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Interpersonal Comm test 2
test 2
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Communication
Undergraduate 1
10/30/2012

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Misconceptions about listening (5)
Definition

Listening is natural

Listening is passive 

You are a good listener when you try

Listening is just about words 

All listeners recieve the same message

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Listening 
Definition
The process of creating meaning from verbal/nonverbal messages 
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Hearing 
Definition
The physiological process of decoding sound 
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Active vs. Passive listening 
Definition
We respond in an affective and appropriate way vs blank stares and not 
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Pseudolistening 
Definition
You appear to be listening when you really aren't 
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The 5 step listening process 
Definition

Hearing 

Attending (focusing on the sound)

Understanding (assigning meaning)

Remembering

Responding 

 

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People-Oriented listening
Definition

You listen with the other person in mind

Time is not an issue

builds up the relationship 

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Action-Oriented Listening
Definition

You listen to get something accomplished 

Efficiency is important 

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Content-Oriented 
Definition
You listen for specific content 
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Time-oriented 
Definition

you are more focused on time than anything else

Emotion is not very involved 

Efficiency is also very important 

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Silent Listening 
Definition

Staying attentive 

Showing your listening with non verbal ques

Not actually saying anything 

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Questioning 
Definition

Asking for additional information 

  

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Paraphrasing 
Definition
restating what the speaker says in your own words 
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Empathizing 
Definition

We reflect back to the speaker what they are feeling

We want to feel what they are feeling to better relate

 

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Supporting 

 

Definition

We reflect to the speaker what we feel about the situation

"aggreeing with what the other person is saying"

 

 

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Analyzing 
Definition

When you offer your interpretation of what was said

"So this is what I see happening" 

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Evaluating 
Definition

Offer an appraisal of what was said 

 

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Advising 
Definition

This where you offer advice to what was said. 

Most common form of responding 

This is what you should do 

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Words are...
Definition

sybolic 

arbitrary 

context bound 

culturally bound

abstract or concrete 

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Semantic Triangle of meaning 
Definition

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Bottem line is arbitrary 

(the relationship between the word and the thing) 

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Speech Act Theory 
Definition

Language is not just a way of saying something it is a way of doing actions 

 

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Indirect Speech Act 
Definition

Doing one action while seeming to do another 

Are you hungry? (seen as an offer for food) 

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Constitutive Rules 
Definition
Rules define what the act will "count as" 
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Regulative Rules 
Definition

Indicate what we think the other person should or will do next 

(Hello walk, "hey how are you" you expect "pretty good how are you")

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Sapir/Whorf Hypotheis 
Definition

The language others use influence how we percieve reality

(if your friends swear alot you will probably swear more)  

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Word Barriers 
Definition

Bypassing 

Bafflgab 

Lack of precision

Allness

Static evaluation 

Polarization 

Biased language 

Term

Bypassing 

 

Definition
A word or words mean different things to different people 
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Bafflegab 
Definition

Using abstract language 

Jargon

 

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Lack of precision 
Definition

Lack of specific direction 

"where is the ball, it's over there! vs its in the lawn on top of the chair" 

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Allness
Definition

All mexicans mow lawns 

you are always on your phone 

An all encompassing statement 

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Static Evaluation 
Definition

A statement that fails to recognize change 

People never change 

"your a really messy person" 

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Polarization 
Definition

Evaluate in extremes 

either REALLY good or REALLY bad 

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Biased Language 
Definition

racist language 

those gays are really gay 

 

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Difference in male/female language 
Definition

Women: less asertive, insecure, emotional, longer sentencees 

 

Men: I, direct statements, fragmented sentences 

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Self-Disclosure characteristics 
Definition

§  Moves in small increments
·      We reveal a little bit about ourselves at a time
§  Moves from less personal to more personal
·      Start out with superficial to more personal things
§  Is reciprocal
·      Diatec affect
o   I disclose something then you do
o   Unwritten rule (we do it all the time)
§  Involves risk
·      Once you tell someone something you cannot control what they do with it

§  Involves trust

·      We expect our friends to keep our confidences 

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What are some reasons we disclose information?
Definition
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What are some reasons to disclose?
Definition

§  1.) Increase self-understanding

§  2.) Helps develop relationship

·      Disclosure-liking

§  3.) Helps manage the impressions we send

§  4.) Catharsis

·      the purging of emotions

·      get it off your chest 

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Reasons NOT to disclose? 
Definition

§  Fear of negative judgment

§  Fear abandonment

§  Concern over loss of control

§  Fear of angry attacks 

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Appropriate disclosure 
Definition

Emotional - Is the other person emotionally ready to hear what you have to say?

