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1. attachment-emot. & phys.- i love you, spending time together
2.promise- commitment is speech act- wedding, vow renewal
3. dedication- staying through challenges and difficulties |
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describe have to, ought to, want to |
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have to- no alternatives, can't leave
want to- desire to stay long term
ought to- moral obligation, others expectations |
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how does self disclosure change over relationship's history? |
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goes up, plateau's, then drops off
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1. celebrations- holidays & occasions widely practiced
2. traditions- relat. specific-bdays, watch fball once a week
3.patterned interact.-everyday events
a.idiomatic-pet names,baby talk
b. ritualized play-teasing, contests, little games
c.symbolic places, objects- fav. song, fav restaurant
d. everyday practices-cooking dinner together
e. comm rituals- way you end phone call |
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which parent does child disclose more to? |
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low-not a lot of people let in- cant tell people
high- can tell people |
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who has higher level of satisfaction, pure or mixed marrage types? |
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pure because they are both on the same page |
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know about privacy research
2 studies |
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1. goldsmith and baxter-genres study
- gossip, joking around, catching up, making plans, small talk
2. planalp close friendship study
-continuity talk-past present, future
-mutual frienship talk-gossip
-mutual knowledge- common knowledge
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can person tell others?
how much?
whom? |
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which pure type of marriage has the highest level of reported satisfaction? |
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factors related to strategic deception |
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-greater behavioral control
-motivation to appear credible
-experience more arousal & cognitive load which they leak:
-signs of arousal-blinking, enlarged pupils
-increased speech errors and hesitations
-higher voice pitch
-descrepencies b/t verbal and nonverbal change
net advantage to deceiver because although these leak, they
become more strategic!
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baseline expecations we hold about talk
1.quality-tell truth as you know it
2.quantity-tell neither too much or too little
3. relevance-tell what's relevant to topic
4. clarity-speak with maximum clarity |
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know about violations of grice's 4 maxims |
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a deceptive message intentionally violates these
violation of:
1.quality- the lie itself
2. quantity- exaggerating, understatement, omission
3. relevance-topic shift
4. clarity- equvocation, ambiguity, vagueness |
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know about social-meaning approach to social influence |
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-persuasion guided by rules of appr. conduct for individual and relationship identities
-more focus on exchange b/t persuader & target through time
-not just one-shot message choice by persuader-target proactive not just reactive
-target cooperative not hostile |
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difference between survivors and nonsurvivors in first big fight |
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survivors:
-conflict is inevitable
-relationships require effort and problem solving
non-survivors:
-confusion about relationship after discovering unknown features about partner & experiencing problematic interaction |
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2 basic dimensions of psychological abuse |
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affect (self-esteem)
control |
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differences between
CCV (common couple violence)
and
PTV (patriarchal terror violence) |
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CCV PTV
-equal parts male and female -mostly men
-more frequent -not as often
-both people reciprocate -woman retaliates in self defense
-doesnt escalate -escalates
-more episode-specific - explanation lies in societal
discourses of patriarchy
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demand-withdrawal
pattern |
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- viscous cycle- the more one demands, the more the person withdraws, which makes person demand more, and so on |
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3 orderly approaches to breakups |
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1. reversal hypothesis
2. staircase model
3. 4-phase mode |
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- breakup is like a relationship movie shown in reverse
-behaviorally: reduction in breadth, depth of self-disclosure
-emotionally: other ceases to be rewarding
- cognitively: return of the stranger |
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Duck's 4-phase model of breaking up |
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1. intrapsychic-inside each partner's head-reassessment of partner
2. dyadic- partners discuss the state of relat. and reach decision to break up
3. social- partners inform social network
4. grave-dressing- after the fact sense-making; moving on |
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predictors of post-dissolution friendship
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1. friends before romantic relationship
2. breakup bilateral not unilateral
3. leaver used direct tactics that gave reasons and saved face
4. leaver is male |
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unilateral vs mutual breakups-
left and leaver roles |
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Definition
-unilateral: disorderly; 68% with leaver and left
-bilateral: orderly
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direct disengagement strategies |
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Definition
-positive tone: explicit statement of breaking off relationship with face-saving for other
-justification: explicit statement of breaking off with honest reason-giving |
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indirect disengagement strategies |
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1. de-escalation: call for 'temporarily' cooling off the relationship with face-saving for other
2. negative identity management: a call to date others just to 'be sure'
3. behavioral de-escalation: avoidance, withdrawal from interaction |
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most frequent trajectory toward breakup |
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most are unilateral with leaver & left
-unilateral prolonged indirectness- down spiral
-unilateral abvivalent indirectness- crazy spiral |
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breakup ripples through social network
-subsequent relationship pairs also break up |
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Wish et al.'s dimensions of relationships |
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1. cooperative-friendly vs. competetive-hostile
2. equal vs unequal
3. intense vs superficial
4. socioemotional-informal vs task-oriented-formal |
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types of common couple violence |
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1. abusive-scaled down patr. terror; systemic; one or both ppl seek dominance-weekly severe aggr.
