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| When it comes to trying to meet someone you could potentially date , what are the 6 stages you go through to meet someone ? |
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Definition
| Assess Qualifiers , Assess Availability , Find An Opener , Find An Integrative Topic , Present A "come-On" self, and schedule a 2nd encounter. |
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| What are examples and what does it mean to "Assess Qualifiers" ? What are the two components of Assesing Qualifiers ? |
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| It means for example, "hmm i like tall , athletic guys who drive nice cars." Things that pretty much automatically make them "qualified" for the position in your eyes, but not neccessarily guaranteed the position yet. Assesing Qualifiers is broken down into Extraordinary and Esoteric. |
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| When it comes to "assesing Qualifiers" , give examples of Extraordinary qualifiers and Esoteric qualifiers ? |
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| Extraordinary qualifiers are things such as height , popularity, nice car, star ball player. Esoteric qualifiers are special things that are distinguished that not most ppl know about & it limits who you will actually talk to. Show your "esoteric qualities" . An example of one would be like a certain sub-language that not many ppl know about. |
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| What does it mean to "Assess Availability" ? |
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| Like hmm does he have a wedding ring on ? Is his arm around that girl over there like they're dating or something ? Ughh he's around his friends, so I'm not gonna go up to him . Basically, if you want to meet a guy , don't be evrywhere with your friends, because it's hard for ppl to come up to you if you're always with your friends. Basically make yourself available, and make it noticeable that you're available in terms of approaching( not being surrounded by your friends 24/7 ) , and in terms of relational status display ( not having a ring on your ring finger, and arms around a girl. ) |
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| What does it mean to "Find An Opener" ? And what are the three types of openers ? |
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| Finding An Opener means to find an opening line to kick-off the start of a conversation. The three types of openers are : Innocus, Flippant, and Direct Approach . |
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| Give examples of the three different types of openers : innocus, flippant, and direct approach ? |
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Innocus would be like "can you pass me that drink "? ( basically using something simple that seems to be normal to kick off a conversation.
Flippant would be like those whack, funny pick up lines. For example, you must be jamaican huh ? Because ja-makin me craaazy lol.
Direct Approach would be like "Hello, want to meet up tonight " ? It's just direct and straight to the point. |
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| In terms of meeting someone , what does it mean to "Find An Integrative Topic" ? |
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| Basically finding something to discuss that may be similar between the two of you so that the conversation won't die. Like , when Tevin and I discussed Dr.Moore , because he's a professor we had in common. |
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| In terms of meeting someone , what does it mean to "Present A Come-On self" ? |
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| Basically just acting like you're an interesting person , so that the other person would want to get to know you.For example , having romantic backgound music playing in the background might cause the other person to be like "ooh this person may be interesting" . |
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| In terms of meeting someone, what does it mean to "Schedule a 2nd Encounter" ? |
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| Basically making sure that you get their phone number , email address, etc. , so that you can get in touch with them another time. |
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| What are the three types of Love ? |
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| Passionate, Companionate, and Commitment. |
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| In terms of Love , what is Passionate ? and what two parts is it broken up into and what do they mean ? |
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| Passionate love is love that makes you excited evrytime you see that person. the two parts of passionate love is altruism and and attractiveness. Altruism is like "aww i'll do anyhting for you " and Attractiveness is Good-looking. |
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| What is companionate love and and what are the two parts of it , and what do they mean ? |
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| Companionate love is basically like a BFF kind of love. Like the way I love my friends , and like grandparents type of love. The two parts of it are respect and congeniality. Like a friendly part of love basically . |
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| In terms of love , what is Commitment ? and what are the two parts to commitment and what do they mean ? |
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| Commitment is like "we're married, so we gotta take care of each other and look out for another. Like the ichelle & Barack Obama type of love . basically , like imma "ride for you" lol. The two parts of commitment are fidelity and responsibility. Like, You're my one and only and i'm resposible for making sure you good. We riding for each other. |
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| What three components are considered to be "The Triangular Theory of Love" ? |
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| Passionate, Companionate, and Commitment . |
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| What are the 5 components of Falling In Love ? |
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Definition
| Romanticism ,Love Experiences , Timing , Physical Attraction , and Partner Idealization. |
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| In terms of Falling in love , what is Romanticism ? |
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| Basically, like unrealistic beliefs about relationships. Boys tend to be more romanticism , but girls understand that you gotta keep working in a relationship. Girls have more access and exposure to "relationship advice" in places such as cosmo, seventeen magazine , etc. Girls always think about relationships all the time. Guys don't think about relationships that often. |
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| In terms of Falling In Love , what does Love Experiences mean ? |
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| Basically, girls have been in love more than guys;Girls love more deeply , but guys fall in love quicker. Guys can fall in love quickly without worrying about the consequences, and en usually say I love you first . |
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| In terms of Falling in love , what does Physical Attraction mean ? |
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| Basically , boys judge girls by physical appearance more than girls do. & for a one-time hook up , girls truly care about physical attraction , but for a long-term relationship, they don't care as much. |
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| In terms of Falling in love, what does Partner Idealization mean ? |