Relevance - Is it relevant to diclose the information?

Situational - Is it the right place or time? 

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Social Penetration theory
Definition

The onion

Depth -how deep the info is

Breadth - the amount of info

Frequency - how often you disclose 

Valence - the positive or negative 

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Johari Window 
Definition

Open Self- Things we know about ourselves and others do too

Hidden Self- Things we know about ourselves but others don't

Blind self- Things others know about us that we don't 

Unknown self- Things nobody knows about ourselves 

 

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Verbal vs nonverbal communication 
Definition

Verbal communication uses language (both spoken and written) 

Nonverbal transmits meaning without the use of words 

All aspects of the voice are NONverbal except the words we are saying 

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Why is nonverbal communication important? (6)
Definition

More believable 

Ever present in face-to-face situations 

Can enhance or inhibit understanding 

Communicate feelings and attitudes 

Can express what verbal cues can't 

Can be more efficient that nonverbal cues 

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Interpreting nonverbal messages 

 

Definition

Ambiguious 

Continuous

Multichanneled

Intentional or Unintentional 

Interpretation is culturally basesd 

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Intimacy/Involvement and Dominance 
Definition

Signaling likeness and approach

(high voice, smile, closer proximity) 

 

Dominance, important, power, authority

(lower voice, stand taller, less gestures)

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Nonverbal Communication Codes (8)
Definition
  • Facial Expressions
  •     Facial Primacy 
  • Oculescics 
  •     Funcions of the eye
  • Kinesics
  • Vocalics
  • Olfactics
  • Chronemics
  • Proxemics
  •    use of personal space 
  • Haptics 
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Facial Expressions 
Definition

The face tells us the most about how someone is feeling

(facial primacy) 

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Oculesics (function of the eye)
Definition

Cognitive function - thought process of others

Monitoring function - monitor the behavior of others

Regulatory function - regulate flow of conv.

Expressive function - tells us emotional state

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Kinesics 
Definition

Study of movement and gestures 

(wide degree of culture variation)

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Vocalics 
Definition

Study of the voice 

Clarifies the content of the verbal message

tells us how close people are 

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Olfactics 
Definition

Study of smell

pheromones 

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Haptics 
Definition

study of touch

communicates intimacy! 

 

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Chronemics
Definition

study of time 

communicates importance and power

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Proxemics 
Definition

Use of personal space 

How we use personal space and distance 

NO PDA 

 

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Deception definition 
Definition

o   Act that “fosters in another persona a belief or understanding with the deceiver considers false” 

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Forms of Deception 
Definition

o   Falsification

§  We just make something up

o   Omission

§  Leaving out some of the details

§  Not telling the whole truth

o   Exaggeration

§  Embellishment of the facts

o   Equivocation

§  Not answering the question

§  Tip toeing

§  Politician speak

§  Beat around the bush 

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Reasons for deception
Definition

o   Partner-focused motives

§  To avoid hurting the other person

§  To help protect

§  To avoid worrying

§  Can be a white lie

o   Self focused reasons

§  Shielding ourselves from embarrassment, harm, criticism

o   Relationship focused

§  Protecting the relationship in some way

§  Reducing conflict

 

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Common Leakage Cues
Definition

§  The voice

·      Pitch increases

·      Talk faster

§  Speech errors

§  Facial expressions

§  Body movement

·      Self adapter

o   Adjust some aspect of the self

§  The eyes

·      EYE CONTACT IS NOT AN INDICATOR OF LYING

·      People blink more when they lie

                                              Pupils dilate

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Guidelines for recognizing deception
Definition

§  One clue? No clue.

·      Look for multiple cues

§  Context

·      If a person is nervous they can give away the same cues

§  Behavior familiarity

§  55% accuracy   

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Misinterpretation Errors 
Definition

Othello Error- you make people nervous when you accuse them of lying so they show signs of lying even when they are not

Truth and Deceit Bias - (the boy who cried wolf) past behavior tells us if they are lying or telling the truth 

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