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Interpersonal
Communication |
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A dynamic form of communication between two or more people in which the messages exchanged significantly influence their thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and relationships. |
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Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs |
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Self-Actualization
Ego
Social
Security
Physical
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1/7 principles of interpersonal comm |
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Contains both content and relationship:
content: actual words said
relationship info: through nonverbal cues such as vocal tone, pitch, volume, facial expression, eye contact, hand gestures, posture
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2/7 principles of comm
intentional or unintentional |
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"one cannot not communicate"
verbal/nonverbal
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3/7
effective or ineffective |
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Effective: understanding sender and receiver
Miscommunication: sending an intentional message that is misinterpreted
Attempted: sending an intentional message that the receiver misses
Misinterpretation: unintentionally sending a message that is misinterpreted
Accidental:unintentionally sending a message that the receiver observes and interprets correctly
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4/7
symmetrical or asymmetrical |
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symmetrical: same on both sides
asymmetrical: different feelings |
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5/7
Intertwined with Ethics |
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One can choose to be ethical or unethical |
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Communication choices you make directly determine the personal, interpersonal, and relationship outcomes that follow |
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(ever changing)
communication, perceptions, thoughts, feelings, emotions are all in flux
no two interactions will ever be the same
no two moments with the same interaction will ever be identical |
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1st step of remembering a name
Impression |
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-hear distinctly- listen, focus on the name
-ask them to repeat, spell, or write it
-take a mental snapshot of the person
-vocal tone, facial characteristics, body |
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2nd step of remembering a name
Repitition |
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-use their name in conversation several times
-repeat silently
-use their name afterwards |
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3rd step of remembering someone's name
Association |
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-rhyme
-appearance
-meaning
-mind picture
-similar name
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-name is only an offshoot of the desire to remember the person behind the name
-show genuine interest
-be a good listener
-make connections
-make them feel important and liked by being sincere |
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The first information we receive about others along with our stereotypes, shapes our overall impression of them |
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confirm original bias (positive or negative) |
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Romantic introductions
3 types |
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Flippant: goofy
Innocuous: conversation starter (works better on girls)
Direct: (girls & boys prefer)
*all work for boys
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Observation: report what senses tell you
Opinion: draw conclusions, make value judgements
feeling: give emotion
need: express what you want or think you want in a given situation
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Explains why and how individuals try to promote, protect, or "save" face
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desired self image you wish to present to others (& the recognition that others have face) |
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Positive: need to be liked, appreciated, admired
Negative: desire to act freely without constraint
*can overlap |
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3 assumptions of politeness theory |
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1. All people are concerned with maintaining face
2. Humans are rational and goal oriented
3. Some behaviors are fundamentally face threatening |
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Avoid/change topics, lie, pretend not to notice |
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Corrective facework
5 strategies |
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1. Avoid 2. Go off the record (hint) 3. Negative politeness 4. Positive politeness 5. Bald on record
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Maintaining positive face Maintaining negative face
*women are much more likely to "save" face and use politeness
*prestige, power, and risk can all effect decisions in politeness
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5 types of Qualifying Language
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1. Intensifiers: soooo, quite, very (women 5x more)
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5 types of Qualifying language
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2. Hedgers: try to soften: maybe, perhaps, just saying (no gender)
--------Disclaimers: type of hedger:---------
-credentialing: I'm your mother so...
-sin license: it IS my birthday...
-cognitive disclaimer: this might sound crazy but...
-appeal for suspended judgement: just hear me out...
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5 types of qualifying language
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Verbal fillers: like, right, well, ok
(no gender difference) |
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5 types of qualifying language
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Hypercorrection: "Affect not Effect"
(women do more often) |
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5 types of qualifying language
5. |
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Socioeconomic rationale:
jobs, main caretaker |
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Question Asking
Compound vs. Direct |
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Compound: "I know it's probably my turn, and that you did it last week, but would you mind if you get a minute taking out the trash?" (women)
Direct: "Take out the trash." (men) |
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making a declarative statement and following it with a question relating to same statement
example: "I hated that movie, didn't you?"