2. violent-systemic; 1 or both seek dominance; weekly sever aggr.
3. aggressive- episode-specific; 1 or both seek dom; bi-monthly high aggression
4. combatative-episode-spec.; 1 or both get overly upset- yearly low aggression |
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2 disorderly approaches to break-up |
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Hagestad & Smyer's 3 levels of emeshment:
1.emotional attachment to partner
2. attachment to the role or persona of partner
3. attachment to daily habits or routines
ammendment: 4. affective vs. cognitive embesh.
Baxter's Flowchart Model of Breakup:
lots of different pathways!
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KV stages: Characteristics |
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1. differentiation
-the move to 'i'
-focus on differences
-increase in destructive conflicts
2. circumscribing
-decrease in frequency of interaction, breadth & depth of tak
3. stagnating
-standstill
-sense of 'what's the point' of talking
4. terminating
- the final goodbye
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diagram- 5 factors that predict commitment |
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investment network support
(have to) (ought to)
(+) (+)
staying together
relationship quality alternatives love for partner
(want to) (have to) (want to)
(+) (-) (+) |
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how is commitment communicated? |
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Definition
-through rituals
-have to, ought to, want to
-through dialogue |
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characteristics of effective comforting |
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1. talking about feelings
2.talk about the value of the person being helped
3.signals that underscore the authenticity of the helper's responses |
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research on deception detection |
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1. depaulo & Kashy- college data
-deceive less as relat. closeness increases
-self-oriented vs. other/relationship-oriented are the 2 motives for deception
-self-centered deception less as relationship closeness increases
2. accuracy 54%-only that high b/c they knew some would be lying
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McDonald's resource theory of power |
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Definition
-power situated in individual
-normative resources-legit auth. based on social expecations
-affective resources-ability to give love, affection, caring for each other
-personal-attractiveness, competance, interp. skills, personality
-cognition- quality of insights, thoughts, processes
-economic-access to money, material possessions
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Foucault's theory of power |
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-power located in dominant discourses
-target proactive
-way things are
-Social meaning perspective |
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Social -meaning perspective
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- persuasion is a social undertaking guided by rules of appropriate conduct for individual and relationship identities
- saving face
- more focuses on exchange b/t persuader and target thru time- not just a one shot message
- target proactive, not reactive
- target cooperative, not hostile
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verbal influence strategies:
- adversive stim-whining, crying, pouting, etc
- manipulation- guilt/shame
- withdrawal
- deception
- criticism-insulting, blame
- threats
- force
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simply the identification of a statement as a fact, feeling, or inference-
inference not labeled:
a-i saw your car parked in front of his house
b-oh ya? did you check the glove compartment for my registration? or maybe the serial number?
labeled:
a. i saw a car like looked like yours parked in front of his house and assumed it was yours
b. well you assumed wrong. it wasnt mine |
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-repeating what the person said back to them before stating your own opinion |
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-the assumption of complete knowledge of the other person's thoughts and motives |
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content and procedural knowlege components of communication competence/effectiveness |
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- content- knowing WHAT
- procedural-knowing HOW
- effectiveness/competence is NOT AN ABSOLUTE matter but is relative to what perspective you adopt
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4 approaches to communication competence |
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- expectancy
- hierarchical
- attributional
- social-dialectical
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- key theme: social appropriateness
- meeting expectations of others-please others
- content-know what are you to expect
- proc-what actions are needed to fulfill expectations?
- competence-ability to respond to expectations
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Definition
- rehearsal-be strategic; plan ahead
- key theme: goal and plan
- competence: ability to achieve goals efficiently and smoothly
- content: goal formulation: what do i want to achieve?
