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Deep Breathing
This really works - That's why everybody recommends it.
Take a few deep breaths and relax as the breaths help to oxidize your blood and vitalize you. Those extra few moments between breaths may be the time when you would previously fired up and said or did something regrettable. A few deep breaths goes a long way to controlling your anger. |
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Consider Your Image
The pride of your image can be a determining factor in helping you control your temper. Anger fueled aggression is perceived as a loss of self control and therefor a weakness by others - Is that the way you want to be portrayed? |
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Talk
Have a confidant with whom you can confide in a talk about the issues that make you angry. Having someone who will not judge you, but will listen and help you find a resolution is a great asset. Some anger management tips revolve around simplistic solutions, but just because talking seems trivial - Don't let it take away the powerful resolve that confiding in someone can bring.
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Walk, Jog, Run
Get moving a little (or a lot). Walking away from a dispute is far better than continuing - If it would have resulted in you losing control of your anger.
On the topic of walking - Exercise is a fantastic way to relieve tension and reduce stress.
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Consider Others Views
Ignorance and aggression can go hand in hand, especially when you have no respect for the views of others.
Your self righteous perception may not be right, so be mindful of the feelings of others and their particular take on certain things. By having a deeper understanding of way others around us perceive things we can interact better and avoid arrogance based conflict. |
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Meditate
Millions of calm, mellow practitioners can't be wrong. Find a relaxing, quiet place and meditate on a regular basis. This can reduce the build up of stress which can cause emotional anger triggers. Many people investigating how to relax themselves and how to calm down find meditation extremely useful.
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Laugh
When someone cuts you off in traffic, you can do one of two things; get angry or joke at the expenses of their incompetence.
Learning to laugh in these situations is the best thing you can do. Laughter can help to diffuse an otherwise tense situation. |
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Discipline
Why is it that most people can manage a mild public persona and yet at home the temper control goes out the window? - It's because we can simply get away with it.
We grow up and become adults only to lose discipline as we overindulge in alcohol, food and other vices. Often we only answer to ourselves and if you lack the discipline to control your urges - How can you control your temper?
Discipline is a necessity, for more than just anger management. Disciplined people gather far more successes than those who lack self control.
Of all the anger management tips you can receive, discipline is the most important factor in controlling your anger and preventing temper induced reactions.
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Avoid Multiple Distractions
On a good day the music is soothing, the kids are singing and the birds are chirping while the traffic flows.
On a bad day the music is pounding, the kids are screaming, the birds are screeching and the noise of traffic is driving you mad.
So what do you do?
Eliminate the distractions - Turn of the radio, get the kids a lollipop and find a place to park while you get a cold drink. Understand that distractions agitate you and have a solution based attitude. Do not let the little annoyances build up - Be proactive and take control. |
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Understand Your Triggers
You can't control your environment completely, but you can control yourself. Learn what makes your anger trigger and either avoid those impending situations or better yet find the solution to deal with the problem these things pose you.
Knowing yourself clearly is a major factor in controlling your anger.
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Drop It
Do not persist with pointless arguing and immature squabbling. You must learn to drop it. People who know when to stop live far happier lives than those who live to chase arguments. Once you realize that you only serve to stress yourself, you may realize that backing off more frequently will give you unending calm.
It's not about giving up assertion - It's about knowing when something is a lost cause.
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Nobody's Perfect
Not me, not you and not others.
The next time you're in traffic and someone cuts you off, remember that they are only human and you may well make the same mistake.
One thing to think about and I hope out of all the anger management tips, this stays with you - What if your mother, sister or daughter accidentally made a mistake in traffic? Would you like someone chasing them down and abusing them?
Next time you feel the urge to get angry over a minor traffic incident, remember that if you want a civilization you have to be prepared to be civil.
We all make mistakes - Drop the arrogance and hypocrisy, for you and your family. |
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Consequences
Some of the worst atrocities ever perpetrated were spawned from anger. Where will the consequences of your anger take you and do you want to be associated with villainy?
Knowing the consequent pain our anger may cause loved ones can be a powerfully motivating factor in exercising self control. |
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20 Minutes
Think about this next time something trivial makes you want to fire up - How will you feel in 20 minutes?
In 20 minutes time everything has a different perspective and little minor occurrences have far less an impact. Learning to think about this perspective can give renewed focus to your state of mind and help you to value situations with relative perception. In 20 minutes time will you be proud of your resolve or ashamed of your ill temper?
This is one of the most revered anger management tips around, because of the way it can change your perspective in a given situation |
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Forgive
Forgive so that you in turn might be forgiven. The world relies on the principle of forgiveness, so if you want to show social aptitude and ascend to a greater level of personal control, you must learn to accept the faults of others.
Forgiveness is hard for many people to act upon, especially in the case of anger management for men. Men are often not shown the forgiveness in society for their weaknesses and in turn show less forgiveness. It's a vicious cycle and one that needs to be broken so that healing can resume.
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Listen To Music
This double edged sword can both soothe and antagonize in certain situations. Sometimes though, music can elevate the mood and increase happiness - So play your favorite songs next time you are down, but avoid ones you dislike for obvious reasons.
This is one of the foundation methods for adolescent anger management as we can all get teens to listen to music, so it's best to find music that has a calming effect for them |
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Massage/Bathe/Relax
Relaxation methods are great at instilling calm and what could be more enjoyable than a massage or a hot bath?
Has anyone ever felt angry during a hot bath?
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Stay Away From Anger Enhancers
Alcohol and drugs can fuel temper, so if this is a problem for you - You must do the right thing. If you have an anger problem and you take drugs or drink alcohol to the point where it exacerbates your anger then you must stop. |
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Think Of Your Health
Constant bouts of anger are terrible for your well being. Anger can play havoc with you blood pressure leading to many physical problems, so calm down for the sake of your health.
Anger management tips are important to awaken you to the many ways to deal with temper problems and also to highlight the dangers that excessive anger can produce.
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In Conclusion
One of the greatest things you will ever achieve is learning anger management coping skills if you have a temper problem. These anger management tips are designed to help you understand the results of you your anger and give you some insights into dealing with your temper problem.
If you feel that you have a serious issues then you should absolutely seek personal help from a professional that can deal with your specific situation. |
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