

quid pro pro 

Definition

something for something

"you will not get a rasie until you give me head"

Term

romantic relationships at work:

hostile work environment

Definition
less clearly defined. exchange of sexual jokes, stories, etc. in front of other employees
Term

interpersonal effectiveness and communication in the workplace:

organizational orientation

Definition

cognitive ability used to be the only predictor of job performance, but now they use this theory that identifies 3 types of workers and how they are motivated:

upward mobiles

indiffrerents

ambivalents

Term

interpersonal effectiveness and communication in the workplace:

upward mobiles

Definition
members who demonstrate a high level of dedication toward accomplishing the organization's goals. give 110%.
Term

interpersonal effectiveness and communication in the workplace:

indifferents

Definition
only view work as a mean to earn a living. motivated to get a paycheck.
Term

interpersonal effectiveness and communication in the workplace:

ambivalents

Definition
most difficult to communicate with. very fixated on the issues at work and complain about how things to need to change.
Term
Organizational culture
Definition

shared system of symbols and meanings created by members through their interactions with one another.

 

their stories, language, and rituals

Term

Socialization:

anticipatory socialization phase

Definition

socialization occurs through 3 stages- anticipatory socialization, organizational encounter, and metamorphosis

 

ASP is when the new members form expectations regarding their role in the organization.

ex: a girl watching her mom as a lawyer, or through movies

Term

Socialization:

encounter phase

Definition
once they enter the organization, the newcomer may not feel welcome in the group. methods are used to make them feel welcome.
Term

Socialization:

metamorphosis

Definition
changes in the new employee's behavior to adapt to the role expectations in the new environment. feeling like an 
"insider"
Term

balancing work and family relationships:

routinizing tasks

- connecting

- alternating

Definition

reoccuring pattens to accomplish daily routines

connecting: daily calls to coordinate schedules or to check on a child

alternating: interactions between spouses to negotiate "trade offs" or exchange tasks in daily routine

 

Term

balancing work and family relationships:

- prepping

- reiprocating

Definition

preppeing: nightly strategy used to maintain order in the routine

reciprocating: strategies often involve coordinating the exchange of child care issues

Term

balancing work and family relationships:

- improvising

- requesting assistance

- evading

Definition

improvisng: actions taken when your schedule isn't predictable

requesting assistance: involves asking others for work accomidations or childcare assistance during last-minute circumstances

evading: withholding information or deceiving others as a means of handling mulitple tasks

Term
audible act of meaning
Definition
any time you produce an utterance. not just words, but also the accompanying tones or anything audible
Term

the nature, content, and effects of messages:

messages

Definition
sets of behavioral expressions produced to convey an internal state
Term

the nature of messages:

what makes up a message?

Definition

lexical meaning

syntax

semantics

pragmatics

Term

the nature of messages:

lexical meaning

Definition
meaning of a word without reference to any particular context. focuses on the base meaning of a word.
Term

the nature of messages:

syntax

Definition

patterned ways words are combined to form longer utterances like sentances.

 

ex: I love you, not I you love

Term

the nature of messages:

semantics

Definition
all about the meaning of a word
Term

the nature of messages:

pragmatics

Definition

how people use language in social contexts. what the person using the word is meaning. 

ex: you're dumb

Term

The style of messages:

hesitations

Definition
Part of powerless speech- filled pauses with "ums" and "ers"
Term

The style of messages:

hedges

Definition

part of powerless speech- "hasn't it?" and "what do you think?"

defers power in the conversation

Term

the style of messages:

language intensity

Definition
the strength of a message with a high use of emotion and extreme adjectives
Term

The style of messages:

verbal immediacy

Definition

using language to either make you sound interested in the subject. 

"c'mon, let's go the party, we'll have so much fun!"

"oh, nothing's going on, just a party."

Term

The style of messages:

lexical diversity

Definition

how big your vocabulary is. 

 

calculated using the TTR, which is the number of different words in a message divided by the total number of words. high redundancy has low TTR, low redundancy has high TTR.

Term

the content of messages:

face threatening act (FTA)

Definition

an act that could cause embarrassment or take away from your public face.

 

used in the content of messages in the form of politeness and making a FTA less face threatening. 

