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313 Family Communication
Class #5: Relational maintenance within families
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Communication
Undergraduate 3
10/15/2016

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RELATIONAL MAINTENANCE
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RELATIONAL MAINTENANCE:
Definition
  • Routine behaviours of life that carry us through each day, usually in a patterned and often unreflective way.  
  • We maintain our families through everydau interactions, but sometimes stop and focus on a specific relational tie responding to situations and issues.
  • Huge area where relationships continue to exist between the point of their initial development and their possible decline.
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Name the 4 MEANS OF KEEPING A RELATIONSHIP
Definition
  1. In existance
  2. In a state of connectedness
  3. In satisfactory condition
  4. In repair
  • To maintain the quality of relationship one must maintain the quality of communication. 
  • There is a lot of grey are, things that work for some, don't work for others.

 

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Name and explain the 5 MAITENANCE STRATEGIES FOR COUPLES
Definition
  1. POSITIVITY: Be polite, cheerful, avoid criticism.
  2. OPENNESS:Discuss the relationship & use self-disclosure.
  3. ASSURANCES: Give partner confidence about the relationship; expressions of love and support.
  4. SOCIAL NETWORKS: Family and friends have to be part of the picture 
  5. SHARING TASKS: Do your fair share of the work; domestic chores can be very sensitive and damming. (Txt UNDERSTANDING)

 

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Talk about PARENT AND CHILD RELATIONAL MAINTENANCE  (2)
Definition
  • When the child is very young it starts as vertical communication.
  • As a child develops there is a shift from vertical to horizontal communication styles, and the responsibility for communication becomes more shared.

 

 

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Talk about SIBLING RELATIONAL MAINTENANCE (5)
Definition
  • Typically represents the longest relationships a person has.
  • Initially involuntarily linked, but most report having a commitment to this relationship beyond obligatory ties.
  • Sibling liking is predicted by use of positivity and network.
  • Girls engage in a higher level of maintenance behaviours.
  • Blended family siblings add a lot of complications, and take about a year to positively adapt to.

 

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Name reasons why a person STAYS IN A STAGNANT/NEGATIVE RELATIONSHIP (6)
Definition
  • Money
  • Legal complications
  • Social barriers
  • Network of people who would be negatively affected
  • Shared friends
  • Family pressures
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RELATIONAL MAINTENANCE STRATEGIES
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Name the 4 RELATIONAL MAINTENANCE STRATEGIES
Definition
  1. Confirmation
  2. Respect
  3. Rituals
  4. Relational Currency
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Talk about CONFIRMATION:
Definition

CONFIRMATION MESSAGES: Communicates recognition and acceptance of another human being.

 

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Explain SEIBURGS 4 CRITERIA FOR CONFIRMING MESSAGES
Definition
  1. Acknolwledge other person's existance.
  2. Affirm the other's communication by responding relevantly to it.
  3. Reflecting and accepting the other's self-experience.
  4. Suggesting a willingness to become involved with the other.
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Name and explain 3 METHODS OF CONFIRMATION
Definition
  1. RECOGNITION: Indicates a willingness to be involved with each other.
  2. DIALOGUE: Implies an interactive involvement between two or more persons.
  3. ACCEPTANCE: Occurs when we allow others to be themselves; understand the other's perspective even if we don't agree with it.
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Talk about RESPECT (4)
Definition
  • Respect involves acting in a way that demonstrates honouring and caring for another and his/her well-being.
  • Support the choices, actions, values even if you view them as unwise and/or problematic.
  • EQUALITY/MUTUALITY: Implies a horizontal relationship characterized by treating the other as a valued person.
  • CARING/SUPPORTIVENESS: Engaging in behaviours that are reciprocally thoughtful and considerate.
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Talk about FAMILY RITUALS (5)
Definition
  • A symbolic form of communication that, owing to the satisfaction that family members experience through its repetition, is acted out in a systematic fashion over time. 
  • Contain a variety of meanings and messages in patterned and emotionally powerful forms.
  • Rituals connect family members in meaningful ways.
  • Remind families who they are and how much they care about each other.
  • Helps members make sense of their lives.
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Name the 3 CATAGORIES OF FAMILY RITUALS
Definition
  1. Family celebrations
  2. Family traditions
  3. Patterned family interactions

 

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Talk about COUPLE RITUALS (7)
Definition
  1. COUPLE TIME: Enjoyable activities, togetherness rituals, escape episodes.
  2. IDIOSYNCRATIC/SYMBOLLIC: Private codes, play rituals, celebration rituals.
  3. DAILY ROUTINES/TASKS
  4. INTIMACY EXPRESSIONS: Physical, symbols, verbal exchanges. 
  5. COMMUNICATION
  6. PATTERNS/HABITS/MANNERISM
  7. SPIRITUAL
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Talk about INTERGENERATIONSAL RITUALS (3)
Definition
  • Rituals that serve as a way to bond family members of all ages across generations providing a sense of family identity and linkage.
  • As families and societies change, rituals are dropped, altered since people are inventing new families to live by as well as with.
  • Rituals can reflect societal change.
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Talk about RITUALS AND BLENDED FAMILIES (3)
Definition
  • The challenge is to embrace certain 'old' family rituals and combine them with 'new' family rituals.
  • Ritual practices help well-functioning blended families accept the historical roots of each family and create new ones.
  • When one parent has died:
  1. INTEGRATED: Create new rituals and honour old ones and deceased parent.
  2. DENIAL: Do not honour old rituals.
  3. SEGMENTED: Struggle with the precense-absence tension, often engaging in rituals that avoid direct acknowledgement of the deceased parent.
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Talk about NEGATIVE RITUALS (4)
Definition
  • Rituals that may have a negative impact on family members.
  • Family dinners/holidays may be destructive and painful.
  • Family weekly clean after a drunken father's rampage.
  • Incest becomes ritualized.
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Talk about RELATIONAL CURRENCIES (4)
Definition
  • Communication behaviours that carry meaning about the affection or caring dimensions of human relationships.
  • Many come from Family-of-Origin patterns because every family implicitly and explicitle teachers its members way to show and accept caring from others.
  • Some are more straight forward and some are more subtle, harder to interpret.
  • Accurate interpretation occurs only when both parties agree on the meaning of the act.
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Name some RELATIONAL CURRENCIES (12)
Definition
  1. Positive verbal statements
  2. Self-disclosure
  3. Listening
  4. Positive non-verbal affect displays
  5. Touch
  6. Sexuality
  7. Aggression 
  8. Gift
  9. Money
  10. Food
  11. Favours
  12. Service
  13. Staying in touch
  14. Time together
  15. Access rights
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Talk about MEANINGS AND CURRENCIES
Definition
  • If meanings are shared=>rewards are experienced
  • If meanings are missed=>Costs are experienced
  • Without common meanings members may feel taken for granted or rejected.
  • Exchanging relational currencies benefits all family members.  
  • Meanings of currency exchange change because a family system is continually evolving.
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