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| Four forms of negativity that are predictors of divorce? |
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Definition
Criticism (Attacking a partners character)
Defensiveness (Denying responsibility for behavior.)
Contempt (Insulting, abusive attitudes towards spouse.)
Stonewalling (Withdrawal and unwillingness to listen.) |
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| Common Problems in Single Parent Families |
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Definition
1. Change in economic status.
2. Sex and Dating.
3. Custody and visitation. |
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| One parent is given total physical and legal responsibility for the children. The non-custodial parent has no legal right to make decisions, but it usually awarded visitation rights. |
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Definition
| Both parents share legal responsibility and together participate in the major decisions regarding their children, such as religion and choice of school. |
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Definition
| Each parent is awarded the full legal custody of one or more of the children. (Girls with mother, Boys with Father.) Children may also alternate living with the non-custodial parent on weekends or during vacations. |
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Term
| 5 interpersonal issues that are at the core of marital breakups. |
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Definition
1. Infidelity
2. Physical Abuse
3. Sexual incompatibilities
4. Conflict over power/control
5. Ineffective communication patterns |
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Term
| Relationship between former spouse: Perfect Pals |
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Definition
| Still friends, live separate but have mutual respect.Consider each other to be a responsible and caring parent. some conflict, but accommodating to each other at most times. |
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Term
Relationship between former spouse:
Cooperative Colleges |
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Definition
| No longer good friends but able to cooperatate successfully as parents. They recognize the need to compromise for sake of children and to fulfill their desires to be active and responsible parents. Some disagreements, but able to avoid escalating power struggles. |
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Term
Relationship between former spouse:
Angry Associates |
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Definition
| Bitter and resentful towards marriage and divorce. Fight over visitation, finances, and custody rights. Each continues to parent but children are caught between loyalty conflicts. |
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Relationship between former spouse:
Fiery Foes |
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Definition
| No ability to co-parent. Intense anger, enemies, legal battles, children forced to take sides. Non-custodial parent sees children less and less over the years. |
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Relationship between former spouse:
Dissolved Duos |
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Definition
| No contact between ex partners after divorce. One parent may leave geographic area. Kidnapping may occur by non-custodial parent. Truly single parent family. |
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Term
| Reasons Remarried people divorce at a higher rate than first marriages. |
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Definition
1. If problems in former marriage were not successfully understood or worked out, the individual may chose a partner that is too similiar to their ex spouse.
2. They are unwilling to compromise with new partner in fear of having same issues in last marriage.
3. Adjusting to step children and sometimes two households can lead to financial burden. This goes along with child support payments and spousal support. |
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Term
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Definition
| 1. Go back! 2. Making Room. 3. Struggles of realignment 4. Re-commitment 5. Rebalancing Relationships 6. Relinquishing feels of desperation and burden. 7. Growth towards integration 8. moving on |
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Term
| Common theme the counselor addresses when counseling remarried families |
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Definition
| 1. Mourning for losses: A step family has relationship losses from death/divorce. Special childhood positiona nd roles may be lost with remarriage. Adults deal with new job, house, friends, and neighbors. The counselor addresses these losses, psychologically disengages from the past and looks towards future relationships. |
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| Common theme Remarried families |
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Definition
| Living with differences: members have seperate traditions and histories. The counselor helps address these differences by negotiating interpersonal conflicts. |
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| Common theme remarried families |
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Definition
| Resolving loyalty issues: New couple bond causes parents to feel conflicted because they are spending more time with new spouse than children. Children feel little loyalty to new family. |
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| Common theme remarried families |
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Definition
| Acknowledging the absent parent: The children may be torn between parents or may miss the non custodial parent. The counselor helps family keep healthy relationship with absent parent. |
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Term
| Why cohabitating couples opt to live together? |
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Definition
1. Intimate sexual relationship.
2. Delaying long term committment
3. Sharing of living expenses
4. Trial relationship before marriage
5. Ability to end relationship without complications of divorce. |
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Term
| Myths regarding cohabitation |
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Definition
1. They are loving caring individuals who are independent, liberal in sexual views.
2. Opt for monogamous relationship but reject idea of marriage.
3. Rebellious, defiant, immoral people
4. Living together weakens the institution of marriage and poses a danger for women and children. |
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Term
| Vitalized premarital couples |
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Definition
| High degree of relationship satisfaction, comfortable discussing feelings and resolving problems. satisfied sexually and intimately. Interest in religion and equal roles. |
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Term
| Harmonious premarital couples |
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Definition
| Moderate level of relationship quality. Relatively satisfied with partners habits and able to discuss and resolve issues. Do not tend to be religious. Have not come to an agreement on children and parenting roles. |
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Term
| Traditional premarital couples |
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Definition
| Moderate dissatisfaction with relationship but have strength in decision making and future planning. Somewhat unhappy with partners habits and personality. Uncomfortable discussing feelings and dealing with conflict. They agree on children and parent roles. |
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| Conflicted premarital couples |
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Definition
| Distress on all prepare scales. Dissatisfied with partner personality and habits. They have a poor ability to discuss feelings and solving conflicts about sex, friends, and family. |
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Term
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| Cohabitators are unmarried couples living together without the promise of marriage. |
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Definition
| Marriage is definitely planned , but date of ceremony is uncertain. |
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Term
| Problems Cohabitating couples can experience |
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Definition
1. Social sigma
2. Parenting other's children
3. Ending the relatiionship
4. Different expectations of future
5. Unequal commitment
5. Division of labor, money, and resources |
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Term
| Similarities between cohabitating heterosexuals and homosexuals |
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Definition
1. Both are part of a minority social systems where couples seek erotic and affectional needs in a socially different arrangement.
2. Both face disaproval from families and society.
3. Both contain people from all social classes, races, and ethnicitys. |
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Term
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Definition
| Excessive fear and hatred of same sex intimacy/sexuality, along with fear and hatred of homosexual individuals. |
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Term
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Definition
| The belief that hetereosexualily should be the only sexual orientation. It leads to prejudice, discrimination, harrassment, and violence. |
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Term
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Definition
1. Self Recognition: May last for a long period of time. They may feel confused or not act on wanted homosexual experiences.
2. Self acceptance: Risking rejection by carefully telling selected others.
3. Socializing with other gays: They begin to open up with their sexuality by forming relationships with other homosexuals whether intimate or friendly.
4. Telling family: This stage is huge in coming out because the often times have a fear of rejection from their family. But once they have fully came out to their family they may feel a variety of feelings based on their reactions such as relief, guilt, happiness, and shame. |
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Term
| Issues address with gay/lesbians in counseling |
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Definition
1. commitment and monogomy
2. AIDs counseling
3. competition for power and status (typically men)
4. Initiation of sexual activity
5. Their views of homophobic attitudes
6. The degree they are open with gay/non gay friends, family, employers, and colleges.
7. Communication difficulties |
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Term
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Definition
1. Not family oriented
2. Sexually abuse small children
3. Sexually promiscuous |
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Term
| Heterosexism negative reactions from society |
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Definition
1. They are looked at as sexual objects, defined by their orientation rather than their individuality as a person.
2. The term homosexual arouses private snickers and public ridicule.
3. Social discrimination when it comes to housing, employment, and so on. |
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Term
| When did women going to work become a phenonmenon? |
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Definition
| World War II caused stay at home moms to seek employment in factories and offices. When the war came to an end, some working moms quit their jobs, and some kept them. These working moms were called "working wives". Eventually dual career families were becoming more common and were considered a rule rather than an exception. |
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Term
| Definition of dual career family |
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Definition
| A husband and wife pursing active professional careers as well as active family lives. |
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