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Roles: guidelines for behavior |
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Recurring patterns of behavior developed through interaction that family members use to fulfill family functions
Patterns and pre-existing ideas that come from family of origin that have developed over generations
Fulfill family functions
Everybody has a job that helps the family move forward
Involve expectations for behavior
put laundry away, bring dishes to table, etc
Role expectations come about through shared meanings parents have shared meanings first, then teach them to their kids
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we develop role guidelines through interactions (shared meanings)
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First family function: gender socialization
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Roles are related to gender
Gender is most impacted by family of origin
Gender is a scale (very feminine to very masculine)
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Second family function: nurturing and support
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Comm. is the primary way parents communicate caring, love, values, and a sense of community to their children.
Through advice, directives, and answers to questions, children learn both what their parents and society expect of them.
It is important for children of both sexes to see the father sharing parental responsibility
Not only do we provide nurturing of children, we provide support and empathy
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Third family function: individual development
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When we teach our children to be self-sufficient, well-functioning members of society
When we don’t do this properly, children become super dependent and enmeshed
Part of this process is encouraging individual choice
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Fourth family function: maintenance and management
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Relates to multigenerational maintenance (keeping in touch with grandparents, etc)
Internal/external boundaries are part of maintenance
Also, decision making (on part of parents) and all daily tasks
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Fifth family function: to provide basic resources
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Traditional gender roles for parents still very relevant
Although careers are great, sometimes you have to take jobs for which you are overqualified in order to support your family
You do what you have to do for your family
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dual-earner vs. dual-career couples |
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Dual-career couples: both partners have careers
Dual earner couples: one has a career, one just has a job
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how we learn, act, and give up our family role (when the time comes) |
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come from society, media, religion, significant others (ppl who are important to us, role models who can provide us w/ guidance for playing our role)
Also learn role expectations through complementary others: opposite or reciprocal positions to us (me=wife, my complementary other is hubby)
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people who are important to us
provide us with models from which we develop role expectations |
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those who fulfill reciprocal role functions that directly impact on your role.
to determine our own role, we compare ourselves to our complementary others
"what are you doing, and what does it say about what I should be doing?" |
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T/F: our roles (and their expectations) change over time |
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True: Role expectations change over time, and involve conflict
As we go through life, we negotiate our role (children AND parents) |
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Research fact: couples who take time to debrief and share their work experiences greatly increase their relationship satisfaction.
It is as simple as asking, “how was your day?”
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