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- Routine behaviours of life that carry us through each day, usually in a patterned and often unreflective way.
- We maintain our families through everydau interactions, but sometimes stop and focus on a specific relational tie responding to situations and issues.
- Huge area where relationships continue to exist between the point of their initial development and their possible decline.
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Name the 4 MEANS OF KEEPING A RELATIONSHIP |
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- In existance
- In a state of connectedness
- In satisfactory condition
- In repair
- To maintain the quality of relationship one must maintain the quality of communication.
- There is a lot of grey are, things that work for some, don't work for others.
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Name and explain the 5 MAITENANCE STRATEGIES FOR COUPLES |
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- POSITIVITY: Be polite, cheerful, avoid criticism.
- OPENNESS:Discuss the relationship & use self-disclosure.
- ASSURANCES: Give partner confidence about the relationship; expressions of love and support.
- SOCIAL NETWORKS: Family and friends have to be part of the picture
- SHARING TASKS: Do your fair share of the work; domestic chores can be very sensitive and damming. (Txt UNDERSTANDING)
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Talk about PARENT AND CHILD RELATIONAL MAINTENANCE (2) |
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- When the child is very young it starts as vertical communication.
- As a child develops there is a shift from vertical to horizontal communication styles, and the responsibility for communication becomes more shared.
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Talk about SIBLING RELATIONAL MAINTENANCE (5) |
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- Typically represents the longest relationships a person has.
- Initially involuntarily linked, but most report having a commitment to this relationship beyond obligatory ties.
- Sibling liking is predicted by use of positivity and network.
- Girls engage in a higher level of maintenance behaviours.
- Blended family siblings add a lot of complications, and take about a year to positively adapt to.
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Name reasons why a person STAYS IN A STAGNANT/NEGATIVE RELATIONSHIP (6) |
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- Money
- Legal complications
- Social barriers
- Network of people who would be negatively affected
- Shared friends
- Family pressures
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RELATIONAL MAINTENANCE STRATEGIES |
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Name the 4 RELATIONAL MAINTENANCE STRATEGIES |
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- Confirmation
- Respect
- Rituals
- Relational Currency
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CONFIRMATION MESSAGES: Communicates recognition and acceptance of another human being.
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Explain SEIBURGS 4 CRITERIA FOR CONFIRMING MESSAGES |
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- Acknolwledge other person's existance.
- Affirm the other's communication by responding relevantly to it.
- Reflecting and accepting the other's self-experience.
- Suggesting a willingness to become involved with the other.
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Name and explain 3 METHODS OF CONFIRMATION |
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- RECOGNITION: Indicates a willingness to be involved with each other.
- DIALOGUE: Implies an interactive involvement between two or more persons.
- ACCEPTANCE: Occurs when we allow others to be themselves; understand the other's perspective even if we don't agree with it.
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- Respect involves acting in a way that demonstrates honouring and caring for another and his/her well-being.
- Support the choices, actions, values even if you view them as unwise and/or problematic.
- EQUALITY/MUTUALITY: Implies a horizontal relationship characterized by treating the other as a valued person.
- CARING/SUPPORTIVENESS: Engaging in behaviours that are reciprocally thoughtful and considerate.
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Talk about FAMILY RITUALS (5) |
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- A symbolic form of communication that, owing to the satisfaction that family members experience through its repetition, is acted out in a systematic fashion over time.
- Contain a variety of meanings and messages in patterned and emotionally powerful forms.
- Rituals connect family members in meaningful ways.
- Remind families who they are and how much they care about each other.
- Helps members make sense of their lives.
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Name the 3 CATAGORIES OF FAMILY RITUALS |
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- Family celebrations
- Family traditions
- Patterned family interactions
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Talk about COUPLE RITUALS (7) |
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- COUPLE TIME: Enjoyable activities, togetherness rituals, escape episodes.
- IDIOSYNCRATIC/SYMBOLLIC: Private codes, play rituals, celebration rituals.
- DAILY ROUTINES/TASKS
- INTIMACY EXPRESSIONS: Physical, symbols, verbal exchanges.
- COMMUNICATION
- PATTERNS/HABITS/MANNERISM
- SPIRITUAL
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Talk about INTERGENERATIONSAL RITUALS (3) |
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- Rituals that serve as a way to bond family members of all ages across generations providing a sense of family identity and linkage.
- As families and societies change, rituals are dropped, altered since people are inventing new families to live by as well as with.
- Rituals can reflect societal change.
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Talk about RITUALS AND BLENDED FAMILIES (3) |
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- The challenge is to embrace certain 'old' family rituals and combine them with 'new' family rituals.
- Ritual practices help well-functioning blended families accept the historical roots of each family and create new ones.
- When one parent has died:
- INTEGRATED: Create new rituals and honour old ones and deceased parent.
- DENIAL: Do not honour old rituals.
- SEGMENTED: Struggle with the precense-absence tension, often engaging in rituals that avoid direct acknowledgement of the deceased parent.
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Talk about NEGATIVE RITUALS (4) |
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- Rituals that may have a negative impact on family members.
- Family dinners/holidays may be destructive and painful.
- Family weekly clean after a drunken father's rampage.
- Incest becomes ritualized.
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Talk about RELATIONAL CURRENCIES (4) |
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- Communication behaviours that carry meaning about the affection or caring dimensions of human relationships.
- Many come from Family-of-Origin patterns because every family implicitly and explicitle teachers its members way to show and accept caring from others.
- Some are more straight forward and some are more subtle, harder to interpret.
- Accurate interpretation occurs only when both parties agree on the meaning of the act.
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Name some RELATIONAL CURRENCIES (12) |
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- Positive verbal statements
- Self-disclosure
- Listening
- Positive non-verbal affect displays
- Touch
- Sexuality
- Aggression
- Gift
- Money
- Food
- Favours
- Service
- Staying in touch
- Time together
- Access rights
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Talk about MEANINGS AND CURRENCIES |
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- If meanings are shared=>rewards are experienced
- If meanings are missed=>Costs are experienced
- Without common meanings members may feel taken for granted or rejected.
- Exchanging relational currencies benefits all family members.
- Meanings of currency exchange change because a family system is continually evolving.
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