-mixed sex 3x's as many as in female groups
-men in professional meetings twice as many as women |
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Use of Questions
men vs. women |
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Women: permission to take the floor, conversation starters
Men: Interrogation, conversation direction selection |
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the inability to predict the attitudes and/or behaviors of another |
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Premise of the Uncertainty Reduction Theory |
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When strangers meet, their main concern is one of uncertainty reduction or increased predictability about the behavior of both themselves and others in the interaction. Assumption: the driving force of initial encounters is obtaining information about the other person to reduce uncertainty |
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4 reasons we want to decrease uncertainty |
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1. High incentive value
2. Anticipated future interaction
3. If someone is deviating from expected behavior
4. Anticipated positive versus negative information |
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1. At onset we talk because we have uncertainty. As verbal communication increases, uncertainty decreases
2. Uncertainty causes us to be nonverbally expressive. The more nonverbal expressive, the less uncertainty
3. At onset high uncertainty leads to high information seeking. As uncertainty lowers, so does info seeking
4. When uncertainty is high, there are low levels of intimate verbal communication. As uncertainty lowers, intimate verbal communication rises
5. When uncertainty is high, there are high levels of turn-taking
6. Similarity reduces uncertainty. Lack of them increases uncertainty.
7. Increases in uncertainty levels produce decreases in liking and vice cersa
8. Shared communication networks reduce uncertainty and vice versa
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3 ways we info-seek to reduce uncertainty |
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Passive: observe from a distance
Active: Ask a 3rd party
Interactive: Ask person directly |
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How loyal is your family? Do you communicate? Do you hang out?
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members maintain extreme separateness, little family loyalty/belonging
(ex: children don't know their father or he isn't part of the picture) |
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Experience emotional independence, with some joint involvement
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Strive for emotional closeness, loyalty, and joint involvement |
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Experience extreme closeness, loyalty, and almost no individuality |
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Operate under decision making styles and strict rules and roles |
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Experience authoritarian and some equalitarian leadership and stable rules and roles |
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experience negotiation and decision making and easily changed rules and roles |
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Have nonexistent leadership, confused decision making and varied rules and roles |
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Time, space, and energy: closed |
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Tend to regulate functions with fixed boundaries. Interact less with outside world; spend time, fulfill needs within the family unit, events are tightly scheduled and predictable |
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Time, space, and energy: open |
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flexible boundaries, members are encouraged to seek experiences in the outside space and RETURN to the family with ideas family may use if group likes it; seldom use censorship or force |
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Time, space, energy: random |
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unpredictable, do your own thing, family members and outsiders JOIN in the living space based on interest or desire, time spent together is irregular |
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Self-disclosure: high cohesion |
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May resist negative disclosure (hurts the loyalty, everyone "feels" it) |
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Self-disclosure: low cohesion |
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May tolerate negative self-disclosure but have difficulty with positive self disclosure because they're not about emotions |
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-10-15% have had "the talk"
-majority report dissatisfaction with quantity or quality of sex discussion
-focus on support and openness vs instruction vs place upon them sexual attitudes |
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Characteristics of a Dysfuntional Family |
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-Interactions are complex
-Cruelty
-Scapegoat
-Lack restraint
-Distortion (blurred boundaries)
-Life is taken too seriously (low humor & joy)
-Misperceptions govern interactions |
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3 types of relational dialectics:
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1. Connectedness-Separateness (we-me)
2. Certainty-Uncertainty (routine-spontaneity)
3. Openness-Closedness
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Low IPC High IPC |
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Has to do with 1 person. Example, my mother always says "God is watching you." No one else but me and my mom know the implications of this statement. |
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Pertains to something people of an area would know...example: "Go Cocks!" |
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Something EVERYONE knows....golden rule, etc |
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7 Principles of Interpersonal Communications |
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1. IPC contains content & relational info
