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Final exam SPC1017
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Communication
Undergraduate 2
12/12/2012

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Four Horsemen of Apocalypse
Definition
Criticism
Defensiveness
Stonewalling
Contempt
Term
Criticizing
Definition
First minute of conflict predicts whether 96%of married couples will stay married or divorce.
"You always" or "You never" = destructive
When it begins with a critical statement, it is likely to escalate
Term
Defensiveness
Definition
Desire to protect oneself from pain/fear, personal responsibility, new information.
Whining, deflection, attack, further defense
Leads to power struggle, boredom/lacks fun, chronic fighting, emotional pain, distance, desire to retaliate
Term
Stonewalling
Definition
One person withdraws from interaction
More than avoidance. Signals withdrawal while still being present.
Men more than women (85%)
Criticism + stonewalling predicts divorce
Holding back is milder form of stonewalling.
Term
Contempt
Definition
Putting one person on a higher plane than their partner (mockery, hostile corrections, sarcasm, putdowns, contemptuous looks)
Almost never present in healthy relationships
Damages self esteem and long term relationships
Term
5 conflict styles
Definition
Avoidance L/L
Collaboration W/W
Compromise W/L/W/L
Accomodation L/W
Competitive W/L
Term
Avoidance tactics
Definition
Denial/equivocation: direct denial, implicit denial, evasive remarks
Topic management: topic shifts, topic avoidance
Noncommittal remarks, statements, questions, abstract remarks, procedural remarks
Irreverent remarks: friendly joking
Term
Avoidance advantages
Definition
Buys time to think of responses
if issue is trivial or other important issues demand attention
If relationship is unimportant
To keep oneself from harm
to keep other party from influencing you
Term
Avoidance disadvantages
Definition
"you dont care enough to confront them"
Gives impression you cannot change
Allows conflict to simmer and heat up
Preserves conflict/sets stage for later explosion or backlash
Term
Competition tactics
Definition
verbal aggression: attack others' self concept
Personal criticism
rejection
hostile imperatives, jokes, questions
Presumptive remarks
denial of responsibility
threats
character attacks: profanity, insults, ridicule
Ultimate tactic: VIOLENCE
Term
Competition advantages
Definition
allows for creativity
when best performance/ideas are rewarded
during emergency (quick, decisive actions)
when goal is more important than relationship
lets others know youre committed to issue
Term
Competition disadvantages
Definition
can harm relationships because of focus on external goals
If one party isnt willing or unable to deal with conflict head on
Can encourage one to use disguised means to make other pay
Reduces conflict to winning or losing
Term
Compromise tactics
Definition
Appeals to fairness
Suggests trade off
maximizes wins/minimizes losses
quick, short term solutions
Term
Compromise advantages
Definition
Accomplish important goals with less effort than collaboration
power balance
good in time pressured situations
back up when other methods fail
appears reasonable to most people
Term
Compromise disadvantages
Definition
"easy way out"
always involves a form of loss
prevents creativity
can be sophisticated form of avoidance
Term
Accommodation tactics
Definition
giving up/in
disengagement
denial of needs
expression of desire for harmony
Term
Accommodation advantages
Definition
demonstrates reasonableness, especially if one finds theyre wrong
if issue is important to one but not the other
prevents one party from harming the other
allows relationship to continue w/o overt conflict
can be a way of betting on most experienced persons judgement
Term
Accommodation disadvantages
Definition
can foster undertone of competitiveness
reduces creativity
partners commitment to relationship is never tested
pseudo solution: can boomerang if accommodation is resented
furthers ones lack of power
encourages low power person to withhold energy/caring
Term
Collaboration tactics
Definition
analytic remarks: descriptive statements, disclosing statements, qualifying statements
Conciliatory remarks: supportive remarks, concessions, acceptance of responsibility
Term
Collaboration advantages
Definition
one wants to find solution that will satisfy both parties
both feel decisions are reality based
fits people in long term committed relationships
affirms importance of content/relational goals
prevents violence
demonstrates conflict can be productive
Term
Collaboration disadvantages
Definition
one can become imprisoned by it
if investment in issue or relationship is low, then its not worth the time/energy required
more verbally skilled people can manipulate
Term
Conflict
Definition
Expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from others in achieving their goals.
Term
Lens Model of Conflict
Definition
Each party has own view of conflict
Any conflict will have 1. Communication behavior 2. Perceptions of those behaviors

Each has a view of self, other person, and relationship. Meaning ascribed to relationship: past/current events, and future projections
Term
Aristotle's theory rhetoric
Definition
Persuasion:
Ethos
Pathos
Logos
Term
Ethos
Definition
Ethics. Credibility of speaker. Trustworthy? Goodwill, their motives.
Term
Pathos
Definition
Emotion. Guilt, fear, sex, etc.
Term
Logos
Definition
Logic. Statistics. Facts.
Term
Monroe's Motivated Sequence
Definition
Appeals to Pathos
1. Attention (teaser)
2. Need (attention)
3. Satisfaction (solution)
4. Visualization (envision the future)
5. Action (clincher)
Term
Toulmin's Model of Argument
Definition
Appeals to Logos
1. Claim (making an assertion-thesis)
2. Data
3. Warrant (reason. why is it good evidence? ties claim and warrant)
Term
Listening process
Definition
5 stages

