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| one assumes that others will know what is meant by an action or an expression. or assumes to know what another is thinking or feeling |
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| ignoring or minimizing another's feelings when they are expressed. encourages withholding of honest feelings to avoid being hurt |
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| one does not hear what the other is saying: either by tuning out or selective listening |
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| communicating through a third person |
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| damned if i do, damned if i don't type of situation |
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| expressing denigrating remarks |
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| remarks commonly called "put downs" |
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| withholding supportive messages |
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| difficulty providing others with reinforcing and supportive messages |
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| when one family member fails to permit another member to develop a sense of responsibility and self-worth, by doing things for the individual instead of allowing him or her to manage the situation independently |
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| when family members expect others to do things or behave in ways that do not fit with the latter's individuality or current life situation |
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| "if you will not be as i wish you to be, you don't love me" |
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| a difference of opinion can be manifested by blaming another person, bringing up the past, making destructive comparisons, or lashing out with anger and hurt |
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| differences are never acknowledged openly for fear of loss of temper or disapproval/ withdraw of love |
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| surrenders in the face of disagreement at the expense of denying his or her own needs or rights. avoids expressing a difference of opinion for fear of angering another person or of losing approval and support |
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