2. IPC is irreversible
3. IPC is dynamic (ever changing)
4. IPC is intertwined with ethics
5. One cannot not communicate
6. IPC can be effective or ineffective
7. IPC can be symmetrical or asymmetrical |
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1. Support from partner's network
2. Communication w/ partners network
3. amount of communication w/ partner=
4. amount of similarity between partners
1 & 2 most important to stability in a relationship |
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8 Codes of Nonverbal Comm |
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1. Kinesics (waving)
2. Vocalics (pitch, loudness)
3. Haptics (shaking hands)
4. Proxemics (distance)
5. Chronemics (use of time)
6. Physical Appearance
7. Artifacts (personal belongings)
8. Environment (structure of physical surroundings) |
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Reasons we create for WHY we do something & WHY things happen
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Explanations for Attributions
(chart)
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Internal & Stable | External & Stable
Internal & Unstable | External & Unstable |
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We interpret what happens to I and to you differently in the same situation. |
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Fundamental Attribution Bias |
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Tendency to attribute the behavior of others to dispositional characters |
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Karma...What goes around comes around |
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Cutting Off Reflected Failure
Basking In Reflected Glory |
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Affection: Enjoyable interactions, feel good around them...warmth, closeness, fondness
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Caring: need to give without concern for receiving
Intimacy: sense of deep union between two people
Attachment: powerful drive to be in another's presence. Needing approval, social support, and comfort from someone. |
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Gender Stereotypes on Love
Quiz 1-9 |
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•Who falls in love faster MEN
•Who falls out of love faster WOMEN
•Who recovers better after a relationship WOMEN
•See more problems in the relationship WOMEN
•Dump more WOMEN
•Dump more if less involved MEN
•See breakups as “abrupt” MEN
•Suffers more after breakup MEN
•Who is more romantic MEN
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Love at first sight MEN
"Only real love, true love leads to perfect happiness" MEN
Pragmas, socioeconomic reality to be more careful & practical WOMEN
Happiest: Married men
Depressed: Married women |
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•Tend to like their partners better? WOMEN
•Fall in love more often? WOMEN
•Report more intense/varied emotions (feeling euphoric and wanting to scream)? WOMEN
•Are ready to marry earlier – if age is around the same? WOMEN
•Experience unrequited love more? WOMEN
•More intense romantic experiences (their perceptions and behaviors are more affected by their affection) MEN
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Storge: close friendship that becomes love, emotions positive but muted, shared interest in activities
Agapic: selfless, partner's needs before own, giving not receiving, happiness relies on giving
Manic: possessive, demanding, controlling, emotional, obsessive, mostly emotional lows, dependent
Pragma: logical, shopping list, SET 5:1, highest confidence/self esteem level, leave if better fit comes along
Ludic: game playing, casual relationships, avoid commitment, ask right questions, good at getting to know others without telling personal info, sex is fun not serious, pursuit is most rewarding, principle of least interest
Eros: passionate, love at first sight, intense emotional highs and lows, high self disclosure, love falling in love, desire physical contact, high levels of nonverbal affection |
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4 Step Dialogue for Termination |
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Summary statement "It's been 2 long years.."
Decreased access message "it is time to come to an end and "see other people"
Future interaction & relationship "I never want to see you again"
Decide separation rules "I get to keep xyz" |
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Knapp's stages of escalation |
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Initiating: time sensitive, BEFORE talking, plan what to say, display self as pleasant, likeable, brag, showoff, deceive, scan for commonalities, nervous caustious, situation and time constraints
Experimenting: try to reduce uncertainty, small talk, most don't progress beyond this stage
Intensifying: moving beyond superficial knowledge, gradual movement, increase breadth (range of knowledge) and depth (how much), nicknames, YOU see yourself as "we", inside jokes, verbal shortcuts
Integrating: identities fuse, merge social circles, OTHERS see you as we, common property, similarities in speech, dress, mannerisms, attitudes, beliefs, activities. LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS: Integrating & differentiating
Bonding: public ritual, shortest stage, harder to terminate |
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Knapp's model of de-escalation |
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Differentiating: to become distinct, confused, lonely, focus on differences (link btw core values and differences)
Circumscribing: superficial & restricted to certain topics, touchy topics, less affection talk, individualistic activities, cold, distant, unloved, others don't know (silent to party...)
Stagnating: Communication is infrequent, tense, and awkward, any talk will produce negativity, even superficial talk produces negativity, get reward outside the pairing, avoid pain of termination, hope revival, enjoy punishing the other person
Avoiding: short period, rearrange lives to avoid contact, talk is unfriendly, lack of energy to help relationship, angry about why still in the relationship
Termination: ending verbally, physically, and psychologically |
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