- proc.: plan formatin: how to best accomplish goals; plan complexity: contingency-based; online monitoring of plans: adaptation of emergemnt situation; implementing actions in timely and smooth manner
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- agency and responsibility
- key theme: locus of control
- competence: ability to analyze and act on other's attributions of one's actions
- content: situational analysis:how are others attributions my actions? to me or the sitation?
- proc.: knowing when & how to take/deny responsibility for actions
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social dialectical approach |
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- we're struggling together in discourses!
- key theme: contradiction
- competence: joint ability to negotiate competing discourses
- content: knowing that life is complicated w/ contraictions
- proc.: joint action options:
-creating authoritative discourses
-segmenting by time or domain which discourse will be primary, which secondary -strategic ambiguity -synergistic engagement
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why do taboo topics in friendships and romantic relationships exist? what is the function of privacy and topic avoidance? what are the 6 taboo topics?
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- it protects self, others, and the relationship - extra-relational activities
- relationship rules
- previous relationships
- negative self-disclosures
- problem isses from past
- state of relationship
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how is the social-meaning perspective different from the traditional approach? |
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-it is an exchange between 2 people
-the target is proactive not reactive
-its not trying to battle and dominate with the persuader-its cooperative |
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-even if the deceiver starts off rocky and the person doubts them, if the last thing the person sees/hears makes them believe them temporarily, they won't think of how they didnt believe them at first
-listener only pays attention to the last thing they heard and whether or not the believed them |
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what is the difference between a rupture and incrimental decay |
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-rupture violates a relationship rule that the relationship is built on
example: trust
-the difference is in what kind of rule is broken |
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What characterizes the communication in distressed couples? |
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- more negativity and sarcasm
- engaged in more:
- cross-complaining loops critizice communication skills
- more metacommunication loops
- more proposal-counter loops
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Term
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Definition
- helpful-critical
- active-passive
- aggressive-evasive
- dominating-submissive
- certain-provisional
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Helpful-critical
(chamber of horrors) |
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helpful:
-one instance is when someone insists on giving help when the other doesn't need or request any help
-2nd is when one requests help, and other person agrees to help but doesn't deliver ex-helping tell a funny story
Critical:
-usually raw negativity
-if there is a chance of finding a flaw, and there usually is, it is found and brought up
-variation can be when the first person's complaint is countered with a complaint by the second person
-2nd variation is when the criticism is frozen in time: uses the past as a weapon to prove "you'll always be who you used to be"
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Active-passive patterns
(chamber of horrors) |
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active:
- equivalent to something like a siamese twin; always with you
- interactions char. by high degree of talkativeness, extraversion, a never-ending list of questions, intense involvement in almost every topic
passive:
-person withdrawn, uninvolved, and introverted
-can only appear at certain times like when a sensitive topic is brought up
-or can be more characteristic of a person's general communicative style
-ex. can be someone dramatizing need to withdraw by announcing departure at an innapropriate juncture-saying 'im going to bed' in the middle of another person's statement
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Aggressive-Evasive Patterns
(chamber of horrors) |
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Aggressive:
-very straighforward, person takes full responsibilities for their messages
-hassling sequence-repartee,cliche, name calling, provocatin, psychological degeneration
-hostility and control
Evasive:
-less direct: tangents, misdirection, vagueness, confusion
-changing focus of responsibility-distract, divert attn away from self
-changing direction of conversation-topic shift
-changing level of convo-shifting from specific analysis to more general, abstract one or going from serious-joking or vice versa
-sending incongruous messages-2 simultaneous messages that comm. 2 very different things-sarcasm
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Dominating-submissive patterns
(chamber of horrors) |
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dominating:
-person plays constant game of winning and losing
-life a continual parade of competition where one person wins pwr n one loses
-tries to become main source of important rewards & punishments-for pwr
-asserts 'expertise' on all topics
-sees people as merely inferior or superior- strong or weak
submissive:
-exaggeration of dependency, doesn't like responsibility, puts down self
-"im not ok if youre not ok"
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certain-provisional patterns |
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Certain:
-a know it all
- know about everything about something
-denies importance of other people's perceptions
-self-fulfilling prophecy: the process of predicting an outcome brings about that outcome-begins with false definittion of situation
Provisional:
-person constantly uncertain, provisional, expresses qualification
-wont say anything for sure
-closure rare-tasks and decisions left up in the air
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