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Dark Side of Communication |
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Lying/Deception
Conflict
Jealousy
Intentionally Hurtful Messages
Embarrassment
Loneliness
Co-Dependency
Stalking/Obsession |
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Messages that are sent with the intention of instilling a false belief or conclusion |
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Interpersonal Deception Theory |
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Explains the strategic choices made when engaging in deceptive communication
Falsification- outright lie
Concealment- partial truth/leave out details
Equivocation- being strategically vague |
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Five Fundamental Dimensions of Deception |
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Completeness: the amount of info shared. Keep specific details to a minimum
Relevance/Directness: messages that are logical in flow and sequence are pertinent to the conversation
Clarity: Message is clear, comprehensible, and concise. Clear to ambiguous.
Personalization: extent to which a deceiver taes ownership of a message
Veridicality: extent to which the deceiver believes the message is truthful and the extent to which the receiver believes the message is truthful. |
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"A protective reaction to a perceived threat to a valued relationship, arising from a situation in which the partner's involvement with an activity and/or another person is contrary to the jealous person's definition of the relationship" |
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Friend
Family
Romantic
Power
Intimacy
Activity |
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Reward (if i do this maybe you will reward me)
Coercive (i have to do this or you will make me do something else)
Legitimate (mommy is boss)
Referent (ill help you because i respect you)
Expert (ill listen to you because you know what your talking about) |
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To harm others
To protect yourself
To spare others (most common) |
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Obsessive Relational Intrusion |
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Occurs out of a desire to initiate a relationship
Stalking often occurs with a goal of harming someone |
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Reasons for ending a friendship |
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Less affection (Biggest reason for best friends)
Friend or self changed
No longer participate in activities together
Increase in distance (Biggest reason for casual friends) |
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Direct/Indirect Friendship Terminating Methods |
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Indirect: Hinting your intentions my gradually letting go
Direct: Telling your friend honestly how you feel |
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*Reasons for Terminating Romantic Relationships* |
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Infidelity (Physical, Sexual, Emotional) *Men upset by physical, women by emotional
Lack of Commitment (not spending time together,, prioritizing relationship)
Dissimilarity (more similar couples more likely to stay together)
Outside Pressures (external pressures from family, friends, jobs)
*Self Determination Theory: we want to feel free to choose our path in relationships |
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Fundamental Attribution Error |
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Tend to attribute our own behavior to external causes and others' behavior to internal causes.
Can lead to relationship dissatifaction if:
Behavior is viewed negatively, it occurs frequently, and it is important enough for a partner to recall it as being dissatisfying
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Duck's Four Phase Model of Decision Making |
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Intrapsychic Phase: contemplate whether relationship is worth saving
Dyadic Phase: Announce that you're considering ending the relationship
Social Phase: focus on others outside the relationship (what will we tell our friends?), negotiate shared relationships
Grave Dressing: Promote a positive image of your role in your version of the relationship. Ceremonial. Give away items. |
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Knapp's Stages of Relationship Dissolution |
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Differentiating (partners focus on differences)
Circumscribing (choose safe topics that won't lead to arguments)
Stagnating (going throught the motions)
Avoiding (Fill schedules to avoid one another)
Terminating (End!) |
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Negative Identity Management Tactic |
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Used to hurry the termination. Little consideration for the rejected partner.
e.g. starting a fight to give a reason for ending the relationship |
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Coping With Relationship Dissolution |
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Recognize that it is a process (takes time to work through the range of emotions)
Rely on your support network (discuss with friends/family. Stay busy)
Talk with a professional
*Closure and Forgiveness |
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Impact of diversity on Interpersonal Relationships |
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Understanding The Self: insight about our own cultural background and identity development
Technological Transformations: mass media and technology will bring the world closer
Influence of Demographic Transitions: nearly 90% of immigrants come from latin america and asian nations. Increase in interracial/interdenominational marriages. Shift from white male employee dominance in workplace |
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Concepts of Communication Competence |
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Knowledge: Uncertainty Reduction Theory (passive: observations, active: 3rd party interactions, interactive strategies: direct interactions)
Understanding: influence of elements such as race, ethnicity, language difference and beliefs on relationships
Acceptance: awareness of feelings and emotions involved in diverse approaches to relationships
Skills: Effective listening, assertiveness, responsiveness, nonverbal sensitivity, language comprehension, conflict management |
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The unique qualities or characteristics that distinguish individuals and groups from one another
*age, education, ethnicity, gender, race, sexual orientation, social class |
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Shared perceptions which shape the communication patterns and expectations of a group of people |
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The tendency to believe ones ethnic or cultural group is centrally important. Typically judge other groups to be inferior. "judging other groups from our own cultural point of view" |
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The process of inheriting norms, cutsoms, and ideaologies. Learning one's culture and how to live within it. |
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Co-Cultural Classifications |
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Ethnicity (common heritage, or background, shared by a group of people ie irish-american)
Race (genetically inherited biological characteristics ie skin color)
Regional Differences (differing speech patterns, attitudes, and values based on geographic location ie speech rate)
Social Class (based on educational, occupational, or financial background. Homophily: we choose to be with those who are similar to us) |
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Characteristics of Culture |
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Culture is:
Learned: explicit learning (actual instructions), implicit learning (via observation)
Dynamic: cultures are not static, impacted by approach to uncertainty
Pervasive: can't escape it's influence (clothing, food, language etc) |
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Personal Orientation System |
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Predispositions which serve as a guide for thoughts and behaviors
needs, values, beliefs, and attitudes. |
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Individuals experience feelings of discomfort or desire which motivates us to overcome the feelings and restore stability.
