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Interpersonal
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Communication
Undergraduate 3
12/12/2009

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Term

 

 

3 kinds of commitment

 

Definition

1. attachment-emot. & phys.- i love you, spending time together

2.promise- commitment is speech act- wedding, vow renewal

3. dedication- staying through challenges and      difficulties

Term

 

 

describe have to, ought to, want to

Definition

 

have to- no alternatives, can't leave

want to- desire to stay long term

ought to- moral obligation, others expectations

Term

 

how does self disclosure change over relationship's history?

Definition

 

 

 

goes up, plateau's, then drops off

 

 

Term

 

 

8 types of rituals

Definition

1. celebrations- holidays & occasions widely practiced        

2. traditions- relat. specific-bdays, watch fball once a week

3.patterned interact.-everyday events                                                  

a.idiomatic-pet names,baby talk                                             

b. ritualized play-teasing, contests, little games         

c.symbolic places, objects- fav. song, fav restaurant

d. everyday practices-cooking dinner together           

e. comm rituals- way you end phone call                          

Term

 

 

which parent does child disclose more to?

Definition

 

mother

Term

 

 

permeability continuum

Definition

 

low-not a lot of people let in- cant tell people

 

high- can tell people

Term

 

 

who has  higher level of satisfaction, pure or mixed marrage types?

Definition

 

 

pure because they are both on the same page

Term

 

know about privacy research

2 studies

Definition

1. goldsmith and baxter-genres study

- gossip, joking around, catching up, making plans, small talk

2. planalp close friendship study

-continuity talk-past present, future

-mutual frienship talk-gossip

-mutual knowledge- common knowledge

 

Term

 

co-ownership rules

Definition

 

can person tell others?

how much?

whom?

Term

 

which pure type of marriage has the highest level of reported satisfaction?

Definition

 

they are all the same!

Term

 

factors related to strategic deception

Definition

-greater behavioral control

-motivation to appear credible

-experience more arousal & cognitive load which they leak:

      -signs of arousal-blinking, enlarged pupils

      -increased speech errors and hesitations

      -higher voice pitch

      -descrepencies b/t verbal and nonverbal change

net advantage to deceiver because although these leak, they

become more strategic!

Term

 

grice's 4 maxims

Definition

baseline expecations we hold about talk

 

1.quality-tell truth as you know it

2.quantity-tell neither too much or too little

3. relevance-tell what's relevant to topic

4. clarity-speak with maximum clarity

Term

 

know about violations of grice's 4 maxims

Definition

a deceptive message intentionally violates these

violation of:

1.quality- the lie itself

2. quantity- exaggerating, understatement, omission

3. relevance-topic shift

4. clarity- equvocation, ambiguity, vagueness

Term

 

 

know about social-meaning approach to social influence

Definition

-persuasion guided by rules of appr. conduct for individual and relationship identities

-more focus on exchange b/t persuader & target through time

      -not just one-shot message choice by persuader-target proactive not just reactive

       -target cooperative not hostile

Term

 

 

difference between survivors and nonsurvivors in first big fight

Definition

survivors:

-conflict is inevitable

-relationships require effort and problem solving

non-survivors:

-confusion about relationship after discovering unknown features about partner & experiencing problematic interaction

Term

 

2 basic dimensions of psychological abuse

Definition

 

affect (self-esteem)

control

Term

 

differences between

CCV (common couple violence)

and

PTV (patriarchal terror violence)

Definition

CCV                                                                                             PTV

-equal parts male and female                    -mostly men

-more frequent                                                        -not as often

-both people reciprocate                                   -woman retaliates in self defense

-doesnt escalate                                                    -escalates

-more episode-specific                                      - explanation lies in societal

                                                                                           discourses of patriarchy

Term

 

demand-withdrawal

pattern

Definition
- viscous cycle- the more one demands, the more the person withdraws, which makes person demand more, and so on
Term

 

 

3 orderly approaches to breakups

Definition

 

 

1. reversal hypothesis

2. staircase model

3. 4-phase mode

Term

 

 

reversal hypothesis

Definition

- breakup is like a relationship movie shown in reverse

-behaviorally: reduction in breadth, depth of self-disclosure

-emotionally: other ceases to be rewarding

- cognitively: return of the stranger

Term

 

Duck's 4-phase model of breaking up

Definition

1. intrapsychic-inside each partner's head-reassessment of partner

2. dyadic- partners discuss the state of relat. and reach decision to break up

3. social- partners inform social network

4. grave-dressing- after the fact sense-making; moving on

Term

 

predictors of post-dissolution friendship

 

Definition

1. friends before romantic relationship

2. breakup bilateral not unilateral

3. leaver used direct tactics that gave reasons and saved face

4. leaver is male

Term

 

 

unilateral vs mutual breakups-

left and leaver roles

Definition

-unilateral: disorderly; 68% with leaver and left

-bilateral: orderly           

 

Term

 

 

direct disengagement strategies

Definition

-positive tone: explicit statement of breaking off relationship with face-saving for other

 

-justification: explicit statement of breaking off with honest reason-giving

Term

 

