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interpersonal test chapter 10
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Communication
Undergraduate 3
11/23/2012

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Liking
Definition
feeling of affection and respect that we have for our friends
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affection
Definition
sense of warmth and fondness towards that person
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respect
Definition
admiration for another person apart from how he or she treats you and communicates with you
Term
loving
Definition
vast deeper intimacy, more tense emotional commitment, 3 components
1. intimacy: closeness union
2. caring: concern you have for your partner's welfare or desire
3. attachment: longing to be in your partner's presence as much as possible
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Different types of romantic love:
Definition
passionate love, companionate love, romantic friendship
Term
passionate love
Definition
state of intense emotional or physical longing for union

5 important facts of in experience and expression:
1. driven
2. feel
3. no gender or age differences exist
4. sexuality and sexual desire
5. negatively related to relationship duration
Term
companionate love
Definition
intense form of liking defined by emotional investment and deeply intertwined lives , many long term relationships evolve companionate love
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Greek names, romantic love
Definition
-storge: friendly lovers
-agape: forgiving lovers
-mania: obsessive lovers
-pragma: practical lovers
-ludus: game playing lovers
-eros: romantic lovers
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romantic relationship
Definition
chosen interpersonal involvement forged through communication through which participants see bond as romantic
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Five key elements to romantic love
Definition
1. perception
2. diversity
3. choice
4. tensions
5. communication
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relational dialects
Definition
competing impulses or tensions between ourselves and feelings toward others
Term
three forms of relational dialects
Definition
openess vs protection: sharing personal info
autonomy vs connection: feeling so connected our identity dissolves
novelty vs predictability: our need for stability, excitement, and change
Term
Proximity
Definition
being in anothers presence frequently exerts far more impact on romantic attraction than many other people think
Term
mere exposure effect
Definition
being more attracted to those you come in contact with more
Term
beautiful-is-good effect
Definition
people feel more drawn to those that are more physically attractive
Term
matching
Definition
forming long term relationships with those that we think are similar to ourselves in physical attractiveness
Term
Birds of a feather effect
Definition
attract to those that are similar to ourselves
similarity: sharing parallel personalities, values, and likes dislikes
Term
Social Exchange Theory
Definition
proposes that you will feel drawn to those you see as offering substantial benefits:
1. rewards
2. and knowing the rewards are superior to those you can get elsewhere
Term
Equity
Definition
balance of benefits and cost
Term
5 stages of coming together
Definition
1. initiating- sizing up someone u just met
2. experimenting-exchange info, small talk
3. intensifying- revealing previously withheld info
4. integrating- you and your partners personalities become one
5. Bonding: announcement to world of commitment to one another
Term
5 Stages of coming apart
Definition
1. differentiating: your beliefs, values start dominating your thoughts
2. circumscribing: begin to restrict quantity and quality of info you share
3. stagnating: no safe conversational topics, comm. slow
4. avoiding: no longer be around each other, distancing
5. terminating: discuss past, present, and future of relationship
Term
Relational maintenance
Definition
refers to the romantic efforts to keep relationship in desired condition
Term
positivity maintenance strategies
Definition
- most frequent tactic, comm cheerfully and using optimism , favors, gifts
Term
openess:maintenance strategies
Definition
create climate of security, and trust
Term
assurance; maintenance strategies
Definition
reaffirm commitment, messages that emphasize depth of intimacy, stress mutual commitment, and describe future
Term
sharing activities: maintenance strategies
Definition
sharing enjoyable activities
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sharing tasksmaintenance strategies
Definition
jointly sharing grunt work, day to day tasks
Term
social networksmaintenance strategies
Definition
friends and family approve
Term
voice strategy confronting relationship crisis
Definition
active, constructive approach, talks directly
Term
loyalty strategyconfronting relationship crisis
Definition
passive constructive approach, avoid directly comm, wait for feelings to get better
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exit strategyconfronting relationship crisis
Definition
dealing with relationship with thinking about leaving, threatening to leave, or leaving
Term
neglect strategy confronting relationship crisis
Definition
cut back on time, avoid discussion
Term
Deciding whether to maintain, four criteria:
Definition
1. are you still in love?
2. is your relationship equitable?
3. do you and your partner share values and personality
4. do your fam and friends support
Term
Dysfuntional relationship beliefs
Definition
1. all disagreement is destructive
2. mind reading is mandatory
3. incapable of change
4. every sexual encounter should be perfect
5. men and women are completely diff
Term
jealousy
Definition
protective reaction to a perceived threat to a valued relationship
Wedging: person using photos or messages to try and get inbetween someone in a romantic relationship
Term
3 strategies to best deal with jealousy
Definition
1. self reliance: aloowing yourself to feel jealous but not letting whatever sparked your jealousy to interrupt you
2. self holstering: combating jealous thoughts with positive affirmations about yourself
3. selective ignoring; pretending that what made you jealous isnt important
Term
Betrayal
Definition
hurtful actions inflicted by one partner over the other, betrayal is intentional
relational devaluation: realization that our partners do not love and respect us as much as we thought they did
Term
sexual infidelity
Definition
most destructive, cheating,
Term
deception:
Definition
misleading your partner by intentionally withholding info or presenting false info
Term
dating violence
Definition
escalates over time, often doesnt involve full blown physical violence until relationships are firmly est, potential abusers usually mask their jealousy, anger, control issues during early stages of relationship
Term
IMPortant
Definition
relationships last because partners learn that voicing concerns, and working together to solve crises they face. they survive because they know sex wont always be perfect, they wont always agree, and cant always read each other's minds. providing positive and openness, sharing time to talk, providing assurances feeds their love as fertilizer feeds plants. Betrayal can poison.
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