Term

the content of messages:

bald on record

Definition
the most efficient way to approach a communicative situation is to do it directly and bluntly. BOR means you're saying exactly what needs to be done or how you feel in a direct manner.
Term

the content of messages:

Indirectness

Definition
using hints or amiguity to be get the point across, and also be polite to avoid the FTA
Term

the content of messages:

redress

Definition
2 types of this to avoid and recover with fta.
Term

the content of messages:

power, distance, rank

Definition
your power, (social) distance, and rank are all things to keep in mind when wanting to be polite and avoid fta's.
Term

the content of messages:

equivocal language

Definition

saying something that has 2 meanings

"is your roommate clean?"... "what's your definition of clean?"

this avoids saying something rude about your roommate, but also lets that person know you may feel

Term

the content of messages:

avoidable-avoidable conflicts

Definition

knowing no matter how you respond you'll upset someone, so you say something out of the blue to avoid answering

 

Term

the content of messages:

person centeredness

Definition
You listen to the speaker and adjust your message to the subjective, emotional, and relational aspects of the context
Term

the content of messages: 

message complexity

Definition
a part of person centeredness, this takes into account how complex the speaker was trying to be.
Term

making message choices- goals, plans, and actions :

 

goals

(primary and secondary)

Definition

future affairs someone is commited to reaching. 

a goal in a conversation could be to give advice or motivate

primary: what the conversation is "about. ex- give my friend advice

secondary: a more specific decision about pursuing the first goal. ex- boost my friends self esteem (supports the goal to give advice)

Term

making message choices- goals, plans, and actions :

 

cognitive rules model

Definition
theory that there are interpersonal factors that are taken into consideration and effect your goals each time you make one. Your goals constantly change, and aim to please and give value to everyone involved
Term

making message choices- goals, plans, and actions :

 

goal motivation

Definition
the desire to acheive a particular social outcome
Term

making message choices- goals, plans, and actions :

 

effectance motivation

Definition
level of confidence a person has in their ability to achieve an outcome
Term

making message choices- goals, plans, and actions :

 

normative motivation

Definition

desire to behave in role appropriate ways 

(knowing when to listen, comfort, fix, etc.)

Term

Chapter 6 title:

visible acts of meaning

Definition
behaviors such as facial expressions or hand gestures that serve a communicative purpose
Term
Communicative function
Definition
  • all the actions we take while talking with others. 
  • not all nonverbal behaviors serve a communicative function.
  • expressions can mean different things in different contexts.
Term
Nonverbal communication myth 1
Definition

"Communication is mostly nonverbal" 

  • tone of voice is more important than content.
  • facial movement is most important
  • think of marketing formula (55%, 38%, 7%)
Term
Nonverbal communication myth 2
Definition

"you can tell if someone is lying by closely observing nonverbal behaviors"

  • there are non universal "tells" that detect deception
  • this does not exist and has never been proven
Term

Nonverbal communication myth 2: 

few transparent liars

Definition
most people can lie without leaking deception, but a few people tend to give themselves away and are detected by most observers. these people are the few transparent liars.
Term

Nonverbal communication myth 2:

leakage hypothesis

Definition
an extension of the myth that our nonverbal clues reveal what we're really thinking.
Term
Nonverbal communication myth 3
Definition

"you can't judge a book by it's cover"

  • when you first meet someone, you absolutely judge them and can tell what they're like. 
Term

Nonverbal communication myth 3:

Immediacy behaviors

Definition

the initial behaviors that create an environment to interact in. 

face is judged first. 

the more time you have at first you only use to affirm your judgements, not prove them different. 

Term
Nonverbal communication myth 4
Definition

"a good first impression is always good"

  • people may act one way to con someone into thinking they are something they aren't.
  • snap judgements and impressions can lead to forming opinions and when they aren't actually like that, it can end badly 
Term

How we interpret nonverbal behaviors:

expextancy violations theory

Definition
when you have expectations about a situation and someone violates that expectation.
Term

expectancy violations theory:

physiological arousal

cognitive arousal

violation valence

Definition

when someone is violating your expectations, you have arousal via quickened heart rate and other physical signs. as well as you may think the person is strange for invading your personal space. if this invasion is positive or negative is all up to interpretation. 

 

the positive or negative conclusion of the violation is the violation variance

Term

expectancy violation theory: 

communicator reward valence

Definition

degree to which you find the person enacting the behavior positive or negative. If it's positive, then it's a reward. If it's negative then it's more of a punishment. 

 

people that have positive evaluations are high status, attractive, warm, and trust-worthy. 

Term

Close relationships:

Intimacy

Definition
the feeling of knowing someone deeply in physical, psychological, emotional, and behavioral ways.
Term

Close relationships:

interdependance

Definition

the actions of 2 people influence and are influenced by each other. 

this can vary according to how well you know the person.

Term

Close relationships:

stronger impact

frequent impact

diverse impact

duration

Definition
  • stronger: close relationships with people means you have a stronger influence than someone who doesn't know them very well. 
  • frequent: we see our close relationship people more often so we have more frequent impacts on their behavior. 
  • diverse: you share more kinds of activities with them so you have more ways to influence their thinking. 
  • duration: the longer we know the person the more influence we'll have. 
Term

Close relationships:

compartmentalized friendships

Definition

a friend in a specific activity

ex: running buddy

Term

what is attraction:

interpersonal attraction

Definition
total evaluation of a person. includes physical, task, and social.
Term

what is attraction:

physical attraction

- halo effect

Definition

refers to looks, what you see on the outside.

