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| hurtful actions inflicted by one partner onto the other |
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| protective reaction to a percieved threat to a valued relationship |
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| dysfunctional relationship beliefs |
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harmful illusions of what constitutes a "perfect" relationship
-all disagreement is destructive
-mind reading is mandatory
-partners can't change
-every sexual encounter will be perfect |
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| strategy of resolution by withdraw from relationship, cut back time spent with partner, and avoid discussion of problems; "passive destructive approach" |
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| strategy of resolution by thinking about, threatening to, or leaving the relationship altogether; "active destructive approach" |
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| strategy of resolution by avoiding discussion of the problem and wait for things to get better; "passive constructive approach" |
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| strategy of resolution by talking directly about a problem without attacking, blaming, or accusing; "active constructive approach" |
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| romantic partners efforts to keep their relationships in a desired state or condition |
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| state of deterioration of relationship when final encounter to create closure; discussion of your past, present, and a future as a couple; end relationship |
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| begin distancing yourself physically from your partner |
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| state in deterioration of relationship when no safe topics remain, communicatin slows to a standstill |
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| state in deterioration of relationship when ignore your partner and spend less time talking; seek "safe zones" of topics for discussion |
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| facts you and the other person consider relatively unimportant but enable you to introduce yourself in a safe and controlled fashion |
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| stage in building a relationship when the two of you exchange demographic info |
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| state of building a relationship when the two of you perform a public ritual that announces that you and your partner have made a commitment to each other |
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| first stage in deterioration of relationship then the beliefs, attitudes,and values that distinguished you from your partner come to dominate your thoughts and commnunication |
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| first stage in building a relationship when you size up a person you just met; draw on all visible info to assess possible similarities and thereby determine whether you find him or her attractive |
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| stage in building a relationship when you and your partner's personalities seem to become one |
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| stage in building a relationship when verbal and nonverbal communication becomes increasingly intimate and your relationship deepens and the depth of personal disclosure increases |
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| birds of a feather effect |
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| theory that says we are attracted to those we percieve as similar to ourselves |
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| theory that says we tend not to form long-term relationships with people we judge as substantially different from ourselves in physical attractiveness |
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| theory that says people feel attracted to those they percieve as physically appealing |
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| theory that says you'll feel more attracted to those you come in contact with frequently, opposed to those you rarely come into contact with |
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| the balance of benefits and costs exchanged between two people in a relationship |
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| theory that proposes that you'll feel drawn to those you see as offering substantial benefits with few associated costs |
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| a choses interpersonal involvement forged through communication in which participants perceive the bond as romantic |
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| developed by John Alan Lee, a color wheel as an analogy to types of romantic love (agape, storge, mania, pragma, ludus, eros) |
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| type of love described as an intense form of liking defined by emotional investment and deeply intertwined lives |
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| type of love described as a state of intense emotional and physical longing for a union with another |
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| a vastly deeper and more intense emotional commitment than liking; 3 components: 1)intimacy 2)caring 3)attachment |
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| a feeling of affection and respect that we typically have for our friends |
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| realization that our partners do not love and respect us as much as we thought they did |
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