 

indirect disengagement strategies

Definition

1. de-escalation: call for 'temporarily' cooling off the relationship with face-saving for other

2. negative identity management: a call to date others just to 'be sure'

3. behavioral de-escalation: avoidance,                  withdrawal from interaction

Term

 

 

most frequent trajectory toward breakup

Definition

 most are unilateral with leaver & left

 

-unilateral prolonged indirectness- down spiral

-unilateral abvivalent indirectness- crazy spiral

Term

 

 

ripple effect

Definition

 

 

breakup ripples through social network

-subsequent relationship pairs also break up

Term

 

 

Wish et al.'s dimensions of relationships

Definition

1. cooperative-friendly vs. competetive-hostile

2. equal vs unequal

3. intense vs superficial

4. socioemotional-informal vs task-oriented-formal

Term

 

 

types of common couple violence

Definition

1. abusive-scaled down patr. terror; systemic; one or both ppl seek dominance-weekly severe aggr.


2. violent-systemic; 1 or both seek dominance; weekly sever aggr.


3. aggressive- episode-specific; 1 or both seek dom; bi-monthly high aggression


4. combatative-episode-spec.; 1 or both get overly upset- yearly low aggression

Term

 

 

2 disorderly approaches to break-up

Definition

Hagestad & Smyer's 3 levels of emeshment:

1.emotional attachment to partner

2. attachment to the role or persona of partner

3. attachment to daily habits or routines

ammendment: 4. affective vs. cognitive embesh.

Baxter's Flowchart Model of Breakup:

lots of different pathways!

Term

 

 

KV stages: Characteristics

Definition

1. differentiation

             -the move to 'i'

                 -focus on differences

                 -increase in destructive conflicts

2. circumscribing

                 -decrease in frequency  of interaction, breadth & depth of tak

3. stagnating

                 -standstill

                 -sense of 'what's the point' of talking

4. terminating

                - the final goodbye


Term

 

 

diagram- 5 factors that predict commitment

Definition

investment                                                                                                network support

(have to)                                                                                                            (ought to)

       (+)                                                                                                                          (+)

                                                            staying together


relationship quality                   alternatives                         love for partner

          (want to)                               (have to)                                     (want to)

                  (+)                                                 (-)                                                    (+)

Term

 

 

how is commitment communicated?

Definition

-through rituals

 

-have to, ought to, want to

 

-through dialogue

Term

 

characteristics of effective comforting

Definition

1. talking about feelings

 

2.talk about the value of the person being helped

 

3.signals that underscore the authenticity of the helper's responses

Term

 

 

research on deception detection

Definition

1. depaulo & Kashy- college data

 -deceive less as relat. closeness increases

 -self-oriented vs. other/relationship-oriented are the 2 motives for deception

 -self-centered deception less as relationship closeness increases

2. accuracy 54%-only that high b/c they knew some would be lying

 

Term

 

 

McDonald's resource theory of power

Definition

-power situated in individual

-normative resources-legit auth. based on social expecations

    -affective resources-ability to give love, affection, caring for each other

    -personal-attractiveness, competance, interp. skills, personality

    -cognition- quality of insights, thoughts, processes

    -economic-access to money, material possessions

Term

 

 

Foucault's theory of power

Definition

-power located in dominant discourses

-target proactive

-way things are

-Social meaning perspective

Term

 

 

Social -meaning perspective

 

Definition
  • persuasion is a social undertaking guided by rules of appropriate conduct for individual and relationship identities
  • saving face
  • more focuses on exchange b/t persuader and target thru time- not just a one shot message
  • target proactive, not reactive
  • target cooperative, not hostile
Term

 

 

Social-influence tactics

Definition

verbal influence strategies:

  • adversive stim-whining, crying, pouting, etc
  • manipulation- guilt/shame
  • withdrawal
  • deception
  • criticism-insulting, blame
  • threats
  • force
Term

 

 

statement labeling

Definition

simply the identification of a statement as a fact, feeling, or inference-

inference not labeled:

a-i saw your car parked in front of his house

b-oh ya? did you check the glove compartment for my registration? or maybe the serial number?

labeled:

a. i saw a car like looked like yours parked in front of his house and assumed it was yours

b. well you assumed wrong. it wasnt mine

Term

 

 

paraphrase ground rule

Definition

-repeating what the person said back to them before stating your own opinion

Term

 

 

mindreading

Definition

-the assumption of complete knowledge of the other person's thoughts and motives

Term

 

 

content and procedural knowlege components of communication competence/effectiveness

Definition
  • content- knowing WHAT
  • procedural-knowing HOW
  • effectiveness/competence is NOT AN ABSOLUTE matter but is relative to what perspective you adopt
Term

 

 

4 approaches to communication competence

Definition
  • expectancy
  • hierarchical
  • attributional
  • social-dialectical
Term

 

 

Expectancy approach

Definition
  • key theme: social appropriateness
  • meeting expectations of others-please others
  • content-know what are you to expect
  • proc-what actions are needed to fulfill expectations?
  • competence-ability to respond to expectations
Term