 

- "good looking" people tend to be more intelligent, popular, and happy

Term

what is attraction:

social attraction

Definition
how easy the person would be to get to know and fit within our social network. how would it be to invite the peron to hang out with your friends.
Term

what is attraction:

task attraction

Definition
the person's abilities to accomplish goals, work seriously, and get a job done.
Term

what is attraction:

sexual attraction

relational attraction

fatal attraction

Definition
  • sexual: someone you want to have sex with, may not have any other feelings for them. 
  • relational: someone you want to have a relationship with, like social attraction plus physical attraction.
  • fatal: those positive attractions you had towards them turn into things that annoy you.
Term
So why are we attracted to people?
Definition

subconcious influencers

exchange prinicples

early socialization influences

communicative dynamics

 

Term
Category 1: Subconscious influencers
Definition

factors that operate below our conscious awareness. 

biological influences like pheromones (scented sex hormones) and misattributions of arousal (thinking you're attracted to someone but mistakening it for fear or something blood pulsing in the moment.

Term

Category 1: Subconscious influencers

 

romeo and juliet effect

Definition

while social groups are very important and having acceptance of someone means a lot, this theory is the exception. 

 

parental interference can increase attraction between 2 people. if they say don't date someone with a motorcycle, you'll be more attracted to people with them. 

Term

Category 4: communicative dynamics

 

main effects model

Definition

if you have better communication skills you will be seen as more attractive. 

ex: emotional support, listen, persuade, and inform. 

Term

Category 4: communicative dynamics

 

immediacy behaviors

sociability

competence

Definition

supports the main effects model:

warmth

easy to talk to 

smart

Term

Category 4: communicative dynamics

 

the skill similarity model

Definition
people with similar communication skills are more likely to define social situations in similar ways. like to talk about the same things, find the obligations of relationships the same, and want the same from a relationship.
Term

So s/he's attractive, now what?

 

opening lines

Definition

"pick up lines"

 

what someone says to initiate conversation with a romantic partner

Term

So s/he's attractive, now what?

 

3 types of opening lines

Definition
  1. cute-flippant: attempt to be cute or funny. cliches. cheesy pick up lines. 
  2. innocuous approach: speaking in an implicit and vague manner. "are you having a good time?"
  3. direct: clearly stating what you're thinking. "would you like to split a bottle of wine?"
Term

So s/he's attractive, now what?

 

reasons to use cute-flippant lines (3)

Definition
  1. fear of rejection: these lines are so bad they're easy to recover from when they don't work. guys use these because others make them feel very vulnerable. 
  2. intermittent reinforcement: these lines are in books so they have to work. 
  3. lack social skills: people may just not know any better.
Term

So s/he's attractive, now what?

 

uncertainty reduction theory

Definition

developed to explain the initital interactions stage of interpersonal transaction. 

  • entry stage: when strangers first meet
  • personal phase: exchange ideas and personal values
  • exit phase: deciding if the person is worth persuing. 
Term

So s/he's attractive, now what?

 

2 types of uncertainty

Definition
  1. behavioral uncertainty: how should I act?
  2. cognitive uncertainty: who is this person? who is this person and how do you interact with them as a person. 
Term

So s/he's attractive, now what?

 

3 ways we reduce uncertainty and gain knowledge about them 

Definition
  1. passive strategies: your own observations. 
    • ex: stalking on facebook
  2. active strategies: using third parties to seek information. 
    • ex:flirting with other people in front of that person to get a reaction. 
  3. interactive strategies: ask questions to find information. the more comfortable you are with the person, the more your attraction grows. 
Term

So s/he's attractive, now what?

 

social penetration theory

Definition

explains the 6 dimensions of self-disclosure

  1. breadth
  2. depth
  3. frequency
  4. duration
  5. valence
  6. varacity

also the onion theory, that there are layers to everyone's self.

Term

So s/he's attractive, now what?

 

social penetration theory:

breadth

depth

Definition

most central to relationship development

  • breadth: how much information someone feels comfortable exposing. 
  • depth: how personal is the info that was disclosed.  
Term

So s/he's attractive, now what?

 

social penetration theory:

frequency

duration

Definition
  • frequency: how often you talk to someone, this determines their level on your onion self. 
  • duration: how long you've known them also determines this.
Term

So s/he's attractive, now what?

 

social penetration theory:

valence

veracity

Definition
  • valence: positive or negative information.
  • varacity: how honest the information is.
Term

So s/he's attractive, now what?

 

social penetration theory:

 

process of disclosing information

Definition

orderly process that goes from superficial to social to core

  1. incremental: goes through the levels of disclosure starting with superficial. 
  2. reciprocal: sharing equal parts of information. both people share the same amount. 
  3. symmetrical: share even levels of disclosure. 
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