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| Mechanism of Mary Main's AAI Task |
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| "suprise the unconscious"--trigger implicit memories |
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| to produce and reflect upon attachment memories while sumultaneously maintaining a coherent discourse with the interview |
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-coherent & collaborative narrative
-narrator doesn't get lost
-collaborative="i didn't know at the time, but"
-includes "earned secure" |
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-minimize any attachment related experience
-internally inconsistent narratives
-lack supportive evidence for positive descriptions "mom was great...just cause" |
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-unable to maintain focus
-memories take over interview
-reporter oscillates between positive and negative in same sentence |
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| Unresolved/Disorganized Adult |
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-substantial lapses when discussing trauma
-present day dissociation-lose track of what interview is about |
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| Attachment into Marriage (percentages) |
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-78% stay the same
-96% of secure stay secure
-most that changed become MORE secure |
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| Attachment into Parenthood |
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-83% stayed the same
-no overall patterns towards greater security/insecurity
-greater security if great spousal support
-great spousal support helps postpartum depression |
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| enough to stop intergenerational transition of insecure attachment styles |
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| collectivistic vs. individualistic |
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-collectivistic: value INTERdependence (good of group)
more commonly easterners, latinos & asians, women, lower income
-individualistic: value INdependence (chose significant other for personal reasons, very western, you'll be more satisfied if you choose for yourself) |
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| -qualities we consider determine if we are "in love", and also if these 12 are jeapordized, it makes or breaks relationship |
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| get our ideal about romantic love from early relationships with caregivers (sounds like bowlby), we gain expectations |
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| 5:1 positive to negative statement predict high marital satisfaction |
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| Characteristics of Masters of Marriage |
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-report same complaints about each other 30 years into marriage as in beginning
-stopped asking partner to be someone they're not
-learn to handle complaint without contempt for partner
-this is proven subjectively & with inter-rater reliability |
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| Regulated: Validating Couple |
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-few if any negative comments
-empathetic & supportive
-address conflict in empathetic, direct manner
-happy but NOT necessarily passionate
-fight to solve things & be close |
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| Regulated: Volatile Couple |
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-charged with intense emotion, passion
-makeup sex
-heated battles spill over to family life
-don't give into each other's opinions
-still have great feeling of being connected & intimate
-conflict does NOT reflect unhappiness |
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| Regulated: Conflict Minimizing Couple |
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-ignore/avoid conflict
-live with unresolved conflict but does NOT interrupt relationship
-day to day things AND big things
-still use positive, rather than negative language |
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| -lower positive: negative ratio (frame relationship in terms of whats wrong) |
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| Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse (Gottman) |
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-presence of any ONE of these predict divorce
1) criticism
2) defensiveness
3) contempt
4) stonewalling |
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-with harsh start up
-blaming style
-comments meant to hurt, usually do
-more common for WOMEN than MEN |
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-failure to accept influence
-males more defensive
-often related to "harsh start up" |
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-disrespect (verbal or nonverbal)
-name-calling, eyerolling
-loathing (not just idea, VISCERAL) |
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-turning up volume louder
-refuse to talk, engage
-related to: increased HR, shortness of breath, need to physically withdraw to calm down, a refusal to re-engage |
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-entering adulthood & exiting family of origin
-separate, but maintain connection
-european/NA definition of mental health
-"geographic cure" considered rare, unhealthy, non-optimal
-expectations of self, rather than imposed by family |
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-the union of 2 WHOLE family systems
-men bring less expectations to union
-women report more enthusiasm
-differences (SES,ethnicity,religion) bring challenges |
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-changing male-female equality has created more fragile, intense marital relationships
-more adults remain single longer
-average US marriage is just over 9 years
-still marrying society, divorce rates slowing
-religion influences marriage in some cultures |
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-dramatic increase in percentage
-the "never married" tripled between 1970-2005
-many myths/sterotypes
-advantages: time to make life decisions, compile resources, self-improvement
-difficulties: forming intimate relationships with other adults, loneliness, finding "niche" in marriage oriented society
-8% of adult american's never married |
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| Cohabitating Adults Statistics |
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-increased from 11% in 1970 to 60% in 2005
-huge in europe, 60% in switz, 100% in sweden
-SHORT lived in US (1/3 last under a year)
-less than 1 in 10 lasts 5 years |
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-women report less problems with BP, high cholesterol, BMI, anxiety, anger
-protects against risks associated with lack of social support/isolation (depression, anxiety) |
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| Correlation between Marriage Length & Divorce Rate |
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-the longer you're married, the lower the divorce rate
-typically wait ~6 years to divorce
-big peak of divorce between 6-10 years
-serious decline after 10 years |
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-main reason to stay together: kids (even if not fighting all those years!)
-for women: verbal, physical, emotional abuse, alcohol/drug use, cheating (when partner is cheating)
-men: "fell out of love," cheating, different values/lifestyle |
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-pose risks for psychological & physical difficulties
-spike in increase in psychiatric disorders & hospital admissions
-clinical depression/alcoholism
-psychosomatic disorders
-problems with custody |
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| put divorce into perspective that makes you think, "that divorce was good for me, im better now" |
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| seek the "new normal", aren't looking for new trajectory, are looking for comfort and familiarity in new normal |
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| look for something deeper, more meaningful (eat, pray, love) |
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| people who think "now i don't have rules, more fun" |
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| people who decide against partnering again because they feel more competent when not in relationship |
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| remain depressed and anxious |
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