 

 

Hierarchical approach

Definition
  • rehearsal-be strategic; plan ahead
  • key theme: goal and plan
  • competence: ability to achieve goals efficiently and smoothly
  • content: goal formulation: what do i want to achieve?
  • proc.: plan formatin: how to best accomplish goals; plan complexity: contingency-based; online monitoring of plans: adaptation of emergemnt situation; implementing actions in timely and smooth manner
Term

 

 

Attributional theory

Definition
  • agency and responsibility
  • key theme: locus of control
  • competence: ability to analyze and act on other's attributions of one's actions
  • content: situational analysis:how are others attributions my actions? to me or the sitation?
  • proc.: knowing when & how to take/deny responsibility for actions
Term

 

 

social dialectical approach

Definition
  • we're struggling together in discourses!
  • key theme:  contradiction
  • competence: joint ability to negotiate competing discourses
  • content: knowing that life is complicated w/ contraictions
  • proc.: joint action options:

     -creating authoritative discourses

          -segmenting by time or domain which discourse will be primary, which secondary          -strategic ambiguity          -synergistic engagement

                  

Term



why do taboo topics in friendships and romantic relationships exist? what is the function of privacy and topic avoidance?

what are the 6 taboo topics?

Definition

- it protects self, others, and the relationship

  1. extra-relational activities
  2. relationship rules
  3. previous relationships
  4. negative self-disclosures
  5. problem isses from past
  6. state of relationship
Term

 

 

how is the social-meaning perspective different from the traditional approach?

Definition

-it is an exchange between 2 people

-the target is proactive not reactive

-its not trying to battle and dominate with the persuader-its cooperative

Term

 

 

the recency effect

Definition

-even if the deceiver starts off rocky and the person doubts them, if the last thing the person sees/hears makes them believe them temporarily, they won't think of how they didnt believe them at first

-listener only pays attention to the last thing they heard and whether or not the believed them

Term

 

 

what is the difference between a rupture and incrimental decay

Definition

-rupture violates a relationship rule that the relationship is built on

example: trust

-the difference is in what kind of rule is broken

Term

 

 

What characterizes the communication in distressed couples?

Definition
  • more negativity and sarcasm
  • engaged in more:
  • cross-complaining loops critizice communication skills
  • more metacommunication loops
  • more proposal-counter loops
Term

 

 

Chamber of horrors

Definition
  • extremes
  1. helpful-critical
  2. active-passive
  3. aggressive-evasive
  4. dominating-submissive
  5. certain-provisional
Term

 

 

Helpful-critical

(chamber of horrors)

Definition

helpful:

-one instance is when someone insists on giving help when the other doesn't need or request any help

-2nd is when one requests help,  and other person agrees to help but doesn't deliver
ex-helping tell a funny story

Critical:

-usually raw negativity

-if there is a chance of finding a flaw, and there usually is, it is found and brought up

-variation  can be when the first person's complaint is countered with a complaint by the second person

-2nd variation is when the criticism is frozen in time: uses the past as a weapon to prove "you'll always be who you used to be"

Term

 

 

Active-passive patterns

(chamber of horrors)

Definition

active:

- equivalent to something like a siamese twin; always with you

- interactions char. by high degree of talkativeness, extraversion, a never-ending list of questions, intense involvement in almost every topic

passive:

-person withdrawn, uninvolved, and introverted

-can only appear at certain times like when a sensitive topic is brought up

-or can be more characteristic of a person's general communicative style

-ex. can be someone dramatizing need to withdraw by announcing departure at an innapropriate juncture-saying 'im going to bed' in the middle of another person's statement

Term

 

 

Aggressive-Evasive Patterns

(chamber of horrors)

Definition

Aggressive:

-very straighforward, person takes full responsibilities for their messages

-hassling sequence-repartee,cliche, name calling, provocatin, psychological degeneration

-hostility and control

Evasive:

-less direct: tangents, misdirection, vagueness, confusion

-changing focus of responsibility-distract, divert attn away from self

-changing direction of conversation-topic shift

-changing level of convo-shifting from specific analysis to more general, abstract one or going from serious-joking or vice versa

-sending incongruous messages-2 simultaneous messages that comm. 2 very different things-sarcasm

Term

 

 

Dominating-submissive patterns

(chamber of horrors)

Definition

dominating:

-person plays constant game of winning and losing

-life a continual parade of competition where one person wins pwr n one loses

-tries to become main source of important rewards & punishments-for pwr

-asserts 'expertise' on all topics

-sees people as merely inferior or superior- strong or weak

submissive:

-exaggeration of dependency, doesn't like responsibility, puts down self

-"im not ok if youre not ok"


Term

 

 

certain-provisional patterns

Definition

Certain:

-a know it all

- know about everything about something

-denies importance of other people's perceptions

-self-fulfilling prophecy:  the process of predicting an outcome brings about that outcome-begins with false definittion of situation

Provisional:

-person constantly uncertain, provisional, expresses qualification

-wont say anything for sure

-closure rare-tasks and decisions left up in the air

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