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Final Exam
FAD2230
55
Sociology
Undergraduate 2
12/08/2008

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Term

Gottman's 4 Horseman (+1)

Definition

1. Criticism

2. Defensiveness

3. Contempt

4. Stonewalling

+1. Belligerence

Term

Criticism

(2)

Definition
  • Don't attack person as a whole
  • Instead, identify the behavior and suggest ways to improve

 

Term

Defensiveness

(2)

Definition
  • Cuts themselves out of what other person is saying
  • Just think of ways to defend themselves
Term

Contempt

(3)

Definition
  • Behavioral feeling
  • Get over listening to the person
  • Eye rolling and other body language
Term

Stonewalling

(2)

Definition
  • Completely ignore other person
  • Leads to MORE criticism
Term

Beligerence

(2)

Definition
  • Doing opposite of what partner wants
  • Contempt behavior escalates
Term
Ratio of Postive to Negative in Criticism
Definition
5:1
Term
Difference between Report and Rapport
Definition
  • Report- (men) conversation aimed mainly at conveying information
  • Rapport- (women) speaking to gain or reinforce intimacy
Term

Forms of Passive-Aggressive Behavior

(2 important, 5 other)

Definition
  • Sabotage- 1 partner spoils some activity the other has planned (cause they didnt want to be a part of it)
  • Displacement- person directs anger at people or things the other cherishes (husbands car cause he cares too much about work/income)
  • Chronic Criticism
  • Sarcasm
  • Nagging
  • Nitpicking
  • Procrastination (promised a partner you will do something
Term

Baggage Signs

(4)

Definition
  • Negative Interprations: person thinks they're hearing worst poss thing.
  • Escalation: 0-60 really quick
  • Put downs/Invalidation: "omg why would you think something like that!?"
  • Avoidance: Know there are issues needed to be discussed but avoided
Term

Hidden Issues

(def+ 7 ex)

Definition

Powerful issues that partners are unaware of, unable to talk about, or unwilling to talk about.

  • Control and Power (whos in charge)
  • Caring (do you feel loved?)
  • Recognition (feel valued for who n what u r?)
  • Baggage(react as if ur partner is some 1 else?)
  • Commitment (is ur relationship secure?)
  • Integrity(u feel challenged in how u see urself)
  • Acceptance (parent of ALL hidden issues)
Term
When Do Most Couples Deal with Hidden Issues?
Definition
During negative events
Term

1 Variable Gottman found to be predictive of maritial stability and happiness + ex

 

Definition

The amount of positive affect in the conflict

 

Ex: Stable happy couples share humor, expressions of warmth, interest, and affection during conflict and it de-escalates the arguemtn

Term
3 Types of Safety Through Positive Communication
Definition

1. Commitment Safety- security of support and clear future

2. Emotional Safety- being able to talk openly and support e/o

3. Personal Safety- no fear of physical or emotional harm

Term
Difference Between Congruent and Incongruent Messages
Definition
  • Congruent: verbal and nonverbal agree
  • Incongruent: verbal and nonverbal DISagree
Term
5 Obstacles to Valid Hearing
Definition
  1. Speaker not saying what they mean
  2. Incongruent messages
  3. Baggage
  4. Expectations (expevting trouble
  5. Silence
Term
2 Barriers to Meaningful Communication
Definition
  1. Timing
  2. Not permitting the situation to arise
Term

3 Roots of Fear

(When are afraid to "let the situation arise")

Definition
  1. You might have to be intimate in return
  2. You might be taking responsibility for their life
  3. You might hear something you don't want to about "you" or "us"
Term
5 Components to Fighting Fair
Definition
  1. Focus on 1 issue, the issue at hand
  2. Make it clearly observable BEHAVIOR
  3. Use "I" statements (xyz)
  4. Give rationale and an emotion
  5. Provide a way to solve it
Term

3 Barriers to Conflict Resolution

Definition
  1. Not permitting situation to arise
  2. Accusation (shame,blame, and gunny sacking)
  3. Not letting person fully talk
Term

