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| Rules for Romantic Relationships |
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- Acknowledge each other's individual identities and lives beyond the relationship
- Express similar attitudes, beliefs, values, and interests
- Enhance each other's self-worth and self-esteem
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| Relationship Turning Points |
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- Various movements throughout a relationship. they can be positive or negative and vary by culture. Turning points occur gradually and are defined by signifigant events which alter the nature of the relationship
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- Contact
- Involvement
- Intimacy
- Deterioration
- Repair or Dissolution
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- Perceptual Contact: a person sees, hears, reads a message, or smells another person
- Interactional Contact: two people exchange basic information, and a first impression is formed
- Flirting occurs here
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- Sense of mutuality and being connected develops between two people
- People test their partners to find out how invested the partner is
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- Interpersonal Committment: 2 people commit to each other in a private way
- Social Bonding: commitment is made public
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| Anxieties Encountered in Intimacy Stage |
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- Security
- Fulfillment
- Excitement
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- Weakening of the bonds between a couple
- Can be interpersonal or intrapersonal
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- This stage is not always pursued. Intrapersonal and interpersonal.
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- Bonds between the individuals are broken
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- You ask your partner directly how he or she feels or you disclose your own feelings
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- A condition in which the breadth and depth of a relationship decrease (like topic of discussion)
- Usually happens when a relationship begins to deteriorate
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- Intrapersonal dissatisfaction: begin to think negatively about interactions with other person for instance
- Interpersonal deterioration: grow apart
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- Working overtime, washing dishes, watching your partner's favorite television show which you do not like
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- The breadth of a relationship has to do with how many topics you and your partner talk about
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- Concerns that you may not be able to achieve a close, warm, and special rapport or that you won't be able to have an equal relationship
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- Feeling what another person feels from that person's point of view without losing your own identity.
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| Money and Power In Relationships |
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- It's important in relationships because it's closely connected to power. The more money you bring into the relationship, the more power you hold within the relationship.
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- Break the Loneliness-Depression Cycle
- Take Time Out
- Bolster Self-Esteem
- Remove/Avoid Uncomfortable Symbols
- Seek Support
- Avoid Repeating Negative Patterns
- Women experience greater depression and social dysfunction after breakup
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| Undefined or Unrealistic Expectations |
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- One of the causes of relationship deterioration
- If you and your partner hold different or unrealistic beliefs, your relationship is more likely to experience instability and interpersonal distancing
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- De-escalation - a strategy of disengagement that is used to get out of a relationship; reduces the intensity of the relationship.
- More likely to remain friends with your partner after relationship ends than if you use other strategies
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| Relaitonship Repair Steps |
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- Interpersonal repair
- use productive communication and conflict resolution
- Intrapersonal Repair
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- insightful way to affirm anther person and to increase favor exchange
- small gestures you enjoy receiving from your partner (a smile, a wink, a squeeze, a kiss).
- Should be capable of being performed daily, easily executed.
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| Internet and Social Isolation |
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- Overall, for some users the Internet strengthens social connections with friends and family, but for others it substitutes face-to-face social interactions and connections
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- friendship of association- is a transitory friendship
- may be described as more of a friendly relationship than a true friendship.
- the kind of friendship we have with classmates, coworkers, or neighbors
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- This type of communication patern exists when there is one person in a relationship that is seen as the authority.
- That person lectures instead of communicates, that person does not seek advice, and that person always has the final say
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- Compasionnate, egoless, self-giving love
- Philosophical kind of love that most people don't have strength to achieve
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- Attention focused on beauty and physical attractiveness
- Idealized image of beauty that is unattainable in reality
- Sensisitve to physical imperfections
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- Utility: friend who is useful
- Affirmation
- Ego support: supporting and encouraging
- Stimulation: introduces you to new ideas and ways of seeing the world
- Security: someone who does nothing to hurt you or call attention to your foibles
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- Someone who will affirm your personal value and help you recognize your attributes
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- a feeling characterized by closeness and caring through intimacy, passion and commitment. It can be developed, maintained, enhanced but can be also destroyed through communication.
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| Negative Effects of Conflict |
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leads to increased negative feelings, as a result of unfair fighting methods
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creates an imbalance between costs and rewards --> relationship deterioration or dissolution
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- I win, you win
- Your concern is with both your own and the other person's needs
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- the practice of storing up grievances so they may be unloaded at another time
- Usually when one person gunnysacks, the other person gunnysacks too, therefore no real attention if focused on the present problem
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- it is your willingness to argue for a point of view, your tendency to speak your mind on significant issues.
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- conflict techniques that literally silence the other individual
- crying, feigning extreme emotionalism, physical reactions
- problem: don't know if it's real or face
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- A strategy that supports and confirms a person’s positive face (praise, a pat on the back, smiling) or negative face (giving a person space, or asking rather than demanding)
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- Empowered people are more likely to take a personal interest in a relationship or job
- Raise others self-esteem and share skills and decision making
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- A type of power in which you make others wish to be like you or to be identified with you.
- Depends greatly on attractiveness and prestige
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- If you can make people believe that many others have done what you've requested, they'll be more likely to follow
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- It involves revealing that you have high and good character as well as enduring values.
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- Direct requests
- Bargaining or Promising: doing something only if other person agrees to do something too
- Ingratiation: sucking up so you get what you want
- Manipulation: making other person feel bad until they give you what you want
- Threatening
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- A type of avoidance where you refuse to direct any attention to managing the conflict or to listen to another person's arguments
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- Done through speaking, nonverbal communication (clothing), and listening (eye contact and stuff)
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- A specific type of language that ask for the responding individual to state agreement
- e.g. that was a great movie, wasn't it?
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