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-Force to closeness and distance.
-Person more differentiated reacts appropriately (doesn't overreact to small things) |
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| 3 Types of Distance Regulators |
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1.Conflict
2.Triangles
3.Emotional Cutoff
*recognize in Hypothetical situation |
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| 7 Principles of Smart Love |
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1. Seek a good match
2. Pay attention to values
3. Choose a real partner, not a makeover project
4. Do not change yourself to be someone else
5. Expect good communication, don’t run from conflict
6. Don’t play games, manipulate, or pressure
7. Have a bottom line |
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| Types of Expectation Approaches (3) |
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1. Conscious and Verbalized
2. Conscious and UNverbalized
3. UNconscious and UNverbalized |
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| only committed to own ego, give little to others |
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-scared of past experiences
-use substances to cope |
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| Margaret Mead 2 Stage love/marriage |
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-individual commitment
-parental is followup to individual when couple is ready to take on responsibility of children |
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-Tendency for women to "marry up" reguarding age, income, education etc...
* Gives greater marital power to men |
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| Choosing partners like you (race,age,social class etc..) |
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| marrying within own social group |
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| Marrying outside ones social group |
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| Choosing some 1 dissimilar. (race, age, social class, etc..) |
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| 4 Standards for non-marital sex |
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1. Abstinence
2. Permissiveness with affection
*most common
3. Permissiveness without affection -recreational sex
4. Double Standard
-Men can sleep around, women must be conservative |
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| 4 Stages of Gay Identity Formation |
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1. Sensitization(cross-gender interests like dolls or sports)
2. Identity confusion(same sex arousal)
3. Identity assumption(acceptance of homosexuality, experimenting)
4. Commitment to homosexuality as a way of life(coming out to friends and family) |
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| Habituation Effect on Sexual Relations |
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| Decrease interests in many activities done together. |
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| Belief that places superior value on heterosexual behavior and denies non-hetero relations |
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| Diff of How Men and Women View Sex Regarding Commitment (2) |
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-Women view sex as sign of bigger commitment
-Women tend to get more emotionally involved |
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| 2 Elements of Marriage Premise |
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-Permanence
-Sexual Exclusivity |
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-Sexual and emotional exclusivity desired/expected with marriage
*holding the relationship as MOST important in your life (the PRIMARY one) |
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| Religious marriage that gives you "God on your side" feeling |
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-Monitored by state and government
-Legal certificate of marriage filed |
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| Principle value of institutional familes (2) and (*) |
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-tradition of a family organized around economic production
-Marriage is functional rather than romantic
**Responsibility is their principal value. Believe that urbanization and individualism weakened family ties. Relationships nowadays based on contracts and what ppl can do for e/o as apposed to traditional unbreakable commitments based on loyalty and responsibility |
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-Married couple bound by covenant, stronger than regular contract and won't let them easily get divorced (must do counseling, two-year wait period)
-reaction to high divorce rates |
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| -Married couples exchange partners for recreational sex |
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| Marriages were both spouses retain the option to sexually love others, in addition to their spouse. |
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| More than 1 spouse (husband/wife) at a time |
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| multiple wives (polyGUYny) |
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Recognizes other forms of families other than the traditional.
-Gay/lesbian couples |
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| William Doherty’s “psychological" marriage and how this differs from marriage as a social institution |
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| In psych, the principle value is satisfaction. Social is for mutual benefit |
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| Limitation to "domestic partner benefits" for gay/lesbian couples |
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| Domestic partnerships do not provide benefits at the federal level. |
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| 4 Benefits to Premarital Counseling |
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1.Slows couples down to foster deliberation about marriage
2.Sends message that marriage matters
3.helps couples learn the options (counseling) , if they need help later
4. Premarital counseling can lower risk of later marital problems |
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| Marriage that allows partners to grow and change and not stay the same forever |
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| Motivations for affairs for men and women |
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Men-Conquest, notch in the belt
Women- revenge or anger |
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| Who is included in singles |
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-Never Married
-Divorced
-Widowed |
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| Reasons for increasing singles (3) |
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-Increased divorce rate
-Sex ration (95 men / 100 women)
-Changing attitude towards marriage and singlehood |
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| Singlehood and Life satisfaction (2*)(2) |
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*Whether a person is single by choice affects satisfaction
*maintaining social networks increases happiness for singles
-single people report less happiness
-satisfaction in single people depends on income to some extent |
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| Effects of cohabitation on couples and effects on marriages (2) |
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-more likely to break up, have a partner cheat, exp domestic violence, or be depressed
~34% children born to single mothers |
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| Coercive Power and example |
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dominant partner punishes with psychological, emotional, and physical abuse or withholding affection
Ex: Silent treatment |
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| ability to give material and non material gifts and favors |
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| stems from dominant partners superior judgment, ability, or knowledge |
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| based on dominant partners persuasive abilities. better at speaking there side. |
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- based on charisma and interpersonal skills of power holder
-person under power desires to identify with these personal qual. and gains satisfaction from being an accepted follower |
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| Legitimate Power and example |
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based on individuals ability to claim power.
Ex: Boss of company cause he can fire/hire |
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| Ways people obtain power (2) |
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-Overt: clear who has power
-Covert: unclear who has power |
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| Components essential to relationship violence (3) |
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-Person feels weak and wants to compensate
-attempt to maintain over partner trying to become independent of relationship
-person learns in their family of origin that violence is acceptable response to impotence |
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| Reasons rape victims blame themselves (3) |
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-the rape was somehow provoked by victim
-men can't control sexual urges
-rapist are mentally ill |
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| 3 Stage Cycle of Violence |
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-Tensions build
-Violence occurs
-You apologize and make-up
*People in violent relationships sometimes speed up the tension, take the violence, because the make-up stage is so perfect and good for a while |
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-Men and women are = in violent behavior
-Sibling violence is most prominent |
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