Define Gunnysacking

Definition
Storing past grievances and bring the up everytime you try to resolve problem at hand
Term
Pronatalist Bias
Definition
Belief you MUST have kids and if you don't you need justification and cause for not having them.
Term

Transition of Children Historically

(3 past, 3 present)

Definition

Past

  • Children viewed as economic assets
  • Raised by living with parents
  • Shared the world of adult

Present

  • Children viewed as economic liabilities
  • Viewed as emotional assets
  • They need special training, guidance, and care
Term
Correlation Between Economic Status and # of kids
Definition
  • The lower the economic status, the more children you are likely to have.
  • This is due to lack of education, not enough money for birth control
Term

Advantages and Disadvantages of a 1 Child Family

(3 adv, 2 dis)

Definition

Advantages

  • joy of having child w/o feeling overwhelmed
  • more attention to the child
  • better off financially

Disadvantages

  • no chance to experience sibling relationships
  • more pressure to succeed
Term

Couples Happiest Times of Marriage

(4)

Definition
  • Before first birth
  • After last child leaves house
  • More children, less happiness
  • Children stablize marriage, but diminish gratification
Term
2 Parenting factors that lead to "at-risk" family life and low life satisfaction
Definition
  1. Mother's Low IQ
  2. Early Pregnancy (in teens)
Term

Factors of People Likely to be Child-Free

(3)

Definition
  • Highly educated, involved in careers
  • First borns who took care of young siblings
  • High number who chose to be remain childless change their minds with age.
Term

Factors Reguarding Children that show Decrease in Marital happiness/satisfaction

(3)

Definition
  • More kids, less happy
  • Loss of freedom (change jobs, travel, pursue endeavors they find interesting)
  • Decreased finances and ability to indulge in certain things
Term

Effects of Daycare on Children

 

Definition
  • Children thrive and become more social and independent ONLY if: 

*there is quality care (trained staff)*

*a good teacher to child ratio*

 

Term

Authoritarian Parenting Style

(2 + ex)

Definition
  • Low emotional nuturing and support
  • High parental direction and control

Ex: "I am in charge, I make and enforce the rules"

Term

Laissez-Fair Parenting Style

(2 + ex)

Definition
  • permissive, allow children to set their own limits with little guidance
  • leads to spoiled children

Ex: "I often give into my childs whining, argueing, and other demands"

Term

Authoritative Parenting Style

(3 + ex)

Definition
  • Combines emotional nurturing and support WITH parental direction
  • Involves encouraging the child's individuality and accepting child's personality WHILE setting and enforcing rules and limits
  • Warm, firm, fair

Ex: "I was worried cause I hadn't heard from you"

Term

Benefits and Consequences of Delaying Child Bearing

(3+,6-)

Definition

Benefits

  • Having life in order (mature, values and goals, financially stable)
  • Children arn't blocking dreams
  • Children get undivided attention

Consequences

  • Fertility problems
  • Complications with age of father/mother
  • Potential increase in birth defects
  • Way more of a medical event in mom's life
  • Extended family distant or dead
  • Leaving work and not immediately returning
Term

No Fault Divorce

(2)

Definition
  • Either party can get a divorce and property is split 50/50
  • used to be you could only get a divorce if a partner was violent or unfaithful
Term

Independence Effect

(reguarding women and divorce)

 

Definition
Women who are employed have better alternative than their spouse because they have financial indepence to feel comfortable enough to leave.
Term
Relationship of ethnicity and race to Adjusting to Divorce
Definition
There is an equal adjustment rate among all ethnicities
Term
Intergenerational Transmission of Divorce
Definition
Children who went through a divorce are more likely to get divorced themselves
Term

Exchange Theory

(marital happiness, barriers to divorce 4, alt to marriage)

Definition
  • Spouses weigh their happiness against alternatives and barriers of divorce
  • Barriers include: affections towards spouse, economic issues, religous beliefs, and children
  • Alternatives to marriage: thinking about chance of remarrying