Maslow
Relationship b/t needs and interpersonal communication. Primary need of interaction. |
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Personal convictions regarding the truth or existence of things. |
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Serve as a guide for our behaviors
Personal philosophy can be explicitly or implicity expressed
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Learned tendencies to respond favorably or unfavoraby toward a given object of orientation
Stereotyping
Prejudice |
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Individualism: focus on individual accomplishments (US)
Collectivism: primary value for the group (Japan) |
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Low: Individuals viewed as equal within the culture
High: Tall hierarchy structure of power |
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Masculine: Assertiveness, ambition, achievement
Feminine: nuturance, cooperation, equal gender roles |
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High: avoid or resist change
Low: embrace or initiate change |
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Types of Family Relationships |
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Marital
Parent-Child
Sibling |
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How relationship is defined by the roles each partner plays |
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The level of similarity between affective or emotional expectations |
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Traditionals: high interdependence and sharing *most satisfied
Independents: respect for autonomy, high level of communication and sharing
Separates: emphasize individual identity over relationship maintenance, avoid conflict. |
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Period when children begin the separation process from their parents |
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Attempts to create an identity that is distinct from that of one's siblings |
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Family Communication Theories |
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Systems Theory (family is a system and each element is relevant in explaining how family members relate)
Family Communication Patterns Theory (focuses on the cognitive processes used to guide our interpersonal interactions)
Symbolic Interaction Theory (five concepts of symbolic interactionsim help to understand the impact that family interactions have on shaping one's identity) |
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Family Communication Patterns Theory |
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Consensual: high conformity, high conversation
Pluralistic: low conformity, high conversation
Protective: high conformity, low conversation
Laissez Faire: low conformity, low conversation
*Conformity: degree to which a family encourages autonomy in individual beliefs, values, and attitudes
*Conversation: level of openness and the frequency with which a variety of topics are discussed |
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Consequences of Family Relationships |
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Confirmation: we treat family members in a way that is consistent with how they see themselves
Rejection: we treat family members in a way that is different than how they see themselves
Disconfirmation: occurs when family members fail to offer any type of response |
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Social roles of identities that people adopt in the hopes of gaining respect. |
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A roadmap for how to live a life and how to respond to the constantly changing landscapes in which we exist. Guides our personal, relational, and community identities.
The moral order captures the assumptions that drive the lifescript. |
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A socially constructed set of understandings we carry iwth us from situation to situation. Patterned set of personal actions that guides our sense of right and wrong. |
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Appropriate Self-Disclosure |
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Seems to be a natural tension between the desire for privacy vs the need for openness.
Boundary Management: involves decisions at any moment about what should be private and what should be known.
A question of what feels safe.
Equal disclosure.
As trust increases so can disclosures.
Save the most personal stuff for intimate relationships |
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Skills for Positive Facework |
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LARC
Effective Listening: an ongoing process of attempting to understand what is said. Delay judgement (allow for clarification). Whole meaning. Ask questions to clarify.
Acknowledging: acknowledge that we are sculpting meaning, or creating some level of shared understanding. Telling the speaker what you heard them say, make sure you interpreted correctly.
Responding: time for your own comments, statements, perspectives, advice. A threatening response can destroy a convo/relationship
Commiting: Bring some closure. Acknowledge the accoplishments and contributions that have occured. What will happen next? |
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Gender differences in jealousy |
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No significant differences between males and females.
Males: jealous over sexual infidelity Females: jealous over emotional infidelity |
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When you identify with other peoples emotions
Someone is embarrassed you feel for them |
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