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Power is a relationship bt two or more ppl in the system
The use of power produces changes that either improve or hinder fam members’ satisfaction
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Power is defined by the way it is used to reduce or increase (dialectical) tensions when indiv fam members interact w each other over goals or attempts to change behaviors. The exercise of power the regulates tensions bt closeness and distance.
Basically: the ability to influence behavior of others in the system
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system-wide effect of power-moves |
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Every power-move has a system-wide effect
As one person makes a power-move, the rest of the system has to respond and recalibrate.
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Vary by fam member; everybody in the system sees power
differently
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resources used by fam members to increase their chances of exerting control in a specific situation
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family’s values concerning where authority lies
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relational currencies, nurturing, fostering senses of love and belonging, sex |
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our personality, phys appearance, role competance
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when we use intelligence to logically determine what our power options are |
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the act of attempting to actually control other people through persuasion
Generally, family members who talk the most frequently are dominant
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Focus on who makes the decisions, and who “wins”/gets their way
Power bases often influence power outcomes
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reflects the extent to which one spouse loves and needs the other
unequal power in the beginning can eventually calibrate to a good balance |
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the major areas of activity are influenced and controlled by one spouse
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shared authority and decision-making. Both spouses have equal decision-making power
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couples divide authority, each partner is responsible for a particular area of decision-making |
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Do parents have total power over their children? |
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Traditionally and by law, parents have the power in the relationship
Children do enact power though
screaming in public to get what they want
manipulating parents with "i love you"
outright refusal to follow orders |
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Children can form an alliance with a parent, in order to influence other parent
Blended fams are especially vulnerable to these situations
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shows that the other person matters
the person doing the confirming is exerting the power
sometimes it is as easy as listening quietly and supportively
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shows that the other person doesn’t matter
ex: silent treatment; silent person has the power
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directly tied to punishment and used for control; use rejection as an attempt to gain power. Ex: kid tells parents “I hate you”
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Talking about yourself, revealing information, leads to the other person having the power
Use self-disclosure to control the flow of info.
Info is power: we can use info that someone has disclosed against them later
Wives tend to disclose more about their feelings than their husbands do.
In our society, the disclosure of highly intimate feelings is governed by the norm of reciprocity.
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One person is sending one-up messages of superiority.
isolated instance
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overall behavior of domineering
personality trait (vs isolated incident) |
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refers to a relationship. One-up followed by one-down (ex: “I’m the mom” “yes ma’am”)
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