 

Term

Types of Divorce

(4)

Definition

Emotional

Legal

Psychic

Community

Term

Emotional Divorce

(3)

Definition
  • Parnters withhold bonding emotions and communication
  • No longer support e/o self esteem, but undermine it
  • Partners feel rejected and invest in other things and live parallel lives
Term

Legal Divorce

(2)

Definition
  • Dissolution of the marriage by the state through court order terminating marriage
  • purpose is to allow people to economically seperate and and be free to date/remarry
Term

Psychic Divorce

 

Definition
  • regaining of psychological autonomy through emotional seperation from the personality and influence of former spouse
Term
Community Divorce
Definition
Ruptures of relationships and changes in social networkds that come about as a result of divorce
Term

Forgiveness

(3)

Definition
  • Cancelled debt
  • Giving up on percieved right to get even
  • Giving up attitude, "you owe me"
Term

Custodial Parent

(def'n + problems)

Definition

Parent who takes custody of child after divorce (usually the mother)

  • Sometimes difficult to recieve child support
Term

Non-Custodial Parent

(def'n + problem)

Definition

Parent that does not have custody of the child (usually the father)

  • Must pay child support and loses spouses income so they are left hurt financially
Term
5 Perspectives to Reasons for Negative Effects of Divorce on Children
Definition
  • Life Stress
  • Parental Loss (1 parent is gone from household, problems w/ love, guidance n support)
  • Parental Adjustment
  • Economic Hardship
  • Interparental Conflict (negative outcomes a result of conflict during marriage, not divorce)
Term

Co-Parenting Relationship Terms

(4)

Definition
  • "Perfect Pals": good friends, talk occasionally, plan things together
  • "Cooperative Colleagues": consult about kids only, no personal relationship. Compromise in sharing holidays, etc. 
  • "Angry Associates": don't like e/o, but can work things out for good of kids
  • "Fiery Foes": can't stand e/o. avoid e/o. can't work anything out without fighting
Term
Level of marital and family life satisfaction with second marriages compared to first
Definition
  • Marital satisfaction is higher
  • Family life is less satisfying because there a lot of stress between the stepfamilies
Term

Normless Norm

(4)

Definition
  • Step Families are of various types
  • Kinship networks and relationships are widely varied
  • Roles aren't well defined
  • Family law doesn't provide protection or guidelines
Term
White and Booth's Studies of Remarriage and Marital Quality
Definition
  • Remarried people report being HAPPIER with marriage itself (partner's attributes), but LOWER satisfaction with family life.
Term

Papernow's 7 Stage Model to Step Family Development

Definition
  1. Fantasy- adults expect smooth adjustment, kids expect stepparent to disappear and parents to reunite
  2. Immersion- tension producing conflict emerges between stepfamily's 2 biological subunits
  3. Awareness- family members realize their fantasies arn't becoming a reality
  4. Mobilization- family members initiate efforts toward change
  5. Action- remarried adults form solid alliance, family boundaries clarified, more positive interactions between stepparents and stepchildren
  6. Contact- stepparent becomes more significant adult family figure, couple assumes more control
  7. Resolution-the stepfamily achieves integration and appreciates unique identity as a stepfamily
Term

Main Challenges in Stepfamiles

(3)

Definition

Financial Strains

  • obligations from 1st marriage cause resentment from new spouse
  • not contribbuting to stepchildren

Role Ambiguity

  • roles not clearly defined
  • discipline
  • don't love stepchildren the same as biological

Stepchildren Hostility

  • fantasies about parents getting back together
  • difficulty seeing parents as romantic beings
  • loyalty conflicts
Term

Role Adjustments between Stepmothers and Stepfathers

(3 each)

Definition

Stepmothers

  • thought to be more difficult
  • tend to be more stressed and anxious
  • conflicting expectations come with role, especially b/t stepdaughters

Stepfathers

  • stepchildren tend to get along just as well as real father
  • more detached or distant, shown to be essential
  • problems arise over type or need for discipline
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