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| Basically , women idealize their partners more . For example" I want the ideal boyfriend and relationship " . Long distance relationships have a lot of idealization since they don't see each other often. Yall are away from one another, so you don't have to always deal with the "reality" of them , so you can idealize them in your head much more. |
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| What are the 5 components of SEX ? |
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| Sex and Communication , Sex and Romance , Sex and Life span , Gender differences and sex, & people have regrets about sex . |
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| In terms of Sex, what does Sex and Communication mean ? |
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| Communication about sex is important . Tell them all of your likes and dislikes about sex. It leads to better sexual relationships, and better overall relationship satisfaction. Learn how to communicate during sex. |
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| In terms of Sex, what does Sex and Romance mean ? |
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| Basically, when you feel in love, you have better sex. When feelings of love are involved, women tend to have better sexual intimacy and a desire for frequent sex with that one person they're in love with. Monogamy is very important. When you know you're the only one, you feel more comfortable having sex with them .Basically, the happier the relationship is , the happier the sex is. |
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| In terms of Sex , what does Sex and Life-Span mean ? |
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| As you get older , your frequency of having sex decreases , many older people have little to no sex ,No decrease in satisfaction with sex, parents be too tired to have sex after dealing with children all day , but they still don't resent having kids. |
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| In terms of sex, what does Gender differences and sex mean ? |
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| Women prefer to have sex with someone they're ina relationship with , they want to truly know the person they're having sex with. Women see sex in terms of romance; women's sexual activity is more variable when they're having sex with someone they're in a relationship with, than they are with someone they're not in a relationship with. Men tend to see more sexuality in everyday behavior than females do. For example, men while watch a woman drinking , and they'll began to think about it in a sexual way. Men are more interestd in sexual fantasies, and have more frequent feelings of sexual desires. Men want ore partners, and are willing to engage in sex sooner. Men have more permissive attitudes about bsex , and see sex as more recreational. Gay ppl seem more satisfied than straight ppl ; think about it, a woman already knows what pleases another woman. |
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| In terms of sex, what does it mean that " People have regrets about sex" ? |
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| Sex may be inconsistent with their morals, it couldve been an alcohol influenced decision , realized they dint want the same thing as the partner ( taken advantage of , used) , failed to use a condom , felt pressured by partner, and did'nt wait til marriage. |
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| In terms of Facebook rules, what does Channels mean ? |
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| Basically , like don't put something personal and/or confidential on someone's wall. Be able to distinguish what to send in a message, and what is okay to post for everyone to see. |
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| In terms of Facebook rules, what does Deception and Control mean ? |
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| Basically, don't lie about yourself, and try to "embellish" yourself on facebook. Pretty much , don't be trying to make yourself seem like something you're not by lying about yourself. |
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| In terms of Facebook rules, what does " Relational Maintenance " mean ? |
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| Basically, don't be always posting when you're single, yall relationship problems, and evry little thing that's going on in you guys' relationship. |
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| In terms of Facebook rules, what does "Self Consequences" mean ? |
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| Basically, be aware that if you post a pic showing how you were drunk ( when you were supposed to be at work and called off lol) , your boss ends up firing you for lying, because he/she saw your facebook post. |
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| In terms of Facebook rules, what does "Friend Consequences " mean ? |
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| Basically , if you post a pic of your friends doing something bad and tag them in it, then their boss sees it , so your friends get fired. |
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| In terms of Facebook rules, what does "Block? Defriend?" mean ? |
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| Basically, we'remore likely to block someone than we are to defriend them , and you also have to watch what you say , because others can ake it very personal and end up blocking/defriending you. |
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| In terms of Facebook rules, what does "Anger on Facebook" mean ? |
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Definition
| Basically, just being very rude and negative all the time. |
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| In terms of Facebook rules, what does discrepancies mean ? |
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Definition
| Basically acting like one thing, then posting another. For example, you just said the party was boring, but then you post "omgeee having the freaking time of my life" lol ! |
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| In terms of Facebook and Dating, how can Facebook help us to develop our relationships ? |
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Definition
| Because, you can post pics, wall posts, statuses , etc. through the different channels on Facebooks to make your partner "happy" . |
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| In terms of Facebook and Dating, what does it mean to "Overanalyze" ? |
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Definition
| For example " Oh, so why you like that girl picture ? You must still want her, and you probaly talking to her behind my back. . And we also tend to overanalyze our own relationships based on what our partners do on facebook. Like oh, I posted a status about you , why didn't you like it ? Maybe this relationship isn't what I thought it was anymore. |
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| In terms of Facebook and Dating, what does "Surveillance" mean ? |
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| It's like you're "watching" your significant other over facebook , and it allows you to keep tabs on them. |
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| In terms of Facebook and Dating, what does Public mean ? |
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| Quit making your relationship public ! It's pretty much what those annoying couples do ..they are always putting all their emotions, and relationship business out on facebook for everyone to see. |
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