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Misconceptions about listening (5) |
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Listening is natural
Listening is passive
You are a good listener when you try
Listening is just about words
All listeners recieve the same message |
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The process of creating meaning from verbal/nonverbal messages |
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The physiological process of decoding sound |
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Active vs. Passive listening |
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We respond in an affective and appropriate way vs blank stares and not |
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You appear to be listening when you really aren't |
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The 5 step listening process |
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Hearing
Attending (focusing on the sound)
Understanding (assigning meaning)
Remembering
Responding
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People-Oriented listening |
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You listen with the other person in mind
Time is not an issue
builds up the relationship |
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Action-Oriented Listening |
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You listen to get something accomplished
Efficiency is important |
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You listen for specific content |
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you are more focused on time than anything else
Emotion is not very involved
Efficiency is also very important |
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Staying attentive
Showing your listening with non verbal ques
Not actually saying anything |
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Asking for additional information
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restating what the speaker says in your own words |
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We reflect back to the speaker what they are feeling
We want to feel what they are feeling to better relate
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We reflect to the speaker what we feel about the situation
"aggreeing with what the other person is saying"
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When you offer your interpretation of what was said
"So this is what I see happening" |
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Offer an appraisal of what was said
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This where you offer advice to what was said.
Most common form of responding
This is what you should do |
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sybolic
arbitrary
context bound
culturally bound
abstract or concrete |
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Semantic Triangle of meaning |
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[image]
Bottem line is arbitrary
(the relationship between the word and the thing) |
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Language is not just a way of saying something it is a way of doing actions
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Doing one action while seeming to do another
Are you hungry? (seen as an offer for food) |
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Rules define what the act will "count as" |
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Indicate what we think the other person should or will do next
(Hello walk, "hey how are you" you expect "pretty good how are you") |
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The language others use influence how we percieve reality
(if your friends swear alot you will probably swear more) |
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Bypassing
Bafflgab
Lack of precision
Allness
Static evaluation
Polarization
Biased language |
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A word or words mean different things to different people |
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Using abstract language
Jargon
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Lack of specific direction
"where is the ball, it's over there! vs its in the lawn on top of the chair" |
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All mexicans mow lawns
you are always on your phone
An all encompassing statement |
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A statement that fails to recognize change
People never change
"your a really messy person" |
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Evaluate in extremes
either REALLY good or REALLY bad |
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racist language
those gays are really gay
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Difference in male/female language |
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Women: less asertive, insecure, emotional, longer sentencees
Men: I, direct statements, fragmented sentences |
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Self-Disclosure characteristics |
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§ Moves in small increments · We reveal a little bit about ourselves at a time § Moves from less personal to more personal · Start out with superficial to more personal things § Is reciprocal · Diatec affect o I disclose something then you do o Unwritten rule (we do it all the time) § Involves risk · Once you tell someone something you cannot control what they do with it
§ Involves trust
· We expect our friends to keep our confidences
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What are some reasons we disclose information? |
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What are some reasons to disclose? |
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§ 1.) Increase self-understanding
§ 2.) Helps develop relationship
· Disclosure-liking
§ 3.) Helps manage the impressions we send
§ 4.) Catharsis
· the purging of emotions
· get it off your chest
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§ Fear of negative judgment
§ Fear abandonment
§ Concern over loss of control
§ Fear of angry attacks
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Emotional - Is the other person emotionally ready to hear what you have to say?
Relevance - Is it relevant to diclose the information?
Situational - Is it the right place or time? |
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Social Penetration theory |
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The onion
Depth -how deep the info is
Breadth - the amount of info
Frequency - how often you disclose
Valence - the positive or negative |
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Open Self- Things we know about ourselves and others do too
Hidden Self- Things we know about ourselves but others don't
Blind self- Things others know about us that we don't
Unknown self- Things nobody knows about ourselves
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Verbal vs nonverbal communication |
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Verbal communication uses language (both spoken and written)
Nonverbal transmits meaning without the use of words
All aspects of the voice are NONverbal except the words we are saying |
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Why is nonverbal communication important? (6) |
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More believable
Ever present in face-to-face situations
Can enhance or inhibit understanding
Communicate feelings and attitudes
Can express what verbal cues can't
Can be more efficient that nonverbal cues |
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Interpreting nonverbal messages
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Ambiguious
Continuous
Multichanneled
Intentional or Unintentional
Interpretation is culturally basesd |
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Intimacy/Involvement and Dominance |
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Signaling likeness and approach
(high voice, smile, closer proximity)
Dominance, important, power, authority
(lower voice, stand taller, less gestures) |
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Nonverbal Communication Codes (8) |
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- Facial Expressions
- Facial Primacy
- Oculescics
- Funcions of the eye
- Kinesics
- Vocalics
- Olfactics
- Chronemics
- Proxemics
- use of personal space
- Haptics
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The face tells us the most about how someone is feeling
(facial primacy) |
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Oculesics (function of the eye) |
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Cognitive function - thought process of others
Monitoring function - monitor the behavior of others
Regulatory function - regulate flow of conv.
Expressive function - tells us emotional state |
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Study of movement and gestures
(wide degree of culture variation) |
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Study of the voice
Clarifies the content of the verbal message
tells us how close people are |
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Study of smell
pheromones |
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study of touch
communicates intimacy!
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study of time
communicates importance and power |
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Use of personal space
How we use personal space and distance
NO PDA
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o Act that “fosters in another persona a belief or understanding with the deceiver considers false”
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o Falsification
§ We just make something up
o Omission
§ Leaving out some of the details
§ Not telling the whole truth
o Exaggeration
§ Embellishment of the facts
o Equivocation
§ Not answering the question
§ Tip toeing
§ Politician speak
§ Beat around the bush
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o Partner-focused motives
§ To avoid hurting the other person
§ To help protect
§ To avoid worrying
§ Can be a white lie
o Self focused reasons
§ Shielding ourselves from embarrassment, harm, criticism
o Relationship focused
§ Protecting the relationship in some way
§ Reducing conflict
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§ The voice
· Pitch increases
· Talk faster
§ Speech errors
§ Facial expressions
§ Body movement
· Self adapter
o Adjust some aspect of the self
§ The eyes
· EYE CONTACT IS NOT AN INDICATOR OF LYING
· People blink more when they lie
Pupils dilate |
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Guidelines for recognizing deception |
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§ One clue? No clue.
· Look for multiple cues
§ Context
· If a person is nervous they can give away the same cues
§ Behavior familiarity
§ 55% accuracy
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Othello Error- you make people nervous when you accuse them of lying so they show signs of lying even when they are not
Truth and Deceit Bias - (the boy who cried wolf) past behavior tells us if they are lying or telling the truth |
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