1. Hearing
2. Attending
3. Evaluating
4. Responding
5. Remembering
Term
Hearing
Definition
Physiological. Not same as listening. Passive.
Term
Attending
Definition
Act of paying attention to certain noises as opposed to others. We choose to pay attention to certain noises and ignore others. Active.
Term
Evaluating
Definition
Trying to make sense of what you hear. interpreting, understanding, judging. Active.
Term
Responding
Definition
Once we make sense of the message, we formulate a response.
Term
Remembering
Definition
You keep the message so that it may be useful later.
Term
Reasons we fail to listen
Definition
Message Overload
Preoccupation
Rapid thought
Effort
External Noise
Internal Noise
Faulty assumptions
lack of apparent advantages
hearing problems
media influences
Term
Message Overload
Definition
the sheer quantity of messages we hear makes it impossible to listen to all of them at once.
Term
Preoccupation
Definition
sometimes, our minds are just focused on something else
Term
Rapid Thought
Definition
While our brains can process 600 words per minute, the average person speaks 100-150 words a minute. This extra space in our brains causes our minds to wander.
Term
Effort
Definition
sometimes, we dont think listening is worth expending the energy required to do it
Term
External noise
Definition
things distract us. TV anyone?
Term
Internal Noise
Definition
Things going on in our body
Psychological: thinking, daydreaming
Physiological: freezing, hungry, hungover, etc
Term
Faulty assumptions
Definition
We tend to assume we already know what the other person is going to say
Term
Lack of apparent advantages
Definition
the WIIFM principle. (Whats In It For Me?)
Term
Hearing problems
Definition
going deaf
Term
Media Influences
Definition
the meda trains us to listen in particular ways. today's media shorten our attention span.
Term
Bad listening habits
Definition
1. Pseudo listening
2. stage hogging
3. selective listening
4. insulated listening
5. defensive listening
6. ambushing
7. insensitive listening
Term
Pseudo listening
Definition
we pretend to listen to someone when youre not really paying attention. You might even nod once in a while.
Term
Stage hogging
Definition
constantly trying to "one up" each other. Turning the conversation to ourselves instead of giving consideration to others.
Term
Selective hearing
Definition
we only listen to the parts we want to hear. As such, we come in and out of the conversation.
Term
Insulated listening
Definition
we avoid information we dont want to hear
Term
defensive listening
Definition
we take other people's remarks as if they are a personal attack. we listen for the bad things of what people are saying.
Term
Ambushing
Definition
instead of listening, we work to formulate responses. or we only pay attention to information we can use to attack the other person with later.
Term
Insensitive listening
Definition
we pay attention to the superficial content of a message and ignore its emotional components
Term
How can we listen better?
Definition
Talk less
get rid of distractions
dont judge prematurely (wait for the punchline)
look for the key ideas the speaker is getting at
Term
Percentage of nonverbal communication
Definition
93%
Term
Microexpression
Definition
expression as short as 1/25 of a second that reveals true emotions
Term
signs of deception
Definition
emotions seem forced. conflict between words and body
Term
signs of power
Definition
faster stride
sexy power: Putin
traditional power: Bush
last man through door
pat on back
upper hand in handshake
Term
self touch gesture
Definition
reassuring and comforting oneself. Means feeling uncomfortable
Term
Norming
Definition
What is normal in that situation ans for that person
Term
Signs of danger
Definition
hands in pockets. face to face. clapping.
Blading, billowing, thumb twitch
Term
hot spots
Definition
facial expressions inconsistent with how someone is expected to behave or with what theyre saying
Term
7 facial expressions
Definition
Dr. Paul Eckerman
1. Happy
2. Sad
3. Angry
4. Contempt
5. Disgust
6. Surprised
7. Fear
Term
Percentage of human communication coming from voice
Definition
38%
Term
Social Exchange Theory
Definition
we engage in relationships because we get tangible rewards from them
Term
Verbal aggression
Definition
attacking self concept of another
Term
Communication climate
Definition
overall mood or tone of relationship
Term
Propinquity
Definition
the closer we are to someone, the likelier we are to be attracted to them
Term
4 proxemics zones
Definition
Edward Hall

1. Intimate
2. personal
3. social
4. public
Term
3 types of territories
Definition
primary
secondary
public
Term
types of expectations
Definition
preinteractional
interactional
Term
4 main causes of verbal aggression
Definition
1. psychopathy
2. disdain
3. social learning
4. argumentative skill deficiency
Term
6 ways to manage verbal aggression
Definition
1. be polite
2. avoid verbal aggression
3. define argument
4. recognize shifts from constructive to destructive criticism
5. be aware
6. know when to stop arguing
Term
3 forms of verbal aggression
Definition
name calling
insults
ultimatum
Term
disconfirming messages
Definition
makes us feel unnappreciatedd
ambiguous responses
impervious
interruptung
irrelevant
tangential
incongruous (contradicting)
Term
confirming messages
Definition
makes us feel valued/appreciated
compliments
recognition
endorsement
acknowledgment
Term
types of love
Definition
passionate
compassionate
Term
opposites attract
Definition
submissive vs dominant
Term
equity theory
Definition
rewards/costs are equal in a relationship
Term
similarity attraction theory
Definition
try to provoke similarities
Term
interpersonal attraction theories (4)
Definition
similarity attraction
opposites attract
social exchange theory
equity
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